Sunday, April 25, 2010

(more) thoughts on blogging

When I went to Hawaii I took a small break from regular blogging, and since then it's been hard for me to see the point of all of this. I absolutely love the people I've met, and even the thoughts and emotions I've been able to share in this space, but I truly do not see the point. I feel shallow and ridiculous posting outfit photos, even though I like clothing and fashion. I feel self-centered when I post a run-down of my day and even more so when I post self-photos. It's not that I care what people think, in fact, I believe it's quite the opposite. I don't care, and I think in a weird way I feel silly because it's almost as if posting all of these things I am asking for validation, compliments, and ego-stroking, and it makes me uncomfortable to come across that way, even to myself. There was definitely a point in my life when I was much younger and (unfortunately) attention-seeking, where I would have loved having thousands of readers everyday, all of you lovely people sharing so much with me here...but now I almost feel an invasion of privacy of my own doing. I'm not really sure where this post is going, or what I am trying to say. Half of me loves blogging, but the other half is often weighed down by feeling ridiculous that there is so much ME here. And I know that is the whole idea of a blog, either to share your life or your ideas, or your work or crafts...but I'm just not sure if my life is something I want to keep sharing so publicly. I'm still thinking about it, and at this point I definitely can't see myself stopping all together, but I'm just not sure if I'm still "feeling it," like I have been for the past year and a half. Regardless, I love all of you SO much and I so appreciate all of you coming here so often with your kind words and support. I am going to keep blogging until I truly want to stop, and at this point I guess I'm just thinking it over and hoping for a change of heart one way or another. Right now, I'm just in the middle.

This has been a topic on this blog before, a long time ago. I would really love to hear your thoughts on this though. Do you ever feel weird or silly blogging? Do you share any of the same sentiments I do? I would appreciate it so much if you would share! Love you guys! <333

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  1. I know what you mean sometimes{well slightly I have 8 followers, while you have over 100!}
    But then I realize that this is for me, and there are days that I don't feel like blogging, so I don't!
    But as for you posting up pictures of outfits, I love them, you have a cute sense of style, and I love seeing them! And for the day to day posts, I think they're interesting!
    But in the end you have to blog for yourself, and not anyone else, no matter how many readers you have!
    You're one of my favorite bloggers, but I would feel horrible if you blogged because you felt you had to and not because you wanted to!


    Jess

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  2. **edit!**
    oops! I meant 1000, not 100! =]

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  4. I stumbled across your blog through Elsie's "A Beautiful Mess" and I kept coming back because of your cute style and great photos! There is only 4 blogs I follow; you, Elsie, Silje and Keiko Lynn. I cannot tell you how much you 4 women have influenced my style and creativity!

    Keiko sees blogging as a digital time capsule and I agree with her. I plan to start one soon but will be careful not to feel consumed by it.

    Let me just say that the posts you made about your happy marriage really helped me through a difficult break up. Sometimes I would get sad and miss him, even though he didn't treat me that well. Then I would read your posts and think, "I wanna be blissfully happy in love like that girl. And I'm not gonna settle until I feel that way."

    :-) Hope this helps.
    Jen

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  5. I feel this way often. However, what you've just said is that you're not entirely comfortable with the CONTENT of your blog, not blogging itself. Although you may follow a lot of blogs about the lives of the blogger, you don't necessarily have to blog this way yourself. Send out feelers and ask readers to send you questions regarding problems in their life that you might be able to help with, and you can write informative and helpful posts. Other how-to posts, guides and reviews of things in your life that you find really useful are not shallow - rather, they could really help a reader out. Blog about your city instead of yourself, if that's easier. For instance, I for one find your Tattoo Tuesday posts absolutely fascinating and informative and a great read. Why not try out more things along that line? Blog about the restaurants you go to in terms of price, quality, service whether you'll be returning instead of just the fact that you went and what you wore there.

    Of course, readers do like the personal touch, but instead of 95% personal and 5% "other content", why not switch it around? Try blogging 70% about things outside your own life and 30% personal stuff for a while and see how that feels.

    Remember your blog can be whatever you want it to be. Blog the way you want to instead of seeing it as a fixed thing. You don't HAVE to post outfit photos on your blog.

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  6. I really understand your thoughts because that's exactly what I think about my blog. people think they know me but they only know my surface (which is fine, I wouldn't like all of those to know about my thoughts or feelings and problems).
    The advice I could give you is...
    maybe you don't accept comments anymore? this would help about the attention-seeking thing. then it would only be you and you really wouldn't care (or know) what others think about it.
    just an idea ;) I really love your blog and your entries.

