I'm not sure if I'm in the minority here, but when I think about getting older, it doesn't bother me one bit. I've never been one to shy away from celebrating a birthday- in fact, I absolutely love them and really enjoy not just my own, but everyone else's too. As the years go by, I've noticed that my love for turning another year older has become more of the oddity than the norm. I've also noticed that with this fear of aging, comes an acceptance of holding onto youth. I'm definitely not one to judge but I do not get this at all. I don't understand trying to hold onto what you looked like before, when this is now, not then. I don't understand risking your life to cut, tuck and snip unwanted body parts up, up and away. I don't understand trying to mask years of emotion and experience by freezing your facial muscles into place. I just don't.
At 28 years old, I've already seen a large number of my friends and acquaintances get all sorts of procedures. Although I accept my friends and I support whatever decision they want to make in regards to their body, it makes me incredibly sad. What is it about our culture that makes women feel like they need to change who they are to suit some notion we have of beauty or youth? Why can't we accept that every stage of life is beautiful? Now- I know some of you reading this may have gotten said procedures, and I hope you know again, I am absolutely not here to judge. I'm simply coming from another side. In fact, if you are in support of the things I've mentioned I'd genuinely love to hear your viewpoints. I understand that in many cases, people feel insecure about certain aspects of their bodies, and plastic surgery or other procedures can help them feel more confident. As always, live and let live; more power to you. I'm not questioning your decision to have the procedure because I know everyone has a reason to do what they do, but I'm more so questioning the basis of the thought process there- what about our culture drives women to make decisions like that?
In all actuality, I think the biggest confusion for me comes in the form of Botox or other injections. One of the things I don't get, and will never ever get, is how someone could inject something into their face without knowing the true implications of the product. Because Botox, Restylane, and the like are fairly new and have been widely used for less than 15-20 years...how on Earth can we even begin to guess the long term affects of these procedures? Even if something is deemed "safe" now, how do we know what will happen in 30, 40, 50 years? These chemicals people are injecting into their bodies are just that- chemicals. And we truly don't know what will happen in a few years from now because this is all uncharted territory. Will they cause Cancer? Loss of all muscle use in the face at age 60? Who knows.
I just started noticing the very beginning of fine lines around my eyes and although I regularly use eye cream and will continue to use eye cream, I feel that wrinkles and lines are inevitable. It's okay to age. It's okay to not look like a teenager when I'll be 30 in two years. I'll make smart choices and use the right products to look the best I can, but it's inevitable- my body, face, and overall self will absolutely change with time. When I see older women with lines on their face, I know each of those lines holds a story- each laugh line was made through the repeated gesture of smiling, and even those brow furrows came from more thoughts than we could imagine. I hope that as I continue to age I will be able to accept all of the changes my body will go through. I know it's easier said than done, especially since I haven't really experienced much of the process yet, but I think with awareness and mindfulness it will be easier. Right now my body is housing another, and after our baby is born my body won't ever be the same. And that is okay with me. Trying to hold on, trying to make things the way they were...this is just not a natural thing in my eyes. Time goes on, aging happens. I want to embrace each number I see, be it 30, 40, or 80, with happiness and celebration that I have made it another year, or forty. I want my face to show everywhere I've been, and I want to be around other women who accept these things about each other rather than peer pressure one another to get the latest procedure and try everything under the sun to turn back time. This is not "Death Becomes Her," and there is no fountain of youth. All we can do is treat our bodies with the utmost respect and do things that keep us feeling youthful and keep our bodies in the best shape possible. We can wear sunscreen and eat fresh foods, exercise, take vitamins and use good for us products. All we can do is make choices that benefit our health, and in turn benefit our spirit. And if I'm doing the best I can, I am going to accept every single wrinkle and change that transpires. I can't wait to be 80, tattooed and wrinkly, and hopefully have a happy life full of self-acceptance to look back on. I write this as a reminder to myself, a reminder to cherish every little step in this journey and to ACCEPT every change, for it is truly, truly inevitable. I hope you'll join me in working towards this acceptance of aging, and in turn an acceptance of ourselves. This may be slightly irrelevant to some of you- many of you are possibly quite a bit younger, but I think it's always something to think about. When you're in college you are no longer a high schooler. Time has gone by, things have changed. After college, you're a twenty-something trying to make it in the world, time has gone by, things have changed. Later you'll be 30, then 40, looking back on your life and musing about how quickly time flies. Why look back and realize you wasted time worrying about the inevitable?
