Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Hey girlfriend!

love my darling girlfriends

Seriously, let's all take a minute out of our day and call a girlfriend and say "HEY! I LOVE YOU!" Female friendship is one of the most wonderful things in the entire world, and I've been lucky enough in my life to be surrounded by amazing girls throughout all 27 years I've been on this earth. From my Mom to my sister, my aunts, my grandmas, my childhood friends to my friends from high school, dance friends, soccer friends, college friends, sorority sisters, teacher friends, the list goes on. How lucky are we all to have even one lady in our life we can count on!

I'm a total girl's girl, and I value women so much. I have always thought it was so sad to hear my fellow ladies bash girls, doing the whole "I just don't get along with them" routine. In no way is it possible to like every woman on the planet, but we should at least try to support each other instead of cutting each other down from the get-go and playing that game. By nature humans are competitive, and I think many times girls see each other as competition and through a comparative eye, rather than seeing inspiration or alliance. I've written on this topic before, and my position has always been the same. Women need women in their lives to understand all the things that men just can't grasp. I feel such a sisterhood with my best girlfriends, and the amount of support I receive from them is paramount. Each girl in my life has such a different, unique role. Some of these friendships have been cultivated since I was very young, and others I have met along the way. I see some of my friends everyday, some a couple weekends out of the month, and others go years between visits. However, it feels like no time has passed when I am with these girls. As we grow up, it's just not possible to chat everyday on the phone, to spend hours hanging out each weekend, or even to get together once a month. But we make it work, each in our own way that defines that particular friendship. In healthy relationships, there is no resentment. There is simply love, and no matter how often I see or talk to these certain people, our love runs deep. I feel grateful. The older I get, the more I realize just how important it is to have real relationships in my life. Wouldn't you agree?

So, with that said, do you have a best girl in your life that means the world to you? I'd love to hear about it. One of my most favorite things about this blog is input from all of you fabulous people, so thank you in advance for putting yourself out there.

So much (girl!) love.

41 comments:

  1. I do have a few close girl friends (including my BFF, who I've been best friends with since I was 8 -- 13 years!)

    However, I really miss having a close GROUP of girl friends. My girl friends aren't really friends with each other, and I'd really like being a part of a group that's always there for each other!

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  2. Absolutely have to agree with you. Some of my best girlfriends have helped me through the worst. My mom, my grandmas & my aunts have all been such huge influences on my life. Wouldn't be where I am without any of them!

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  3. I would love to have a genuinely good girl friend like this. most of the girlfriend's i grew up with so competitive and emotionally draining. As I've gotten older, i've realized this is NOT normal. One day!! :)
    This definitely gives me hope!

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  4. I really admire your "women power" attitude, and I find myself slightly envious of your female relationships. I have a few girls that I am close with, and I am more than thankful for them, but I've had my fair share of girls and women I don't get along with. I think if everyone was as laid-back and open as you, we'd all get along :)

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  5. Love this<3 Sad to say I have not experienced a truly healthy women friendship in years :( But I am fortunate to have a great Mom, great sisters and soon to be Mother-in-law and sister-in-laws! I'm hoping that when we move it'll give me the motivation I need to get out and make new friends.

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  6. I have been reading your blog for a while now, and wanted to comment on this post. What an inspiring message! Thank you for reminding me of the all of the inspirational women in my life!

    I think the best women in my life are the one's who listen, love, are truthful, and always want the best for you. They help me to grow into the woman I should be.

    Have a great day!

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  7. my two best friends are from highschool, 8th grade! We've been roommates and neighbours, and always friends.

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  8. I totally agree. I've had the same best friend for 12 years! I'm also lucky to have a great sister and a group of friends from school. There is nothing better than meeting a new girlfriend and clicking instantly.

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  9. I have my husband who is my best friend. Literally thick and thin. And then my best friend Amy is the most amazing person I know.

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  10. My mom is my best friend! I never find anyone as amazing as she is and I am so thankful to have her in my life as a mom but also as a friend. We share everything together and this is the best feeling ever! I never got along with other girls (yes Danielle, some girls do NOT like or get along with others) and I many bad experiences in the past that I can refer to personally. I always liked the male friendship better. I guess everybody is different, but I don't trust girls and I am certainly not looking to have them in my life, I will always keep my distance.

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  11. I haven't really made any friends yet in Huntsville and I have been here for 2 1/2 years. I find it very hard to make new friends after college, not that I don't try, I don't really know why but the girls I try to befriend just haven't stuck. My best friends are my sister and Khala, who are both in Fairhope where I'm from (6 hours away). I definitely think girlfriends are something every girl needs to have. I miss them terribly and try to talk to them on the phone and IM as much as I can so I don't go insane lol.