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  7. i adore your honesty, individuality, humor & insight from personal experiences in your posts. however, i don't believe you should feel pressure from readers to continue.

    i posted a comment in response to your post about not keeping up on your blog a while back. you said people were e-mailing & commenting about your blogger absence. i was completely disgusted that people felt the urge to contact you because you had take four days off.

    i can't imagine taking requests or answering questions on formspring are very helpful either. readers are starting to take advantage of your privacy & personality, feeling the unwarranted right to make judgments. (in this comment, i supposed i fall into the same category)

    in any event, i enjoy your blog but you shouldn't feel pressure to reveal so much &/or share too much of your personal life.

    allison

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  8. I understand when people are concerned about an absence because they think something may have happened to you. But if you say, I'm taking a break, people need to let it be.

    As a fellow teacher, I enjoy when you write about your students. I am so happy when I meet another teacher who really loves teaching and her students.

    I am definitely at another place in my life from you and probably 80% of your readers, but I understand your concern. You need to do what feels right for you. Just let us know when you're going to take a little break (or a long one!)

    ((hugs))

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  9. I hear ya I guess. I came along your blog through the wild world of the internet... and I can imagine having a bunch of people you don't know comment on your every thought/feeling/idea could be a bit awkward. But just so you know, I love your blog, and you're a really inspiring person whether or not you know it. Even the stupid miscellaneous things I post about, get comments somehow, and as much as it does get pointless sometimes, at least I'm documenting some part of my life. Which... is actually a pretty cool feeling. I don't think you should ever force a blog, that's when it get's boring. So post when you want, and don't feel pressured!

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  10. i completely understand your thoughts. it feels a little weird saying some things on my blog because
    a) i feel like i'm bragging when i'm not
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    b) why should people care how many miles I ran or what i ate for dinner?

    but at the same time, i can't stop saying these things. i love being able to look back on my blog and seeing changes that have happened. i like seeing how much i've grown. so many of my blog friends have had their computers crash lately. they have all been SO SO happy that they have posted pictures of themselves and their lives on their blog because it's the only thing left.

    whenever i start to feel a little self centered, i think of it this way: it's my blog. i'm blogging for myself. so that i can keep a track of what happens and my thoughts and dreams. if people choose to read it, great. then that's their choice.
    if you're not comfortable with your blog content, you can change it. that's whats great about having YOUR own blog. :)

    xoxo

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  11. i honestly think blogging is just a place to share stories, opinions, photos and personal things about yourself. what you like, what you don't like, music, activities, etc...

    however, if you don't feel it anymore, then just take a break. see if you miss it or want to come back and post.

    i struggle with my blog identity more than i struggle with whether or not i wanna keep it. i think the blogging world is definitely an open place full of information.

    i love your blog, but would hate for my opinion of it to keep you doing it even though you don't really like it. :)

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  12. I sometimes feel this way. Especially because recently I have a lot of personal things going on in my life and I guess I feel like people are always going to have an opinion. Or maybe they don't. I think I just feel a little vulnerable right now at this point. And I've just been -busy- with school and my girls and my motivation hasn't really been there. So I've just kind of cut back. I'm only posting maybe once or twice a week. And sometimes I feel guilty about that too, which is silly. I don't know. I think the most important thing is to do it for YOU. Which is where I'm trying to find a balance. I do enjoy documenting things I do and what I'm feeling. Because I can look back and remember those moments. So I think I'll always keep a blog for those reasons.

    I hope you are able to figure out where blogging holds a place in your life and that you can find joy, both online and in real life. :)

    Sonya

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  13. I understand where you are coming from. I like to read blogs more than I like posting. I read for inspiration. Seeing other peoples' creativity reminds me that I can do it too. Sharing the creative and fun things I do keeps me motivated to act on my inspiration. If I post that I am building a teepee, or painting some whales, I really want to finish because I am a woman of my word. Makes me feel flaky when I say I will do something then I just never finish. I'm kind of forcing myself to do more. It's not about validation for me, even when I post something and people don't comment I'm fine with that. I feel good that I finished a project. :)
    Also, I don't care for other social networking sites and blogging is a way for old friends to see how I am doing.
    I am taking a break from my blog right now though. Sometimes you just don't feel like sharing. And that's okay.
    I enjoy your blog so much because you seem to be a genuinely happy person, loving and appreciative of life and it's gifts. You inspire me to open my eyes and see a bit more and live happier. Plus, you still have "blah" days here and there which keeps it real. :) I'd miss your blog, but wouldn't mind it because I would know that you were happy out there living life! I hope you get your feelings worked out dear!