This was all kind of a mish-mosh of things running through my head, but I wanted to share because it's something that's been on my mind for awhile. If you got through this barrage of thoughts, thank you for reading until the end! And now I wonder: Do you have a hard time getting older? Do birthdays bother you? Or are you more in my boat, with each year being a badge of celebration? I'd love to hear from you. :)
Happy Monday, everyone!
" the great thing about getting older is that you dont lose all the other ages you've been" -madeleine l'engle
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I love each year that goes by. I'm only 17, but I look forward to growing older. I love the change each year brings us, and I love to look back and see the change :)
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Love and Turtledoves,
Jaco
Thank you for your post. I had spent YEARS abusing my body by trying to be a size 2. I watched as friends became so obsessive with their weight- that they lost who they were. I lost who I was for quite sometime; obsessed with being what I thought I should look like. One of my friends became so obsessed with her weight, she passed away. Why on earth do we do this to ourselves? Why is our culture so obsessed with youth and weight?
ReplyDeleteAlthough I am 24, and that isn't exactly old, I have been thinking a lot about this issue lately. I think it is because of my baby growing inside of me. If I have a little girl, I don't want her growing up watching her mother obsessing over gray hair, wrinkles, and weight. I want her to see her momma confident, loving, and thankfully embracing life to its fullest.
Who cares if my husband found 4 gray hairs on my head the other day? Haha.
(Sorry this was so long... I am just very passionate about this subject.)
My feeling about aging changes as I age. I'm also 28. And every year my life gets better and fuller and more what I want. I, too, am beginning to have some fine lines. I, too, use eye cream. And, yes, there are days when I lift up the sides of my face and think back on the girl I looked like 10 years ago. And, yes, that feeling gets more and more mixed as I get older. But... like you, the 'mixedness' of that isn't because I want to hide the 'life' that I wear on my face. It's more because I know I could miss out on those belly laughs to save some time in the aging process... but I don't want to. I don't want to miss out on any of the thoughts that make my brow crease or the laughter that makes my crows feet.
ReplyDeleteI guess you could say it's a badge of courage or just a giving in to the beautiful finite nature of the time we have here. I don't want to waste it trying to stay in one place. And I certainly don't want to use my families resources ($) trying to either.
Great post... thanks!
I agree with you 100 percent! Last week I was having a conversation with my mom and grandpo, both who take aging pretty hard. My point was just to live and let be and theirs was I shouldn't be so quick to speak on something I have not gone through yet.
ReplyDeleteI still stand by what I said. We can't stop it, so why dwell on it. Personally I'm not a fan of the smooth, perfect look. I want to look good for my age through taking care of myself not look like I'm trying to look 25 when I'm 55.
I'd be a Meryl Streep over a Joan Rivers ANY day:)
I am currently 28 years old too...I go through spells of feeling "old" and not good about myself, but I'm very happy with where my life is at this point. I would never go back to my early 20's or my teens (those years were fun, but so hard!) I think it's so much better now! As for plastic surgery and such, I prefer not to have it. There's nothing more beautiful than a natural women.
ReplyDeleteI'm 28. I didn't feel old til I saw Kids in the Hall interviewed last week! It's seeing others around me grow old that stresses me out... Not so much seeing myself grow up.
ReplyDeletei love birthdays! i'll be 30 in two years too and i am not worried about this. i have great role models in my family, my grandpa is 83, healthy, happy and looking good. my grandma is 81 and very active and independent. i hope to be like them.
ReplyDeleteI will be 40 in few years and the cashier still ask for ids when I buy lotto ticket. At first I felt insulted but she say I do look quite young. I was laughing so hard and say thanks for the compliments. I do watch what I eat and I only use soap only. I don't use any eye cream, lotion or have any kind of surgery. I believe we have to accept ourselves for the way we are...we all have to get old eventually. There is noooo escape. Beauty comes within skin deep. It is indeed very very sad to see what women willing to risk.
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I love this post!! I really don't like the idea that our lives end at 30 or 40 or 50 - my grandma and her friends are starting to move into nursing homes, and they're still falling in love, learning new things, and working to be better.
