Saturday, May 15, 2010

Call me crazy...

So, as silly as this is amongst all the important happenings in life, I've discovered that Twitter is actually no fun when it's private. As many of you know I had a bit of an online privacy freak out last week. I had heard about three horrible stories in the span of a few days and read a few online articles about online safety, and I really got upset. It also doesn't help when your friend tells you that their house got broken into because she posted about a vacation via her blog! SO scary. I just don't need to post things like "I am at Whole Foods in Tempe right now, in the fruit aisle!" or "Leaving my house now, alone! Heading downtown." I do feel there are ways to keep myself and my family safe without having to be totally cut off from the internet world I know and love so much. Most recently I've been stopped numerous times and recognized from this blog. Super touching and amazing to know all of these people visit this site (and I do love meeting you!), but when this happens in my tiny town it makes me a bit uncomfortable, especially being a teacher. If you've read my blog for awhile you'd know that I've always felt really, really weird about the possibility of my students reading it. When I found out that quite a few did last week (perfect timing with my security issues, right?) I started to get super uncomfortable. That, added to the feelings I was already having, started a whole thought process that resulted in closing everything in my "online life" down with the exception of this blog. After thinking more about it, I am going to keep my Facebook closed indefinitely, but keep my Twitter open always. The issue with students reading it will be over soon enough anyway, as I phase out of one career and into my next job of being a full-time Mom. Thank you all so much for bearing with me as I am hot and cold about this whole online security thing. I do definitely think though that it's a good thing to think about. I know that going through all of these thoughts I have come out being a lot more aware and a lot safer. I urge all of you to think hard about what you put out there, and maybe reevaluate it to be sure you are doing as much as you can to keep yourself and your family safe! I do think I was careless before, and at times it's scary to think I am bringing a child into such a public internet world. I have a tendency to err on the side of extreme caution, and yes, I did think many times about making this blog private. But, I love this little community here way too much to make that change! I promise I'll never do that, and I do feel I've struck a nice balance with omitting things like I've mentioned above. My friend Lindsay told me that she tries to blog in the past tense, meaning that she will share things after her and her family do them. Not "leaving for vacation tomorrow!" but more so, "back from vacation, here are the pics!" I like this a lot. And even more so, in a few months when I am officially a stay-at-home Mom, I know that I will truly enjoy all of the "mommy-blogs" and the community of "mommy-tweeters" even more than I do now. I definitely want to be a part of that.

So, call this round two, but I am going to do the public Twitter thing. I won't ever make it private again, I won't remove followers, etc. I promise. If this blog is public, then Twitter goes hand in hand with that. AND to the slightly rude, anonymous Formspring commenter who called me a flip-flopper, I can admit that YES this is me flip flopping. :) I prefer to call it changing my mind, but whatever. haha. Twitter is too quiet and dead without being able to communicate with all of you, and I am going back to the dark side. Yippee!


OHH, and the link!


  1. Blogging and tweeting in the past tense is a great way to handle twitter! Much safer that way (and more relaxing I think).

    I really enjoy your site, so I'm looking forward to reading your tweets! this is mine if you want a peek:

  2. Oh man people are creepers. I once in awhile get people on my blog being creepers but I usually just delete them and block them and call it good. Blocking people is a lot of fun. haha
    Good luck with your pregnancy... cherish these moments because you will miss it soo much when your not preggers anymore. Even though its easier said than done. After they are here it just zoooms on by. I can't believe my little man is almost 5 months old.

    I love your blog. You can check mine out too if you want!! Since your going to be a mommy soon. :)
    and on and if you have morning sickness try candies that have ginger in it. Also I had horrible morning sickness and I just ate small things throughout the day and it seemed to help but my dr. also prescribed me anti nausea medicine because it got so bad. I guess they say when you are super sick its a good thing. Haha oh the joys right?? ha

  3. I think it's great that you've found a middle ground between your private life and your internet life. I hope you continue to feel comfortable in your internet-skin.

    Love and Turtledoves,

  4. Ah! I didn't mean to scare you. :( It actually happened when I was still living at home. I posted something on my public myspace (you know, when that was cool? Yuck!) and had some awful 'friends' at the time. Anywho, I've always been apprehension and felt partially guilty (though we never found out who burglarized our home) and blogging/tweeting in the past tense makes me feel so much safer! Glad you decided to do so :) & I definitely understand you going through this motion, its a mom thing!