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  12. I have very few close friends, but the girls I have, I love with all my heart.

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  13. I love love love love love this, Danielle! You have been a special girlfriend in my life for years and I am so grateful for it!
    The best part about girlfriends is growing with them, and that's why I value all of my close girl relationships. My best friend has been there since Kindergarten and we don't always talk, but like you said, when we do...I feel no time has passed! Same for you and me! Gha, I can't express how much I value my gal pals, and I am so glad I read this!
    I miss you!
    <3

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  14. yes! i love all my girl friends. me and my best friend have known each other since we were 2 years old, and even though we didn't go to the same college and i moved away, we're still very close and can catch up like no problem.

    another one of my friends i met in college, and even though there's a bit of a language barrier (she's from hong kong) we have a lot in common and always have fun together. we're really close and we haven't even known each other that long.

    my friends are awesome. it's nice when there are people that you just click with.

    <3

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  15. I totally totally agree! girlfriends are the best. Infact, its funny you post this now! over the last few days ive been having a really rough time, coming to terms with a few things that have been put in front of me. Luckily, ive had my close friend by me the whole time, and when things got to their worst point last night, she drove 40 minutes out of her way to come and pick me up from my house, armed with chocolate biscuits and a box of tissues, and supported me like no one else in the world could of.

    Im a huge fan of female friendships, and i am so lucky to be blessed with one of the best ones!

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  16. Love this post! It's so true. My best friends in the whole world would be my younger sister and my mom. I do not think there will ever be any other two women on the planet that will understand me, and unconditionally love and support me the way they do. Couldn't survive without them. I am also very blessed to have two cousins of mine I'm really close to. I've grown up with them, one in particular that I've been close to since I could speak. My cousins as well as my sister have always been like a little circle, always, always together. I cannot even begin to tell you how many wonderful, crazy, funny memories I have because of those girls in my life. Lately though we've all been so busy and distracted we haven't been able to hang out much. I was just telling my sister today that I miss the little circle we used to have. There is such a strength to be found in that, ya know? Great post Danielle, enjoyed reading. :)


    Krystal

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  17. such as cute post! you are so right! Lets hear it for the ladies! xoxo www.tigerlillyquinn.blogspot.com

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  18. i have some wonderful girlfirends, but as we have all got older our priorities have changed and we are all far too busy to spend the aamount of time together we would like. i miss them so much. whenever we get together its like we have never been apart, but i still wish we really had never been apart.

    women shouldn't judge each other, but instead try to be understanding. evryone suffers and has their own reasons behind the things they do and we should try to repect that.

    from reading the other comments, i think it is hard to find a really great group of girlfriends and so we should try our best to keep the ones we have even if they are perhaps not perfect. who is?

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  19. I miss having close girlfriends. I went through a transition and lost a lot of friends because of it. And now that the hubby and I are talking about moving I'm worried I'll never have close girlfriends again. It's scary.

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  20. sigh. i moved across the country almost 3 years ago and had to leave all my girls behind. it was the toughest thing. i've met new wonderful ladies in my life. but none will compare to my best friend of 10 years. we missed each other so much at first that we couldn't even talk on the phone for about 3 months - it was too hard. now we've found a balance, but we both can't wait to be near each other again!

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  21. This post was really great! My best friend lives 4 hours away, and while it's not THAT far- I find it harder to make it up there having a busy toddler. She's the only person I've ever come across that knows me inside and out, and that can tell when I'm having a rough day- even when I don't tell her. I love her SO much and even thinking about her makes me want to cry!
    Thanks for this post, it was a great reminder of the things in my life that I cherish.

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  22. When I was ready to start being a genuine solid girlfriend and stopped being worried about filtering "the bad ones" out is when I started to realize, there is good in everyone, even females! Haha I say that half joking.

    Yes, I've been burned, but I was getting burned when I had my guard up too. At least now I get a friend out of it and I learn more about myself the more I let my guard down.

    Luckily at this point in my life, all my friends and I are shooting for the stars and taking the chance to go for our dreams, that means something different for each of us. It is incredible to be apart of.

    We are photographers, designers, wives, painters, poets, mothers, chefs, CEOs, teachers, home owners, etc!

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  23. I have a super close girl friend but she's my mommy. I never thought it was weird to consider my mom my best friend, and I still don't think it's weird. I have other female friends but sometimes, we just get snippy with each other and I don't like that feeling.