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  14. As for feeling like your blog is too "me-me-me" in nature, I believe that journal-style blogs are inherently narcissistic. They're meant to revolve around one person--their thoughts, their actions, and, yes, even their outfits. I agree with another poster who said that if you like blogging, but no longer feel comfortable talking about yourself, try switching up your content to make it less introspective and more about the world around you.

    I've often thought about why I even bother blogging. It takes up a lot of time and I have very few followers. There was an instance a few weeks ago where my husband accused me of taking longer to download photos and blog about an event than to actually BE at the event. This prompted me to put down my camera over this past weekend and just enjoy it without thinking, "Wow! I can't wait to show this to my audience (read: my mom)." It was pretty liberating.

    That said, isn't it fun to scroll through all your previous posts and see what a great, fulfilling life you've had? Since your early blogging days, you can probably identify so much growth within yourself. Imagine being able to someday say to your kids, "This was my life." Blogs are the ultimate way of preserving the human record.

    Whatever you decide to do, I'm sure all of us in Blog Land will embrace it.

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  15. I have to say i agree with you. I started a blog a while back to write about the planning of my wedding. Its great fun to read back to the days leading up to my wedding and see my true feelings about it. But after the wedding i didnt have much to say. I never did an outfit post and tried not to post to many pictures of myself. I just felt weird doing so. Also i dont think my husband would be a fan of being a photographer for these impromptu "look at me" photo shoots. I guess i just ran out of steam.

    But with that said i LOVE reading other peoples blogs. I often ask myself how people do it every day. So as much as i love reading your blog (one of my favorites) i completely understand what you are going through. A commenter above me had great advice - why not take a break and see if you miss it. I took that break and never came back. Not that it mattered to many, i had 10 followers :)

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  16. i completely connect with this. a couple years ago i went through a time when my readers were giving me a lot of unsolicited advise and i realized that i had opened the door a little bit too much. since then my blog has been much less personal and much more enjoyable. for me, it was just a matter of finding a balance i could live with over time...
    i, personally, love your 'what i wore' photos and if you stopped posting them i'd cry. XO. elsie

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  17. honestly, i love reading about your day to day life - i find it interesting and refreshing to hear your point of view on things. but it's only interesting if your heart is really in it, or you truly want to do it.

    i definitely understand where you're coming from and take plenty of breaks from blogging. regardless, i still love your blog!!

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  18. i don't even have anyone reading my blog but i still often feel silly. i write about myself and my feelings, and it makes me feel selfish.
    i dislike the fact that it may come across as if my personal life is what is most important to me, and that it is all i worry myself with.
    at the same time i have to remind myself that it is healthy to get out my feelings and personal thoughts. and it is fine to be lighthearted and simply discuss your day. i think it's a fun way to collect memories and have a chance to not be so serious.
    but i guess it comes down to making sure you are comfortable and happy with what you choose to share!

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  19. i know what you mean. sometimes i feel the same. i just don't see the point in it either.

    i do know i love reading blogs for the inspiration they give me, though. i also love all the people i've come in contact with.

    whenever i feel not so into blogging, i just take a break until i feel like posting something again. i like it better when i feel like posting something and sharing something, whether it be about myself or something that inspires me that i want others to see. i don't like the feeling of having to post because it is expected by others. that's no fun. it then becomes a chore.

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  20. The thing I love about blogging is that you can find people who feel the same as you do, both as a writer or a commenter.

    I think the best thing blogging has done for me is help me find people to talk to after I lost my job. When it first happened I felt like a failure and like I was the only person it had ever happened to (even though the economy speaks differently). However, when I wrote about it I had so many people tell me they're been or were in the same place. And I also found other blogs where the writer was in the same spot as me.

    I think we all blog for different reasons but that this community is a pretty great one.

    And I know I'd be sad if you didn't blog. Your blog brightens my day!

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  21. oh I know what you mean!
    My boyfriend is in the French navy, and is away half of the year. We are together since 2004, and I had a blog so he could see what I was living without him etc etc.
    People that I didn't know began to visit my blog everyday. I enjoyed it at the beginning, but then it was weird that people knew that much about me etc.

    I stopped blogging because I didn't feel good at all.
    Blogging was easy for us. He always wrote me letters, and still does. I write him letters, but also long e-mails when we feel the need to be really close.