ReplyDeleteI love my little body, but this is not all there is to me! And I'm going to be just as much myself when I'm 45 or 75 as I am now. Gosh, hopefully more so, right? :)
But I already have laugh lines because I smile all the time, so I guess I'm having to get used to it 'before my time' :)
ew botox! its botulism...in your face! fuckin weird! who came up with all of this in the first place?...probably a man...haha! i love changing...my wisdom and life experience shows all over my body. its funny how when you're super young you just want to be older...and when you're older you wish you were younger (well, not me...but for a lot of people its like that). when my grandma turned 70 i made her a painting of a tree with the quote "and in the end, its not the years in your life that count, but the life in your years"...holler abe! he knew what was up. ;)
ReplyDeleteI LOVE birthdays! I try to make them special for each friend and family member. I think that birthdays are personal holidays to celebrate the individual, and I always look forward to the next one!
ReplyDeleteoh girl, I am so with you!
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first day of school tomorrow! eek!
ola! spot on! love loved ur article and of course we should be proud to be aging I'm 27 and am happy love my body and yes me too I do not understand y people have to do botox and not accept themselves as they are... why did God make us then? I absolutely loved how u mentioned that every wrinkle has a story of its own ever smile and every brow beautiful! :) yes, hope we can always be more accepting and accept ourselves with a positive attitude every single day! I'm ok about birthdays I have no issues about growing older and what i actually love is making other people whom I care feel special when its their birthday! :) thanks for sharing! have a good Tuesday! idef. had a good monday :) and so far tuesday's been awesome! Cheers!
ReplyDeleteGreat post, and I totally agree! The physical side of aging doesn't bother me at all - I get more worried about making the most out of the time I have at this stage in my life as the years go by so fast.
ReplyDeleteYour blog is fantastic !
ReplyDeleteI agree with you! I don't get the reason why people accept to do all the things they do to look younger than what they are, but I realize the process of ageing is not easy to accept, so all these procedures are maybe a (vain) way to gain self-confidence and self-assurance. I've never undergone any of these procedures, even if my body has completely changed since I became a mother, and I'm fine with it. Yet, I feel the pressure of those around me to get my hair dyed :) My head is full of grey hair (I'm black-haired), and I dye them very rarely because I hate going to the hairdresser's and because I think that grey hair is another part of the process. I don't think I'll let them grow grey for now, but I'll surely do it in the future.
ReplyDeletei totally agree with you, but mostly from the point that i´m too scared about surgeries or any interventions in my body.
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I'm totally your opinion. Here in Germany plastic surgery and botox and all this stuff is not that common like in the US, but still widespread. I'll be 30 next year and I don't have a problem with that at all. I already have wrinkles all around my eyes, but who cares, I like to laugh. This is my mom, with more than 50 years, when she just had a big operation and is sitting on her hospital bed: http://www.flickr.com/photos/feemail/3905684817/in/set-72157622005576035/ - if I look like this when I'm 50 - great! That's how it should be. I hope you (and me too) can stick to your opinion even in 3 years! Have a great day, Fee
ReplyDeleteI completely embraced aging until I turned 35. This is the year the aging is getting to me. It's all because my health stating going bad and I started to gain weight because of it. My hair is starting to go grey and I'm having a hard time with that because I don't dye my hair. Just last night I decided I'm going for the dye. Gosh, I hope I don't mess that up :)
ReplyDeleteI do agree with you on the surgery and Botox. I just don't get it. One of my relatives is having surgery to lose weight and it really worries me. Even though I need to lose 60 lbs to get back to my normal weight (did I just admit that...holy crow) I just wouldn't do it any other way than naturally. My only hope is that the people who have done surgery for the sake of beauty, finds their truth and happiness before they take it too far.
I love you and your blog but I'll be honest and say I think it's a little hypocritical of someone so heavily tatooed to question someone else's choices concerning body modifications such as botox and breast augmentation - how is that REALLY any different? Live and let live, I say - tattoos, fake boobs, whatever. We should all look exactly how we want to!
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ReplyDeleteI'd start by saying I agree with you, but continue with two pieces of food for thought.
Firstly, they actually know quite a bit about botox. One of its chief reasons for exisiting is because it spasticity in the muscles of kids with cerebral palsy. My wife works in research in this area & says that while she would never pursue botox herself, she thanks all the housewives who have unwittingly supported CP!!!
