Sunday, July 25, 2010

23 week update

Here we are...heading right towards the 6th month mark this week and we are so ready! We got back from San Diego Comic Con early this morning around 2am, and for the entire 6 hour ride home Hank and I talked and talked and talked about baby Henry and all of the upcoming life changes we'll be experiencing. It's the most romantic, amazing thing to see Hank so excited about welcoming our son into the world. I never had any doubts he would be excited, but to actually see the man you love, the father of your child, swooning the little baby in your belly, pondering all of the possible futures for him...that's enough to make me cry happy tears every single day. I can't wait to see Hank as a Dad. I know he's my husband so of course I think this, but to me, he is THE ideal man. He's kind and sensitive- but not a push over, open to sharing emotions and feelings, he makes me feel safe, he's a hard, hard worker but plays just as hard, he has a childlike heart, he's incredibly smart and so, so fun. To envision our children having HIM as a Dad, Henry having Hank to look up to as the father/man in his What a lucky child. Now that we are zooming into the final few months of this pregnancy, it's starting to hit me that life is about to change in such an amazing way. I anticipate that this will be the hardest thing we will ever do, but also the most rewarding. Today we have approximately 115 days to go until our little guy gets here. Amazing!

23.5 weeks

23.5 weeks front

I haven't showed this side before! 23.5 weeks

I need to do a bit of real-talking here about this past week. I'd say that this week was probably the week where I finally felt pregnant, physically (and not in a good way!).

- I've definitely started in with some sciatic nerve pain. I started experiencing this last weekend and it's come and gone, with some days being excruciating at time and others feeling nothing. It's very uncomfortable and if it's a preview of what's to come I'm definitely dreading it a bit.

- Even though I work out everyday, I am still getting fat in strange places. I thought I would say this so other pregnant women know that even though I have been really good about staying active throughout this entire time, my body is doing what it wants to do, regardless! My back is a place I've noticed some weird back fat going on and also my thighs. Jeez Louise. I'm actually not bothered by this, but more so just really intrigued that no matter what I do, there is it! It's definitely a great exercise in surrender. :) I do my doctor-recommended squats every other day (using an exercise ball to support my back on the wall), and yet my upper legs don't look it. Like I said, it's all par for the course and I'm incredibly proud of myself for being in a place of acceptance, but it's so interesting to note that in pregnancy, my body is not really mine in a way.

- This week for some reason my skin went haywire! It's hard for me because for the most part I'm used to having skin I love, and throughout this pregnancy I've dealt with breakouts...but this week was the worst. Now it's clearing up a bit but it made me really depressed. When I'm already feeling a little "off" and not so good in my own skin, adding acne to the mix is just not a good thing at all. It's bizarre looking at myself in the mirror. I'm not sure if it's the hormones or if I actually look different, but NOTHING looks good- my hair, my face, clothing. It's almost laughable how cliche it is that I can plop myself on the bed and just cry and cry to Hank about how gross and unattractive I feel. It's funny because since I've been pregnant I swear Hank is somehow 10x MORE attracted to me, but I think that's the way it is for a lot of partners. I just don't feel very attractive. I tweeted about this last week, but I envy those women who feel glowing and beautiful throughout their pregnancy! I definitely have my days, but even those days are more like, "eh, you don't look TOO bad today." haha. I'm usually confident about my looks so it's a whole new world feeling uncomfortable in my own skin. But again, I do feel it's a huge exercise in surrender and personal growth, so in a weird way I welcome these hard times.

So other than those things, I'm just trucking along and getting ready to start a new school year in about two weeks. Mixed feelings about that, but I'm staying positive about it and I'm excited to see my teacher friends again for a bit. My next doctor's appointment is in a couple more weeks and I have a feeling that time will start to speed up a bit and before we know it, Henry will be here! We still have EVERYTHING to do. All we have are a million cute baby clothes but nothing else. My baby shower is going to be in October, and I figure after that we can do everything we need to do and hopefully (!!!) we will be in a house then.

This week, Baby H is the weight of a large mango (photo and info via and has made some leaps and bounds in the development area.

Turn on the radio and sway to the music. With her sense of movement well developed by now, your baby can feel you dance. And now that she's more than 11 inches long and weighs just over a pound, you may be able to see her squirm underneath your clothes. Blood vessels in her lungs are developing to prepare for breathing, and the sounds that your baby's increasingly keen ears pick up are preparing her for entry into the outside world. Loud noises that become familiar now — such as your dog barking or the roar of the vacuum cleaner — probably won't faze her when she hears them outside the womb.

A couple of things I'm looking forward to in the next couple of months:

-baby CPR class
-baby massage class! We'll be taking one class before Henry arrives and then a second with him.
-birthing center tour
-birthing classes
-lactation classes

I'll be back later this evening with a pretty amazing (and quite generous) non-baby related giveaway from a good friend, so I will see you tonight.


(dress is vintage maternity, taken yesterday in our icky hotel room)
vintage maternity (in our gross hotel room haha)


  1. hi doll,
    you still are so small for 23 weeks. It always looked like I was carrying a basketball. I can't believe you start work so early, I still have 'till Aug. 19th. So glad to see you are embracing ALL the elements of your pregnancy, besides exercising it always helped when I layed on my side during my sciatic nerve flair ups, and they say getting a lot of potassium limits it as well.
    side note, are you going to keep your credential updated in case you want to go back to work when your kiddies are older, or are you dunzo? much love. :)

  2. Oh Danielle you look beautiful. I know you're feeling down about your looks but it'll all be fine when little Henry is here. :) He, and Hank!, love you no matter how you're feeling about your wonderful self.