    I love your blog, but don't be a slave. Blog when you want it, don't blog because you feel you have to do it.

    <3 from France

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  22. I can totally relate to how you're feeling about blogging. I started my blog at the beginning of this year so I would have a place to share my crafts, creative endeavors (my new etsy shop), collect inspiration, and to document my life. I've always been one to keep diaries/journals and I find I have less drive to pick up a pen and write lately. Blogging allows me to do all of these things in an easier, more enjoyable manner. Things that are too personal or private have their place in my paper journals, but I'm loving having my blog.
    From time to time though, I feel a little embarrassed posting about myself so much. I've spent a lot of years trying not to stand out, trying to blend in quietly, so sharing so much with 'an audience' is something new and somewhat scary at times for me. I struggle a lot with worrying about what other people think and sometimes those fears creep up regarding my blog. I'm not comfortable having a blog that's all ME, ME, ME, so I try to keep my blog content balanced and not too self-centered. I have a hard time posting pics of myself. But I try to take those fears and work through them because I believe it will help me deal with those issues and the anxiety I have in real life.
    That's just me though.. I adore your blog, your writing, and your day to day recaps. Your style is super inspiring and I love your 'what I wore' posts. Your blog is ultimately FOR YOU, and if people read it that's great too. If it's not making you happy anymore than maybe a blogging-break would help? This is getting long.. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you're not alone - I'm sure a lot of people have similar feelings regarding their blogs. & Blog for yourself (you're the one that really matters)!
    xoxo
    cait
    ps. sorry this was so long winded!

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  23. I'm actually very inspired by this post!!!
    You said what I have been wondering about this whole blogging thing: is it all about who can get the most followers? The most attention?
    I personally love your blog & call it one of my favorites. I hope you don't stop blogging, but totally understand where your coming from. I think some people take it to a weird place, but i don't think you are (obviously, if you posted this last post!)
    My new goal with my blog is to keep it real to myself & not be so concerned with what others may think. It's where I go to put my inspirations & thoughts on life.
    Good luck to you in whatever decision you make. My only advice? don't let blogging rule your world, let the real world do that ;)

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  24. I think your blog is adorable! But, I understand where you're coming from.

    I feel that a lot of blogs seem to follow a formula for blog popularity. You can see a definite pattern. That being said, they are a fun, cute, mindless way to take a break from the day. (I do not think you fall into this category, by the way.)

    Since you do like writing, and you write so well, maybe all you need is a change in content or tone of your blog. It seems, from what you've said, that the things that you feel uncomfortable with are content related.

    You're a great writer, and your education and life experience gives you a great voice. That's what draws me to your blog.

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  25. Danielle, It sounds like you are already getting a lot of good advice so I will just leave you with a little support. Your blog will always be yours and it will always be about you.. But in the last few months many things have changed for me. When I first started reading your blog I was sending you questions about how to be a teacher with tattoos. Now I am not even planning on being a teacher and planning on getting way more tattoos. Although we have never had any sort of conversation it is nice to know that there are women in the world that can be themselves no matter what. I am thankful for the time you did blog about your life because it helped me (along with many other things) to know that I can always be myself. You seem to be just an overall good person with a great heart. If you stopped blogging I'd understand, but I hope that you choose to continue to show women that they can just be themselves.

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  26. I agree that at times blogging seems self centered and silly. For me, my blog started as a way for me to keep in touch with my best friend, but has turned into a place where I can connect with people who like the same things as me (crafting, reading, etc.) because my friends don't always share the same interests.

    I agree with the advice that it might help to focus less on personal life and more on sharing information and inspiration. On my blog, I keep the entries I want to share with everyone public, and then if I write a super personal entry, I just make it private.

    I love all of your blog posts, and would still love your blog if it were less personal and more of things like tattoo tuesday, outfit photos, and food/health.

    Good luck figuring everything out. Blogging should be fun, not a chore!

    xoxo

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  27. While I am not comfortable enough to blog about my life, your blog is a constant reminder of what it means to be content. Some of your post are serious while other post are just plain cute...

    Instead of asking yourself-Why blog?... Perhaps, you should reframe the question- Why do people read my post?

    The reason I read your blog several times a day (because I just recently found it and am trying to read all your post)....
    ... your positive attitude is contagious, after I read your post I feel more optimistic, and comfortable and content just being myself.

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  28. Good heavens! From one teacher to another, I want to say sorry if my first comment sounded negative. What a difference a misspelled word can make!