Secondly, I think Lauren does bring up a reasonable point. tattoos change our "natural" appearance into something that says something specific about who we are and what we value. I'm willing to allow (even if I don't advocate) that people might pursue plastic surgery to reflect aspects of their nature that are being otherwise hidden.
Oh my freaking goodness. I loved this post more than you can even imagine. I feel the EXACT same way you do, but I feel like such a child sometimes with the way I eat and treat my body. I'm sure I will grow out of it someday, or just have really bad heart burn the rest of my life. hah!
ReplyDeleteI LOVE BIRTHDAYS! They are my absolute favorite, and not once have I dreaded becoming a year older. I love knowing that I am growing up and aging. I think it's taken for granted, instead of everyone understanding the beauty with the changing years, they see it as failure. I have some "cry" wrinkles on my forehead, and have never thought twice about them. I love the fact I don't look like I'm 18.
Sometimes I dwell on my mortality and it's scary, but it's inevitable as is. I can't change the fact that I will die, all I can do is accept myself (lovingly) and hopefully the nieces/nephews in my family can see that and be less inclined to follow foolish trends, which (as you said seamlessly) may cause repercussions later that were never intended.
I have never used any creams or any specific daily routine to keep myself (possibly) looking younger. (I don't have kids, so that might help a bit) but I am truly happy to be a 26 year old woman that loves herself and her body as it is.
Thank you again for this post Danielle. It was brilliantly written and I am touched. I appreciate that there are people out there who feel the same as I do about this subject!
I think you will be a gorgeous wrinkled old hag someday! And I think I will be too. ;)
@Laura Urban I really, really don't think it's hypocritical at all! I wasn't trying to attack anyone and make them feel like I WASN'T allowing them to "live and let live," which I believe I even said in my post...I was just questioning the WHY and more so the why along the lines of trying to get rid of any signs of aging. I don't think tattooing and plastic surgery is similar at all when you're looking at it from my point of view, but you do, and that's okay! I appreciate you writing and saying you disagree, I think it's great to hear another opinion, and although I don't think it's the same thing, it opens my mind to the fact that it could be- it made me think! Thanks for commenting <3
ReplyDelete@Tim G thank you for the food for thought! Always good to hear another side, and I thought it was incredibly interesting to read your point "people might pursue plastic surgery to reflect aspects of their nature that are being otherwise hidden," because I'd NEVER thought of plastic surgery like that. Food for thought for sure.
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I may only be 20 (21 next month), but i feel i truly enjoy growing older. A majority of my friends are in the age range of 21-24yrs and i find them holding on to their youth very tightly, never wanting to grow up, just wanting to party. There's nothing wrong with enjoying yourself, but i feel i've grown past that. I'm excited to start a real life on my own.
ReplyDeleteBut on the note of physical ageing, i think alot of these procedures could be avoided if we took care of our bodies better, starting at a young age. Avoiding tanning, always moisturizing, eating right, not crash dieting, working out often, not smoking etc. Maybe if we learned to love an respect our bodies at youth, as we aged we would love the changes we went through.
I'm 42 and if you look very closely you'll see the fine laugh lines around my eyes. Many people think I'm in my late 20's early 30's - so I have a pretty open view of aging. However, I do agree with you on the idea of letting your body age naturally - but I also have great genes! My only fear about getting older is running out of time for all the things I want to do in my life!
ReplyDeleteThis was really refreshing to read because i have similar views. I believe fully in taking care of myself as I age but I find nothing bad about that fact. I love growing older and feel i will end up looking like a reflection of how well i cared for my body over the span of my life. Being that i'm only 24 and have manny years ahead of me, i hope i will always hold this view of I am who I am, and I can only hope i age well!
ReplyDeleteI just turned 19 a few weeks ago, and everyone was laughing at me, telling me how old I was (of course), but I just laughed back and agreed.
ReplyDeleteI love the idea of growing older, gaining laugh lines, children- grandchildren...perhaps there's a poke-able belly in the mix, or wrinkled hands and an age spot or two.
It doesn't bother me.
I'm actually excited to see what my hair does when I get older. Will I be all white, or peppered? Will it stay soft, or go all wiry?
Everyone I know, including my parents, are shocked and appalled at my thoughts, just as I am by theirs. Why be afraid stay the same, ol' you? Why not accept that beauty isn't just wrinkle-free skin and being thin as a stick?