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  24. For a while i didn't have a close friend. i had Jeff. but my friend laurel came back into my life. and my friend Becky recently came back into my life. for a while there was too much drama . every one was dumping there shit on me, or freak out on me.. now things have changed

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  25. This made me miss my best friend so much! We're both Marine wives and she just moved to TX with her husband who just came back from deployment. We got so close over the months that he was gone. We took care of each other. She's truly my best friend.

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  26. I totally know what you mean! I have a group of girls that I've been friends with since high school... there are five of us. I value my relationships with them more than any other (other than my husband and close family members of course) :)

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  27. all of my life i felt like i was always the "2nd pick" to any of my friends. i was great to have around if there wasn't someone else around. i stuggled with that a lot. though i did have some amazing friends through the years.. never one that i could truly call a best friend until about a year ago [i'm 22] when i met my [now] best friend Sydnie. she has been the best thing that i could have ever asked for in my life [aside of my boyfriend] but she really gets me & accepts me for who i am. she is the definition of what a real friend is. i don't know what i would do without her in my life.

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  28. i used to be one of the girl haters. i think now though, for the first time in my life, i have more girl friends than guy friends! they are each totally incredible and i have no idea how i went without them for so long! i feel really fortunate to have several girlfriends that i am equally as close with. they also all get along with one another which is awesome!!

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  29. How crazy is it that I just posted something about my best friend on my blog? She is super special to me and I love that you are calling out female friendship. So many times we see other girls as the enemy rather than giving other women the respect they deserve.

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  30. i love girlfriends. unfortunately i only have one really good girlfriend that i've known for about 10 years and we don't live close enough to see each other very often any more. i've been let down by girlfriends a lot and it's one thing i feel is really missing from my life. i find that my relationships with other girls just don't seem to stick which makes me really sad as i feel that i'm a very loyal friend who makes a lot of effort with my friends but when you are constantly not getting anything back it gets you down. but i'm always open to new friends so hopefully some day soon i'll meet a great girlfriend :)

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  31. This is so great! My mom is my best friend :] But since I have gotten to college I have made some really close girl friends. I have no doubt in my mind that they will be my friends for a very long time!

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  32. there's been a lot of times that friendship has come in the forms of late night ice cream runs on the tails of nasty breakups, as well as offers of a small vacation from antagonizing parents.

    i love my girls <3.

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  33. I dont have very many close female friends. But my best friend is probably the greatest friend you could ask for. She's the kind of friend who will do anything for you. She sends me texts all the time just to say hi. She's the one person who I know I could call in the middle of the night if I really needed to. Although I miss having a bunch of girlfriend to do girly things with, I'd much rather have one really true friend then a bunch of 'convenience friends' - the ones who are great friends when its convenient for them. I am lucky.

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  34. Girl friends are absolutely the best! I've recently been dealing with my best friend (who has been my bff since we were 12) sort of gravitating to another friend as her best friend. I am getting married and she is newly single from a very long engagement so we're taking different directions in life. But I realize that no matter how different our lives start to become - nothing will change our friendship truly and I am so lucky to have a bond like this! It's made me realize how important our friendship really is to me. :) I think all girls want this kind of bond, deep down!

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  35. What a wonderful post!
    My friend Shannon and I have been friends for 28 years (!!!), since Kindergarten. Our relationship has changed a great deal in that time but she has always been a person I could count on. Whenever we get to hang out it is a non-stop laugh riot. I love her so much and am so grateful to have had her in my life for so many years. x

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  36. my best friend means the world to me.. we are so different from each other but somehow we formed a bond that we can't deny. and we love each other a lot :) even through hard times we've had to face, she's there for me and i'm there for her always.

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  37. Cuteness!!! I love all my girlfriends. I have 5 girls that I have been friends with since 5 grade. We have been through so much together. Some years we were closer than other but no matter what we always reconnect. Several of us have had babies in the last year so we are getting together every thursday and doing a mommy/baby day of fitness. Mainly just walking but it's great to have them all there to keep me motivated. I love them.

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  38. You're awesome - and I completely agree about the "Women loving women" thing. We SO need each other, and I hate when chicks start sizing each other up. We're all supposed to be on the same side!

    Last year my mom & I started a book club, and I just love the mornings we get together to chat about everything from the book we read, to our love lives, to real estate, politics, sports, media, etc. It's so wonderful to be surrounded by smart, funny, thoughtful women!

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  39. I am so blessed to have amazing girlfriends and doubly blessed to have two super fun and smart sisters to hang with. Without my ladies I would be lost.

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  40. Girlfriends are the absolute best! My best friend has been in my life since I can remember. We had our first sleepover together, crushes, camp and were each others' made of honor. She just the best :)

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