    If I may, I'd like to correct my statement and make it clearer. --ehem--


    Oh, thank the gods! at last, someone's spoken up about it! Thank you, thank you for coming out in the open and saying what I'm too chicken to say.

    I'm with you on the outfit posts. It's nice to be taken pictures of, or to show off what you have, but sometimes it feels like it's a lot of effort for nothing much.

    I'd vowed to only write blog posts about issues that matter, issues that really have to be said or spread, or new and creative ideas. That, for me, is optimizing the power of the Internet.

    A good friend of mine once told me that blogging can be one of the easiest ways to satisfy your own ego. It is true, alas, but that doesn't mean we can't do anything to change that notion.

    I agree with what Monster Girl said -- perhaps it would be a good idea to blog about your interests too. Maybe you could try writing about certain recipes you love, and your experiences cooking the dish. Or, since you're a teacher, some helpful tips on managing a class or strategies for teaching?

    But I also agree with what most of your commenters say: too many cooks spoil the broth Ultimately, the decision still lies in your hands on what perspective you choose to see the situation. Listen to me, or don't. Really.

    If you were to ask me what I like about your blog, it would have to be your sunny disposition, and your sincerity in living your life. I like how sweet and good-natured the tone of your writing is, even with sad posts. (hug) For me, this means you are an authentically kind person, and that is something that will last longer than any blog post.
    Thank you once again for being fearless and speaking your mind!

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  29. I think the bottom line is to do what makes you happy. If it doesn't feel like "you" then you shouldn't do it. However, we are always growing and evolving everyday, so blogging can be part of that development. Maybe you'll keep blogging, but what you bring to it might reflect the person you are becoming. I have a blog, still pretty recent in comparison to other established blogs. I share a few things about myself, but in general, not really with details unless it's something exciting and interesting. For the most part, I want it to house my creativity in terms of design, photography, illustration, and crafts. Sitting down and making a list on things you do want to blog about (and things you don't) will help you bring structure to it. As for the outfit posts, I know what you mean. I've taken a few outfit photos, but I never put them on my blog. I want to be more conscious about my outfits, so its way to improve myself and see how I have progressed. Again, I say do what makes you happy and makes you comfortable. Your followers who really respect that will stay and continue reading. As for how much their opinions and questions start to intrude into your personal life, that is something you can control and choose to affect you. I hope all this helps! I, personally enjoy your blog, especially your simple posts with photos and sharing of things you've found around the web (like one of your recent entries).

    Take care :]

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  30. I always feel weird blogging so I always stop doing after 4 posts. This time I am trying to keep it up not as a way of putting myself out there but more as a way of recording my life in a cute way. Also, all of my family live in another country so they use my blog to see how my life is here (I talk to them on the phone everyday too) but this way they can see pics too!

    If you feel like you should stop then do. Do as you feel the most comfortable.

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  31. this is probably the #1 reason why i don't blog. i used to have a livejournal and still occasionally write private entries in it just for me. i tried to start up again but i just can't get into talking about myself. my blogger blog was for pic updates only but since i have gotten my iphone i don't even know how to update from it. so i gave up!
    anyways..i do like reading your blog. i like your cute tattoo covering outfits that you wear to work and can always use inspiration for that.

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  32. I feel the same way often. Really it is pointless. I more think of it as a fun hobby.

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  33. Hey Danielle. I really really love my blog. Although it's much more smaller than yours, i also do, what you do.
    I share my life with other people. The most of them are my friends or family and they read it, because they want to see my photos and know something about my life and my thoughts.
    But there are some friends who aks me why i am doing this: sharing so much privacy with "the whole world". they ask me, what it means for me. But as long as you like blogging and as long as there are people how support you, you don't have to feel "bad" about it.
    I like your blog a lot and i read it nearly everyday. i like the way how you write and i like your photos. please keep going on. i would miss it, if i couldn't read it anymore.
    Hugs from Germany, Lucie

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  34. I know exactly how you feel and that's mostly why I deleted my last blog (mamafunke) and took a break for awhile. But, I just recently started a new blog and I'm trying to use it as more of way to stay motivated - to keep being creative, going to new places, finding new books and music, etc.

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  35. Hi Danielle,
    I did not read all the the other comments, but the ones I read really do capture a lot of what I want to say, especially the one from anonymous. Your positive energy is crazy contagious.

    Your blog is one of my favorites to read, not sure exactly why, but it is. At the same time, I totally respect you for being honest and rethinking your "blog life".