I'm happy someone else agrees with my thoughts :)
Here's to growing old.
I'm going to be 30 this year and have three kids. I honestly don't think about age. I get excited to see what each year brings. While sometimes I get down about my stretch marks and how my skin is changing, I have to realize that with aging I have gained so much wisdom and learned so many life lessons. I don't want to sit around obsessing about the way I look , and be so self-centered, I want to be productive and enjoy life to the fullest. I want to, by the time I'm 80 be proud of how I have lived my life, and not look like how I did when I was 18. But look how I was intended to look and feel the better for it.
ReplyDeleteI am glad you wrote about this!
Regards,
Jenny
I support the decision of plastic surgery to correct disfigurements due to birth defects (cleft palate, etc.) soldiers in war (facial reconstruction) or other accidents that leave people feeling less acceptable in society. If that is their decision, so be it.
ReplyDeleteAre you really asking why? Because from reading this particular blog, I think you already know. It seems like maybe you are just as saddened like myself that women/girls don't always feel as beautiful as they should. Unfortunately, society has the desire to keep up with celebrity. We see all this "reality" tv and magazine photos from such a young age that we start to percieve it as what the world is or should be. I would say its the media's fault, but we buy the magazines and watch the shows so its just our human condition, I believe, to desire what other people have(keep up with the Joneses). Have you ever read The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama? It really sheds light on shifting the base your happiness from external conditions to your own state of mind. It's pretty enlightening.
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I've always loved older people. And I say 'yes' to wrinkles, no only because they're maps of our lives right on our faces, but because they show that we're human. As we get older, our bodies are less resilient and wrinkling is only natural. Why would anyone want to be anything BUT natural?
ReplyDelete"Hi, I'm completely made of plastic and collgen."
Wrinkles aren't flaws. Wrinkles aren't even attributes. Wrinkles are wrinkles and everyone gets them. We should be embracing the fact that we are human and if this is what a human body is supposed to do, then you're on track and you ARE perfect.
I always love your posts about age and life and growing up and older. I personally agree with all the body altering aspects of this post. However I just turned 25 and am in full on freak out mode about getting older. Not so much because I don't want to be older or look older but because I feel like time is going so fast and the years are getting away from me. My boyfriend is 30 and a lot of my friends are in their late 20s early 30s so I think that might have something to do with it because sometimes I feel as if I'm already there. I'm just having trouble with it right now. I'd love some advice on how to not freak out about it!
ReplyDeleteAt 43 yrs. old, I view every year so far as another day closer to perfect refinement. Being at peace with myself feels so much better than anything I can do with my body. And, living with no regrets...I believe that is the secret to remaining youthful and feeling fine with who I am at any age I am. Every line, gray hair, and "fleshiness" has come from some event whether it was joyful, sad, sage. I wouldn't want to change any experience I've been through - good or bad - so why would I want to change the way I look b/c it is the ultimate expression of me, right here/right now, as a result of what has been and a part of what is yet to come!
ReplyDeleteI am right there with you! I am very accepting of any wrinkles or fine lines that set in (I am blessed to have my mother's genes, at 28 I have nothing yet), and even celebrate the greys I am starting to get.
ReplyDeleteI think when people start getting rid of the lines, crow's feet, and laugh lines, you erase all the fun you've had in your life. Who would want to get rid of that?
love this...it's nice to know i'm not the only one who looks fondly on aging. go girl.
ReplyDeleteI am so happy that someone else actually happily greets each birthday as a happy event instead of an unwanted year older!! I've never understood why so many people I am surrounded by and have come in contact with want to desperately hang on to their youths. I have never had a problem telling my age, 32 btw, and although I had a blast at 17, I have lived so much life since then and accept everyday as a chance to live more life, accept myself for who I am and what that day will hold and try to enjoy this whole process to the best of my ability!! Thank you so much for letting me know that I'm definitely not alone in this way of thinking! :)
ReplyDeleteLove love LOVE this post!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post. Love the comments, too! This is a topic I think about quite often. I always think it's odd when people feel sad about getting older. If you're not getting older, you're dead, right? But at the same time, I understand the desire to hold onto youth in some way & age gracefully, and to still feel beautiful. I don't have any living grandparents, and sometimes I feel sad that I don't have any role models for healthy, active living in the later years of life.
