Thursday, September 22, 2011

Blog life.

for a post.

Last night while emailing with a friend, I got to thinking about the amount of time blogging takes up in my little world and how this affects the people around me.  I started thinking about how often I ask Hank to be a part of whatever it is I'm doing, and how lucky I am that he's happy to oblige. He's absolutely a part of this little online world of mine, but more so behind the scenes than anything- most likely taking photos for me, or listening to a rough draft of an idea I have. But even though Hank's fine with helping me out, he isn't one to share personal things about himself; he dislikes Facebook and rarely posts anything outside of computer, music, or sports talk on Twitter. He's just not into sharing in that way.

Over the years I've scaled back a lot of what I put out there. Sure, I talk a lot about topics that are relevant to my life both in the past and present, lessons I've learned, hopes for the future...but that's really just a small part of everything that makes up my day to day happenings and ultimately me as a person. But still, I share, on one level or another. Most of my "real life" friends don't even have blogs, or have any interest in ever starting a blog. Some of them are astonished when they learn about the size of my audience here, and I usually get the same questions about privacy, safety, and of course the big question: why?

People don't always seem to "get" blogging, and I sort of feel like you either get it, or you don't. A lot of my friends poke fun at me, saying things like, "this better get its own post" when we're out and about, and on the flip side I've even had friends tell me it made them feel uncomfortable to read my blog because they just felt like another "reader," and not like my close friend. I've had all sorts of reactions ranging from super positive (make me one!) to the very negative (you're going to get stalked!). As far as my family, my parents are totally supportive and think it's actually really cool. I've caught my Dad explaining my blogging and writing accomplishments to his friends like he was recounting my soccer highlights back in the day, which is really funny and sweet. And like I mentioned before, Hank is incredibly supportive too- he kind of has to be I guess, since I do love writing and blogging here so much- but he's genuinely and enthusiastically supportive, which is even better.

On the other hand, I have other family members who do not know about this space and probably never will. They wouldn't get it, they'd get freaked out that thousands of people come here everyday, and probably try to convince me to stop. For that reason, I stick to blogging mainly about my immediate family; it just makes things easier to not have anyone else involved.

But why am I telling you all of this? Because I am so, so curious about your blogging experience, as far as the people around you. What do your friends think? Parents? Partner? Are you supported in your endeavors or do you find that people think it's weird? 

I'd love to hear what you have to say, so feel free to share in the comments below! :)

105 comments:

  1. My family (both my husband's and mine) love my blog because they can see what is going on since they live in different states than us. I haven't been blogging long enough to get more reactions than my immediate family, but with our new baby boy the main focus of our blog I'm sure negativity is bound to happen!
    Smoking Crayolas Blogspot

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  2. A lot of my friends have told me that they really love my blog. I'm living 700 miles away from my hometown, so I think it gives them a better peak into my life than just Facebook updates would.
    My family likes it, too, as a way of keeping up. I haven't had anyone say anything negative about it or ask why, and a few of my friends have even started blogging themselves, since I started, which I think is awesome

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  3. It's strange, I don't tell people that I blog. As a youngster my parents always found my blogs and then'd make fun of me for what I would have posted (in retrospect, it was really dumb stuff that I'd post, but at the time it felt like it was important). I ended up moving around I don't even know how many times. I don't know if my friends/family reads my blog or not. No one ever says anything about it and they don't post comments so I don't know.

    I definitely don't post the same types of things that I used to...and that's probably a very good thing ;)

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  4. I'm quite lucky - P is very supportive and I help fuel his photography bug. I'm always asking for a shot of this or that for a post. I like that he is involved.
    My stepmum is a bit of a computer whizz so totally understands why I blog, but I think it sort of goes over my Mum's head!
    I have managed to get at least 3 friends on the blogging trail through my blog - one even sedning me a link with the message 'I blame you'. :D

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  5. Some of my family reads, but I don't generally tell IRL friends about it. I don't post in on my facebook or anything because I don't want people from high school reading it either. I like the anonymity I have with my blog. The people who read and comment "get it."

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  6. my boyfriend reads my blog everyday, and i know from my stats that people from my hometown read every now and then. i used to tell my coworkers and friends about my blog, but now it just makes me feel awkward. my friends definitely don't understand blogging, which can be frustrating. it's like you said, you either get it or you don't.

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  7. I have many friends that say the "are you going to blog this?" sarcastically while we hang out, and that gets annoying. But I have others that send me emails, or tell me in person, that they love my blog & that they read it every day religiously. my family loves it to keep up with my life, since I'm the only one not living in the home town. And my 95 yo grandpa even asks me about it every time he sees me, because he's proud of me! it's a strange balance I've struck. I'm really embarrassed to tell some people I write, but I'm also proud of my accomplishments. But overall, my blog has made me closer to the ones who really care about me. And I enjoy it! So that's all I can ask for :)

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  8. i've been on the internet since 1996, i've maintained a few diff. sites, livejournal and even scribble.nu and other cool journal sites back before blogs - i've always shared and now lessened what i share. my husband doesn't mind that i blog and he's similar to yours in the area of being more behind the scenes and staying away from sharing our lives. i have a fb, he uses it to check on his family. i haven't shared my blog with all of my friends or coworkers because most are closed minded and are the types to make shit up. the ones that do know me well, enjoy my blog and i'm glad :)

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  9. I in no way have the large audience you do, but I think I have been really fortunate with the responses I have received on my blog from family and friends. My immediate family thinks it is really cool (and my little sister wants to blog now!) and my uncles and aunts and what not always say things like “Oh your website thing is so fun!” haha. My husband is super supportive about it and my friends love that I blog. I really only have a couple RL friends that blog and sometimes I wonder why I even do it and when I don’t feel like blogging or haven’t posted anything in awhile, I get a message saying “Put something up already!” and they ask for me to post pictures of them haha. I think my brother and my dad are kinda the only ones that don’t really get what it is, but they never knock it. I feel super grateful to have friends and family that support me in really anything I do!
    Such a good topic to write about and I would love to read others responses as well!