    I do not comment much, but just wanted to add my two cents.

    xo,

    Jenn

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  36. I can't totally relate because I don't have nearly as many followers as you do. I started blogging because I wanted to keep a journal and I am awful at actually writing on paper. I find it much easier to type :)

    So I started blogging with the thought that I was going to do it, even if no one followed me. I have a few followers but mostly because I am keeping people updated about our adoption (I don't know if I would have any followers otherwise).

    I never kept a journal before my blog and I would love to have entries from when I was dating my husband, etc to see how far I've come and how I've changed.

    But I can definitely understand what you're saying. If you don't have the desire to do it for yourself then you should feel no guilt for stopping. Unless it contributes to a business, there no no other person you should be blogging for but yourself.

    Though I won't lie, I do enjoy following your blog.

    I wish you all the best and hope you figure out what you want to do, for yourself.

    -Teresa

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  37. I think it would be a great project to write up new goals for your blog now that you're in a different place in your life. What do you hope to accomplish by having a blog? Really consider what drives you. What makes you passionate?

    For instance my blog is for myself, I use it to organize amazing ideas & pictures that I come across during my online travels. To track projects that I've completed. Once in a while I would like to use it as a writing outlet. While I would be thoroughly delighted if someone were to come along & also be inspired...& possibly leave me a comment(!!!)that's not my main purpose. I write my posts for myself, not for the approval of anyone else. That's key for me.

    Good luck!

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  38. I wish I could be more open about my life, for the simple reason that I think we all share more than popular thought would have us believe~~both the positive and the negative. Not being alone in these experiences is a something for which there is no price.

    So, i am taking what courage I do have to say thank you for being vulnerable. As a high school teacher who also loves tattoos, you have been a balm in a very closed community. That sort of free thinking is not as common as I would like it to be.

    thank you, whatever you decide.

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  39. i'm sure i'll say what a lot of people have already commented... but really, the main reason i keep my blog is for me. it's nice to have people follow and say nice things, but that's not why i blog... i created a space to post things that inspire me and make me feel creative, and if someone else loves it, too - that's wonderful. and honestly, i don't share a whole lot of my personal life on my blog, it's mostly just inspiration and photography and music. and if there are days where i don't feel like posting, i don't. i never post because i feel like i have to - because that would take the fun of it completely! i'm like you, i honestly could care less what people think of me and whether they agree on my likes/dislikes - which honestly is such a great feeling, i'm sure constantly worrying about what others think is so burdening and tiresome!

    there are bloggers out there who definitely have a blog only to impress others, and that shows. i can always tell when someone is blogging just to get comments or followers or compliments and it's so fake. and that's such a turn off. what i love about your blog is that it's genuine - i know you're not blogging for comments and for people to say nice things, and because of that i keep reading. :)

    all i can say it: do what's best for YOU, whatever that may be. <3

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  40. I absolutely get what you mean. The only things I cant fully relate to is the thousand+ readers so my life doesnt feel as exposed. Just stay in tuned with what youre feeling and blogger or no, at least you know youre not the kind of person who NEEDS validation :)

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  41. I have always viewed the personal content of your blog with the thought “this person is reflecting on their life, and is using it help take note of everything that is good for them and they appreciate”. I like reading your blog because it helps me remember to take note of the positive details in my own life (both big and little details; like great family or friends & making it through a tough time, or the fact that my nail polish looks great & there is flowers in my front yard or I have a new dress...it’s all very much worth being happy about).
    I always envisioned you writing your blog as a tool to remember to be happy and thankful. And as a reader that’s how I use it too.

    So thanks! And I hope you keep finding joy in writing.

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  42. i really enjoy reading your blog! you and little family are so cute. i think you have to blog what and when you feel like. i like that you do the tattoo tuesday feature, maybe trying doing more things like that when you feel to self centered!

    i enjoy your writings (i shared your friend post with my my three bestests.) and hope you continue!

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  43. oh heck i hear ya chicky!!

    i blog for another reason......the medication i am on results in alot of memory lose [so i blog stuff that inspires me that i want to remember]

    waving at u,
    tracey-leigh :}

    http://i-am-waving-at-you.blogspot.com/

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  44. Hey babe! I think you should continue to write. You have such a unique and intelligent voice and I think that it should be shared as frequently as possible! There are a lot of young people out there who can gain so much from exposure to ideas. You don't just write about mainstream things, like fashion and vacations (which I absolutely love) but you expose people to things they might have never thought were beautiful before (tattoos and music and novels). I appreciate your style and taste and would be sad to see you discontinue sharing you thoughts with us.