ReplyDeleteI love this.I have a new perspective on aging since my brother passed away. He was only 29. I used to think that being in your 30s was old. Now I know better. I also don't abuse my self into thinking that my teen years or 20s are where it was at. Wherever I am at is where it is!
ReplyDelete“Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - chocolate in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming "WOO-HOO, what a ride!!"
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Thank you for this post! I don't understand this obsession with youth that our culture has. I may not like the lines that are starting to appear but they are inevitable. To deny that is ridiculous to me. I have a friend who celebrates her 27th birthday over and over again and it seems silly to me. I am going to be 34 in a couple of weeks and you know what? I am loving my 30s! I am just trying to enjoy every minute I have on this earth with the people I love. And that is much more important to me than getting wrinkly.
ReplyDeleteI have always had a big nose, i think about it a lot and sometimes it really bothers me. But the alternative is terrifying and life threatening surgery and the horrible thought of looking in the mirror afterwards and seeing someone different staring back at me. At 22, i know i'm still young, but i miss my teenage years, in a way i think i'm mourning them. But when i feel this way i think about the people that i idolise and respect in life, and all of them are older than me. I think all these feelings are just a part of life and it's a process we all have to go through to except who we are.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post! I already have anxiety about aging and I'm only 25... I was, for the longest time, the youngest everywhere I went. Youngest at work, youngest out of my friends, married young, homeowner young. I think my fear of agin has more to do with stagnation that anything else, but I still am freaking out. Your words are inspirational and a bit of a reality check, so thank you!
ReplyDeleteI'm 33 and I feel better than I ever felt before. I've been through a long and painful low-esteem stage in my life and I'm finally happy with myself. I finally found beauty in me (I have a tattoo to commemorate that).
ReplyDeleteI would love to feel the way I feel now when I was 23, with a better body and no expression lines, maybe I would have enjoyed life much more. But then again, I also feel like I needed to go through that process to be the what I am now, and this came also with age.
I am not against plastic surgery, or cosmetic procedures, but it scares me to see so many women unhappy with what they have because we are so constantly bombarded with fake faces and fake bodies and fake boobs all the time. It feels like women is going under the knife for something that doesn't really exist. So they get more frustrated, and need more procedures, and so on.
My mother had plastic surgery for breast reconstruction and I couldn’t be happier for her. This came after she underwent a bilateral mastectomy, completed chemotherapy treatments and beat breast cancer. A plastic surgeon helped save my mother’s life!
ReplyDeleteI wish people wouldn’t be so quick to judge [plastic surgery]. Plastic surgeons do so much more than just [elective] procedures. For instance, plastic surgery can include various types of reconstructive surgery, hand surgery, microsurgery and burn treatment.
The necessity for plastic surgery is completely circumstantial – it varies from patient to patient. It can be a very positive thing.
I found this post to be judgmental, preachy and full of contradictions. Everyone is entitled to their respective opinion [for or against any issue]. However, to sit on the fence is certainly bad form, not to mention suspicious.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I support peoples' right to choose how they treat their own bodies... Just as my mother chose to have reconstructive breast surgery, or as you have clearly chosen to use your body as a canvas for tattoos.
Melissa,
ReplyDeleteI found your comment to be quite judgmental as well. I didn't post this to be about anything but aging. You don't know this but MY MOM also battled breast cancer and ALSO had a double mastectomy/surgery on her breasts. If I was attacking individual's choices about plastic surgery I would have titled this post "On Plastic Surgery," but I didn't. I called it "On Aging." I think you saw something in this post that possibly hit a nerve and ran with it. I am not sitting on the fence in any way, like I said numerous times in the post I am NOT JUDGING anyone, simply stating my opinion. If you dislike your nose, and you want to get a nose job, do it! If you want bigger breasts, and want to get implants, do it! More power to you. This post was on the subject of aging and aging alone. I do see how that conversation opens up other conversations- it's hard to segregate "aging" into one single topic, without letting in the idea of doing what makes you happy. I understand that it may make people happier TO get things like Botox and face lifts (like it makes me happy to get tattoos). And like I said, live and let live, but I still think that self-acceptance and aging is a very interesting topic to talk about as a female and I feel comfortable doing so in this space. I think you were way off the mark in calling me both "suspicious" and "judgmental." But guess what? I support your opinion to think that!
Thank you for stopping by, and for sharing your opinion! <3