Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Mama Said, V.7

This week is one of my most favorite "Mama Said" posts yet. Both Jess and Katie are two of my very favorite mamas, and it's so neat to feature them here at the same time! Each of these ladies offers something very different, and I'm very excited to share this with all of you. Enjoy!

Hey there lovelies! My name is Jess and I'm the sweetheart of my amazing husband Sam and the mommy of our little mister, Forest Káel who is 5 months old. In my non-mommy moments I am an artist, scribbler of thoughts and designs. I have a passion for living and loving every moment it. My man is a cinematographer and musician which means our home is a creative buzz most of the time. Our little boy has opened up a whole new world of a crazy kinda of love into our hearts that has changed us for life. It's rather fabulous.

I'm super excited about these series of posts Dani has started up and was so tickled to be a part of the heart sharing.



Mommy Thought #1: Give Me Some Love

I remember right after I had my son, I was tired, I was worried about doing everything "right" and the way I had laid out in my mind while I was prego. At the moment I was stressing about something and my mom called me. I was ranting and raving about something that wasn't going exactly as I had thought it would, freaking out that I wasn't being the perfect hippie mom that I had planned on being. In her soothing voice she said, "Babe, the thing that your baby needs and wants most from you than anything right now is your love." For some reason that simple fact has helped me more than anything. In the middle of my meltdowns that happen to all moms at some point or another, I realized that I am always doing the most important thing right, loving my baby. Yeah, I might have to supplement with formula because my milk supply won't go up or I might use huggies diapers instead of cloth like I had planned. But, it's ok. He needs my love more than anything and that is a big smiley face sticker of awesomeness to put on my mommy chart of accomplishments.

Mommy Thought #2: Don't Cry Over Spilled Milk


There it was, that precious milk I had spent 45 min, pumping... a mere 4 oz...my son's next feeding...soaking into my brown carpet. I was in tears, heaving sobs because I didn't have any more milk to pump. The drama of the moment was serious then but humorous now. haha Oh dear Jess, it's going to be ok.

Boobs. Yes, all of us ladies have them. All shapes and all sizes. If you're a mom, going to become a mom or wanting to be a mom, you'll find that they become an increasingly common subject in your daily conversation. Oh lordy, then there's (shhh, I better whisper it) nipples. Did you know there are more than one type?  Eeek! Yes, I said it. You'd be surprised but those little suckers, that before were just assets to your lovely figure can become the main source of sweet wonder, terrible heart ache or confusing stress. One friend said, It's amazing how easily you say the words boob and nipple once you've had a kid. You say it without even thinking. Sam and I would laugh at that fact because it was and is so true. 

 As curious as it is, breast feeding is amazing but I have to say one of the hardest things I've done. Some girls have a breeze of time with it, which is AWESOME and so encouraging. But, for others it can be rough. I had some funky info that it's not supposed to hurt at all when you first start. (All my mom friends tell me, and now I you...that if your boobs are the kind that hurt and/or are tender when you start feeding-stick it out for 2 or 3 weeks and it will be smooth sailing from then on out.)  My boy had a perfect latch but because I had some weird boob issues it hurt like heck. I ended up pumping because I thought the pain would last forever and I needed a break. I started up again a few weeks later with the use of a nipple shield and it was fine and eventually felt pleasant. But, by that point my milk couldn't keep up with my boy's tummy needs. And, you're not a bad mommy if you need to supplement with formula, that's good for him/her too. I ended up using Earth's Best Organic Formula to supplement so I could enjoy my baby because I was dreading him waking up because I didn't have enough milk to give him. That was a biggie for me to get over. There are SO many pressures and expectations that are placed on mom's and ones we put on ourselves, bringing so much guilt when those expectations aren't met. No guilt momma. Do what you think is best and be confident because you're amazing.

Mommy Thought #3: Fave product

My last suggestion and thought for the day is going to be a simple treasure that I will get for everyone of my new mommy friends forever and a day. Aden and Anais swaddling blankets. I'm CRAZY about them! They are large, light, and gauzy making them great for SO many uses.Car seat covers, burp cloths, play blanket, pretend fort and swaddle. One of my girlfriends even knotted one of them up and used it for a temporary sling out by the pool. Ours have ended up being our sons favorite thing to play with. He loves the patterns on them and the fact that they are light weight makes it easy and fun for him to pull over his head and play. You can get them at Target and most baby supply stores. They are definitely a MUST and fav on my baby list.