    (As a fellow blogger--sometimes it's good to take a break-- I have for a while on my dating blog and it gave me some perspective as to what I am doing with my life. While I love writing, it was cool to go back and read what I had written and reflect on it. I am ready to charge ahead again, this time not only with more ridiculous stories, but some much needed insight into my personal life. Go back and re-read what you wrote. Don't write for a week or so and then see how you feel. You might be surprised at how much you'll learn about yourself).

    PPL!!!!!

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  45. I don't think it's selfishness to share your life and outfits, ect, on your blog. I think it's a collaboration, of sorts. We all talk about our lives and out outfits and such and it all combines together.

    But, if you are feeling it is an evasion of your privacy, you could always talk more about books or crafts or something? Something a bit less personal?

    Love and Turtledoves,
    Jaco

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  46. I love reading your blog. I find it interesting but it's only interesting if you are really feeling it! Dont force yourself to do something you dont like anymore?

    Maybe you just need a little break?

    I am still in the honeymoon period of my blog! www.tigerlillyquinn.blogspot.com xoxo

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  47. I don't think you should be so hard on yourself. It's one thing to post outfit posts and things about your life and there are other things to just gloat in your vanity. Which you clearly don't do. You seem very humble in your postings and very humble in your life. You aren't asking for the "look at me look at me" attention that other bloggers do. If you do it for yourself then it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. :)

    Lauren

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  48. I can definitely see where you are coming from. Sometimes I get so frustrated because I wonder what I should or should not include in the content of my blog. Then I think, there are only a couple folks (potentially) reading it anyways so what is the point of bloggin at all. Then there are other times where I feel as though it is so self affirming- like, it helps me to feel ok about myself by exposing myself to the world. (Does that make sense?)

    I, too, am in a different boat with only 9 followers or something. But I agree that you should definitely continue blogging if that is what works for you. Don't so it for anyone else.I think the most beautiful thing about your blog is that it is so sincere and inspiring. That is the point. And if you begin writing for others there is no point, you know?

    Anyways, I just wanted to say that I love your blog and it was so great to meet you at Anthro. I felt like I was meeting a celebrity or something, haha.

    Pack up your Hubby and pup and come to the Merry May Handmade grand opening if you get the chance. I would love to have you!

    Ash

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  49. You do have a point.. it all can seem really self centered and such to the person writing it, but I think of blogging as a way to document your life. The way a lot of your posts are all about you and your life, it's a great way to look back. I think it would be especially cool in a few years for you to look back on what you were wearing. So it's not completely pointless.

    But with that way of thinking, a lot of the things we enjoy to do can be seen as pointless. Unless it's educational, watching tv, reading, can both be pointless. But it's great to have fun pointless things to do.

    But do what you want. Don't feel like you'd have to continue just to make other people happy.

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  50. dont feel bad about putting up pics of you and your outfits. there are plenty of blogs that do it. and even websites like look book. But i feel the same way. i like putting pics up of my cloths or me if i like the photo. but i dont have much people following me anyways... do what you heart tells you!!

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  51. Yep. I sure do understand how you are feeling.
    I just took an unintentional hiatus... like you, I just wasn't 'feeling it'. And honestly, the way I see it... if I'm not into it, why blog? For the sake of blogging? To 'keep' followers? Yeah, not really for me. I'll blog when I want about what I want. So, I guess that's selfish. But it's MY blog. I'm not writing for someone else, it's for me. And to share it publicly is my decision as well. Sure, I could go private, but I censor what I say on there. I think (for me) it's good practice to 'speak my mind', to become familiar with sharing my point of view so that I won't feel the need to 'stifle' in public. (OKay now I'm rambling).
    As long as I can keep emailing you with my health, fitness and nutrition questions, then I'm okay with whatever you decided! hehe
    I would totally miss you though... you're one of the only blogs I read 'religiously'.
    ;-)

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  52. While my blog is in its very early stages, I can certainly understand exactly where you are coming from. I think the first time I thought that your readers are a little intense is when you posted about your “Tattoo Tuesday” segment. I guess there were some people who requested that you change up your questions. I just thought that was so silly. This is your blog, not theirs. It shouldn’t be about posting things that you think people will be interested in reading or catering to requests. It should most certainly be about what you think and how you feel. Personally, I love reading about you. I hope that is taken in the right way. I can relate to almost everything you say and I think we would be great friends if we ever meet in the real world. To be honest, I finally considered teaching as a career choice after stumbling onto your blog. When I told my mom that I was going to get my teaching certificate, she said it was about time. Everyone in my life could see this path for me other than myself. It took seeing you as a teacher that showed me that I could still be myself in a career that I thought put people in a box. I read blogs that inspire, encourage and motivate me, yours included.
    I really can only ask that you do what is best for you. I would hate to read everyday knowing that I fuel that fire. I hope that you find a way to blog as it works for you. By the way, I love your book recommendations! Best wishes.
    -Sara(h)