  5. I'm glad you're back on twitter, I missed you :) Hope you're feeling great!

  6. its not flipping flopping I think when you read something terrible you freak out and then once you calm yourself down you can think rationally about things

  7. Don't feel too silly; I often go back and forth on my feelings about online security, and I don't have anywhere near the following you do! I've met people in real life and had them say "Oh yeah, I know you from Facebook" which always makes me feel kinda funny. I recently changed my blog, twitter and facebook so that none of them contained my real full name anymore. I mostly do not want my social networking facets connected to my name (say, through a google search) especially being a fairly new university grad... I do not want prospective employers finding my twitter, for example!
    Anyway, I added you back to Twitter :)

  8. Let me just say that I am so glad you decided not to go private with your blog. I find you to be super inspiring and love reading your updates daily. I can totally understand the freaking out thing though. It is very sad that some people in this world make it so hard for others to enjoy the simple and happy things in life just because they want to be hackers or stalkers or all around creeps. Keep up all the awesome stuff you have going on. Good luck with this little one on the way!

  9. Right before my last post I looked at google analytics - something I've only done once before since starting my blog. I saw that someone located in my home town (where I haven't lived for 10 years) was looking at my blog for 15 minutes.

    At that time I had about 4 followers, and I don't advertise my blog anywhere so I have no idea where they found it, but it really really creeped me out.

    It made me feel really uncomfortable and since then I've been really put off blogging and haven't posted at all.

  10. i'm happy that you still want to continue blogging. you're so inspiring. i like you're idea, and i've also been thinking this same thing (i think i read it in an online article recently), that it is a lot safer to post about you being on vacation once you're back from it.

  11. Hi doll,
    First of all you are allowed to flip're pregnant. :)
    secondly, as a mommy and a 'blog-friend' of yours I am excited for you to be on this new journey and get the chance to share and compare stories with your other bloggie friends too.
    Question, what do you like about tweeting? I keep flip-flopping myself on the idea. Is it really alot of work to keep up with?
    and last, don't worry what others think or say. protect what's tender and share what you feel. people who love reading your blog with not judge the way some crazy bloggers do.
    enjoy your weekend! can't wait to see you in maternity clothes!!

  12. I truly truly enjoy your blog and tweets! I do the same thing - my facebook is entirely closed and private due to my job but twitter and my blog are completely public - I just try to be vague about what I post. I really appreciate your honesty and openness in your blog - I have tons of respect for how you have been handling it all. Keep your chin up and don't listen to anyone else - do what YOU feel is the right thing for you and your family! Congrats on your pregnancy too - you have so much excitement ahead of you. You are going to make a WONDERFUL mother!

  13. Hey Danielle! I think it's actually very wise for us to stop and think about how much info we put up on the net. So thanks for reminding us of that. I think sometimes it's easy to get caught up in the fun of facebook, blogging, and tweeting that we can forget that there are things we shouldn't share. I also sometimes feel like it's such an invasion of privacy. I still don't even have a facebook because of that reason. My friends are always asking me when I'm going to make one and I suppose at some point I probably will. It was even a struggle for me to start blogging. It felt so weird at first to put myself out there. A little unsettling to be so open. Maybe it's just learning to have a balance about what you share online. But I am glad that you decided to keep your blog cause I really enjoy it! And I'll definitley follow you on twitter. Hope you and baby are doing good. Have a lovely weekend! :)

  14. Don't feel silly at all! Online privacy is such a weird thing, it's hard to know how to manage it- but I'm with you, being private on Twitter isn't much fun.

    There are still safe ways to participate online without worrying- and honestly my mail delivery person could just as likely be a creeper as someone who finds my website. The idea is to do what makes me happy (like blogging) in the safest way possible. =)

  15. i keep my twitter locked so people have to request to follow... it's kind of a bummer and i'm thinking of making it public again in the near future. people are so creepy, though.

    i'm the same way about my facebook. and lately people keep asking if they can add me... i've been thinking about making a facebook page for my blog so they can add me there! but my personal one is off limits, i have to keep some sort of privacy, right? ;)

  16. that makes me so sick that someone's house got broken into from blogging about a vacation!! it's so sad what people will I don't blame you one bit. i closed my myspace down and have every bit of my facebook only viewable to friends only. and i, like you, leave twitter open because i keep its contents harmless. you're not crazy, you're smart!

  17. Who cares if you are a "flip flopper"? You are doing what is best for you at that moment. Nuff said.

    LUV LUV LUV YA! xoxoxo