    Love and Turtledoves,

  3. Oh yeah, I got fat in the most awkward places! I got fat in my lower back, my thighs, my butt, and my face even got fat! My butt got so big that I can't even pull up my jeans. My thighs are where I have the most stretch marks actually.

    I wish I could exercise throughout my pregnancy but through my whole pregnancy I get tired REALLY easily. Like after about 15 minutes of just standing I feel like I'm about to pass out. Its weird because I was super active before too. Although I will be working out a ton after my little girl arrives! Also this post reminds me I really should have started looking for classes a while ago. Oops lol!

  4. A couple of things - first of all, I think it must be pregnancy hormones affecting what you see in the mirror because every time you post these preggo photos of yourself, all I can think is that you look ADORABLE. Although I'm not pregnant, though, I do understand what you mean about FEELING unattractive... sometimes I feel that way just because I haven't been very active and it doesn't have much to do with how I look.

    I also wanted to say thank you for what you said to describe your husband as the ideal man, because I've been going through some difficult feelings about my boyfriend and wanting to break up with him despite him being a really great guy. I've been struggling with why. I think you've summed it up well: a woman should feel like her husband is the ideal man and feel thrilled at the idea of him being the father of your child. I don't feel that way about my boyfriend. That helped me.

  5. Girl you look GREAT for being 6 months :-)

    have you tried sleeping on your left side? I noticed when I sleep on my right side that I start feeling my sciatic nerve

    also meaning to ask, what type of pregnant workouts do you do? I go to a gym several times a week but the trainers have no idea what I should be doing (I used to run and do weights before I was pregnant and now just do the elliptical and weights) and my Dr has no idea what I should be I am essentially trying to find info online.

  6. @Erin I am DUNZO! haha. Happily, happily done. I am going to work on charity stuff once the kids are older.

    @Jessica I will definitely try to sleep more on my left! Thanks for the tip. Also- check in my 22-week update, I gave a little rundown of the types of exercises I do!

    Thanks everyone for your sweet comments :)

  7. you look so good for being 6 months! A friend of mine is about two weeks ahead of you and I thought she was tiny, but you working out does help. As for the thigh weight gain, I read in a book that the weight you gain in your butt and thighs is the fat that is burned off when you breastfeed. :) Dont worry girl, you look great, and in the end it is ALL worth it. :) I look at my little girl and I am so happy everyday that she is in my life.

  8. @Nichole that is SO good to hear! It's so bizarre because my legs are just so much thicker. So bring on the breast feeding! ;) Thanks again for your kind words. <3

  9. your baby bump is so beautiful! i can't believe you only have a few months more to go! i'm so excited for you and hank.

    sciatic nerve pain is no fun. i get it once in a while.

  10. You had me in tears with your hubby/baby thoughts!
    That's a v. cool dress.

  11. If it means anything, I think you look so teeny and cute as a pregnant lady :) But, I know how you feel also. When I was pregnant a few years ago {long story} I too, felt like a blob, not cute and totally uncomfortable when it came to myself physically. Hang in there! You're more than half way done :)

  12. I know you weren't fishing for this, but you look beeeeauuutiful. <3 As a former-giant-blob of a pregnant lady, you are looking quite cute and tiny. :)

  13. haha thank you Katie! I'm sure the word blob can't be used to describe you in any form!

    And you too, Liz!


    Thanks ladies. xo

  14. You are so adorable pregnant! Im so happy for you that you are starting to get a baby bump, that makes it so much more real im sure!! No matter how you feel, your looking awesome! Its always fascinated me how the baby is so small (size of mango)!!

    Great post!!

  15. When people asked what I was having (boy or girl) I'd tell them I was having a girl and that my ass was having twins! I'm excited to comment today because this was the first day I went shopping for clothes with confidence that something wasn't going to grow or shrink in the next while! My least favorite thing was having two different sized boobs and NEVER being able to find a good bra ... but every woman is different and you are looking wonderful (:

  16. Naww you make me miss my preg belly so much :) You're skin is glowing btw!

    Krystal xo

  17. Don't be all sad about being pregant. The little belly comes with that. Some women look ok when they are pregnant, some are kind of cute, and some are (don't judge me as a man using this term) just adorable, and you seem to be the latter. So don't fret!

  18. oh goodness, you look SO adorable in that dress!! cutest pregnant woman. ever. i know you're not feeling that way, but you truly are BEAUTIFUL, dear! i think everyone here is in agreement. ;) however, i think sometimes we need to feel, for a moment, any negative feelings that we have towards ourselves... just so we can let it out, instead of pushing it deeper inside and allowing it to grow. you're always so honest with us about what you're feeling and that's really admirable. <3

  19. Im 15 weeks pregnant and reading your pregnancy updates make all of what im going through make sense. I have had acne issues ever since i got pregnant. Well i didn't start noticing them till my missed period. They are horrible!! Makes me feel like im not like other pregnant ladies. No pregnancy glow! One thing good is that i didn't have morning sickness! Thank God!

  20. your belly is so adorable! Hello Henry!

    You look fantastic in that navy blue dress!x