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  53. Oh my gosh I totally understand! I've felt the same feeling. Also doesn't help when I'm asked why I even have a blog. I love it thought, it helps to kind of like keep a glorified diary of my life events and I've gotten my blog linked to my facebook which only has friends and family on it. They love my blogging and it helps those who are distant keep updated. If there becomes any more people who subscribe to me it's just fluff ^_^

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  54. Everything you said is pretty much the main reason why I do not have my own blog even though there are many times I desire to have one because it seems like a ton of fun!!My husband isn't stoked on the idea and since I work full time anyways, by the time I get home my husband wouldn't want me spending hours & hours blogging. So I must focus on our family, and enjoy reading others blogs in my spare time... =)

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  55. If you stop blogging then you are going to be forced to come back to the Mesa side of town so I can blog stalk you face to face!!!

    haha... I love you miss. Clearly so do lots of other people.

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  56. I definitely agree with your feelings, I have the same from time to time. I think there needs to be some kind of balance in order to continue a blog, personally. There's definitely nothing wrong with blogging about what you love, who you are, what you do, etc. That's how they work. It does feel funny putting yourself out there into the world of the internet, but then again, you can make a lot of friends and can network like crazy with a blog. I guess it depends on what you want out of your blog most!

    I love reading your blog by the way. All the little details motivate me that much more to go and do the fun things that you do!

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  57. Sometimes I feel silly blogging but then I remember how I feel when I find an absolutely lovely blog. Sometimes it's nice to get a tiny peak into someone else's world. It's like meeting a person face to face that you know from the beginning could be a good friend.

    I really liked finding your blog because I have thought about teaching before and I am so incredibly stoked to see such a beautiful woman with so many gorgeous tattoos in the world of high school education.

    It gives me hope that if I do decide to go down a teaching path that I can be myself, and while it might not be as simple as it is for people who don't choose to adorn their body with permanent ink it is still very possible.

    That being said, I totally understand the privacy issue that you could feel. I have yet to tell certain people in my life about my blog even though I love it very much. When I was younger I kept a couple of deadjournals and posted way too much information about my thoughts and feelings and looking back is interesting but I get embarrassed now.

    On your outfits, your style is adorable and I am so uninspired with my closet it's nice to see someone who puts together really cute things but presents them really modestly without 10 pictures at different angles. I've run into some of those blogs and I just can't get into it.

    I dunno, I think your blog is wonderful. But definitely do what you want to do. Your free time should be filled with as much fun stuff as possible, not things you feel you "should" or "have" to do.

    :)

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  58. I've been reading your blog for about 6 months now. I check it every other day or so when I am not swamped with homework and the other things of life. I love to read your thoughts, ideas, feelings, and happenings. You and a few other bloggers have inspired me to start my own blog, which I did last week. I admire the dedication, effort, and talent that you have for blogging. I hope that I can sound as interesting as you are. I cannot give you any thoughts on the other side however, because I have not experienced that. I can imagine though that telling all of your life to people, some who you even don't know, could become somewhat unappealing after so long. You have to do what you feel like doing. I'm sure you started blogging because it was fun. If it is not fun anymore, don't do it! It is for YOU. You would be greatly missed. Blog reading is something I enjoy doing on my down time, or to just de-stress, and I would sooo miss reading about your amazing life. It is what it is, and in the end it's about what makes you happy, not everyone else. You will never be happy if you go around trying to please everyone else. :) have a beautiful day.

    xoxo,
    Lynne

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  59. I think I kind of understand what you mean too. Sometimes I feel like my blog is less about me journaling for myself and more about trying to seek new readers. I hate that it comes off that way, because I honestly just like connecting with people I otherwise would never know. To me its not about how many people read my blog, but its awesome that some do so that I can get to know so many awesome people.
    I hope that you continue to blog though. I have found so much inspiration from you and your blog, both from your style and that you are tattooed and proud as well as the fact that you are a teacher (and love it!). It's not often that I see those combinations.
    :)
    -kellie

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