Enjoy your mommy-ness ladies. It can be hard, but your baby is the most freaking awesome and beautiful thing you will ever experience.
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Hello, Sometimes Sweet readers!  My name is Katie and I run a little blog and shop called Skunkboy Creatures.  When I'm not spending my time sewing up critters, I'm busy playing with my 8 year old daughter Hope, or feeding and cuddling my newborn daughter Poesy.  My husband's name is Johnny and he is the best daddy and the biggest help ever!  We started homeschooling Hope this year, and between having a newborn around, working for myself, and doing school with her everyday, I wouldn't make it without him. 


1.  Set boundaries. More than anything else, I'm constantly being complimented on how well-behaved Hope is.  We don't live in a particularly strict household, but we do have a few firm rules that have seemed to help Hope develop into a great listener and respectful little girl.  Hopefully Poesy will follow in her big sister's footsteps!

2.  As your child grows, help feed their individuality. As your child shows interest in a particular area, allow them to explore it!  If your little one likes books, make sure to take a library trip once a week.  If your kiddo loves doing art, having ample supplies around the house is important.  Hope has always liked pretty dresses, so we started letting her pick her own clothes at the ripe age of 3.  No matter how crazy the outfit was, we let her wear it!  Now she's quite the stylish and eclectic little gal.

3.  Take care of yourself. When we had our first sweet baby, Johnny and I NEVER left her.  Heck, we hardly ever left the house.  I went through some pretty major postpartum depression, and I attribute a lot of it to never taking a break or treating myself.  I felt guilty when I would think about doing something without my child, almost like I was being a bad mother.  We've taken a different approach with our newest addition, and now make time for "us".  Weekly dates are a must for us, even if it's just driving the car out to a pretty place or sitting at a Starbucks and chatting.  Poesy is 4 weeks old now, and beyond the first couple of weeks of crazy hormones, there really hasn't been any sadness.  It's GOOD to love and take care of yourself, too!

16 comments:

  1. Jess's experiences in her first two answers are mine exactly. I wish I had been able to read that when they were happening to me, because I too cried over spilled milk (kitchen counter). Wonderful post.
    Marie @ Lemondrop ViNtAge

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  2. Wow, I loved what Katie shared about feeling guilty for doing things without Hope when she was first born. I imagine I would feel the same way. It's good to be reminded of the importance of taking care of yourself and your marriage!

    XO
    Carly

    All This is Grace and Charm
    http://allthisgraceandcharm.blogspot.com

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  3. I love Katie, she is such an inspiration as a down to earth, fantastic mummy! I adore her family and the love and respect they have for each other!

    Love Danielle
    xxx

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  4. I just found your blog and I love it. As a soon-to-be first time mom, these posts are particularly helpful. Thank you for creating a place for other moms to share advice in a helpful, constructive way.

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  5. Yay! I'm so glad you featured Katie. I love her blog and all her little critters. Little Poesy is just so dang cute and Hope seems like such a sweety. Adorable family!

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  6. I stopped producing milk after a month,my boobs went back down to their regular (and small) size and no matter what I took or how much I pumped,I didn't produce any. It still bothers me because I felt like my daughter got cheated out of something. But she is happy & healthy so I guess I can't complain much.

    Love your blog!

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  7. you two are loves! your words are wonderful encouragement to me as i am 14 weeks along with my first!

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  8. Such a wonderful post... I'm a new Mama and found great comfort and inspiration from both Jess and Katie. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.

    Angela x

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  9. I can relate to both of these things ladies shared. It is a good reminder that things don't always go perfect but do our best and just love those babies! Thanks for sharing!

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  10. I love this! It all sounds like really good advice. I have no idea what I'll run into when I become a mom so I'm just soaking up all the information I can right now haha.

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  11. Both of these mommies are so amazing! I loved reading all about their experiences / advice! <3

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  12. Wow, I love these stories! My husband and I have been talking about having our first child, and it seems overwhelming! These two mothers' stories are inspiring!

    Enjoyed reading them!

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  13. So wonderful! I love Katie's blog & I can't wait to go see Jess's!

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  14. I really like this series, Danielle. These seem like 2 lovely ladies, I look forward to reading their blogs! -Rachel

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  15. Wow... Jess's story about spilled milk brought me to tears. I remember so vividly the same thing happening to me. I don't think I've ever been so emotional in my life as I was in that moment. Until that experience I thought depictions of women collapsing onto the floor in a fit of tears shown in movies were gross exaggerations... then I was suddenly one of them.

    Thanks to both of these wonderful momma's for sharing.

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