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  10. Very few know my blog exists, and I mostly get made fun of for having one. However, I use it as my space to think and say what I want to say. My mom loves it, but my mom loves everything I do, and my dad and stepparents don't even bother reading.

    bartlebeesbumblings.blogspot.com

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  11. My family and finance totally support me blogging. I've always been the computer savy one in the family. I've always been the creative and expressive one so when I told them I started a blog, they thought that was the perfect match for me. I've only had my blog for a few months, and I already love it. I'm learning so much and I love taking the time to design stuff on photoshop and add my creative spark to whatever I want. My blog will be there through planning my wedding, having children one day, and beyond. It's a unique little place where you can write whatever comes to mind. You also meet a ton of awesome people.
    Fortunately, I haven't come across anyone who thought spending so much time writing and blogging is weird. The opposite has happened for me. I recently got hired to build and maintain two company's websites from scratch all because they like what I do with my personal blog. It's a great feeling! Even if I did ran into someone who just doesn't "get" the idea of blogging, that wouldn't affect me one bit. My blog is for me and me only. The fact that others find it interesting to read is just icing on the cake and I only have under 50 readers. But who knows where it'll be in a year. I love knowing the potential it has.
    Much love to you!

    -Samantha
    http://theadventuresoftwosams.blogspot.com/

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  12. i've been online journaling in some form since i was 15 (over 12 years.) so i can't imagine stopping. i just love to write. it's in my blood.

    i once asked my mom if she read my blog, and she responded with, 'what's a blog?'

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  13. I love this post, and even though I have a much smaller following than you do, I can totally relate. Most of my friends and family love that I blog, but there are others that I don't tell because they just won't get it!

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  14. My blog is open to anybody who stumbles upon it but, I personally, haven't told my family about it. I mainly use it as a diary or journal of my dates with my Boyfriend. He is also glad to help me out taking pictures and such. It is so nice to have my little space shared to the outside world. Hopefully I can inspire somebody, some way. but apart from letting the world in, for some reason, it is a lot sweeter that my family doesn't know about...just yet & In the case something was to happen to me, I would then love to share it with my family as a nice good bye gift to remember me by.

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  15. My husband thinks blogging is cool, but my friends usually think it's sort of lame. I have a pretty popular tumblr [5k readers or something] that I never update anymore because it was a political-centered blog and it got to be too much. It took over my life, which is why I started a more fun, laid back lifestyle blog. My mom seems confused, but she thinks it's cool that people like me, no matter how low that number tends to be.

    Lauren @ Sea Parrot

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  16. I've only started my blog not quite a year ago and it's very strange to me. Like you said people either get it or they don't. Often, I think they don't.

    My boyfriend obliges me, though he hasn't even looked at it before, I often work on it during down time at work. And he's not big on being online. He has no facebook or twitter or tumblr- he doesn't even have an email, but get this- we met online (through okcupid!) How hilarious is that!

    I think it's fun and I hope to gain more readers. To me, it's more exciting for people to read that I might never ever meet or know than people I do know in real life. I hate when you tell someone something and they say "oh yeah I saw your blog/facebook/tweet."

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  17. Well, my parents know about my blog, but I doubt that they read it unless I really say "Hey, have a look" and share a direct link. My sister is reading my blog and I read hers. So yeah, she know and I guess she got to blogging because of me. But her blog is not exactly private as it's only about the clothes she makes herself.
    Mine is much more private.
    My friends can read it and I know that most of them do it and like it...I guess.
    So it's okay the way it is! :)

    >>http://neonleopardcity.blogspot.com/<<

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  18. My family loves my blog. My husband says he would never know what to write on a blog of his own, but he loves to work on the technical aspects of mine. He's patient when I photograph my food before eating it and he likes to tell his friends and family about it. I am grateful that I've gotten nothing but support from family, friends, and readers. I try not to share info that is super personal, but I LOVE sharing my daughters' milestones and stories about the silly things they do. I am very open with my family and I know that they'd tell me if I ever crossed a line. It's nice to have a support system that I know will keep me in check, too!

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  19. Hi, I popped by because I found the party from my friend's blog I was telling you about and wanted to give you the link. here it is : http://vivafullhouse.blogspot.com/2009/06/blog-post.html if you can't find it that way, check for The Mr. Man Party
    Oh and also the other blog I stalk is http://blog.amyatlas.com/

    Anyway, as for the topic at hand, we have shared our feeling on it numerous times, so I won't bore you with it again. haha
    Love you and your blog! xoxo

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  20. For the most part I get a lot of positive feedback about the blog. Some people just don't always get it but close friends and family have always liked that they could stay in touch, since many live so far away. My husband gets it the least, but also isn't against it. On the other hand I do at times think it is odd myself. I met a local blogger last night and it was kind of funny meeting for the first time and yet knowing all this information about her.

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  21. My very best friends know about my blog and think it's awesome yet have no interest in having their own. My parents have no idea because they would seriously freak out over the privacy issues. It makes me sad sometimes that I am so apprehensive to share something that means so much to me with my parents. What I am I afraid of: that they will think it's silly or that they will lecture me? It's my own insecurity I suppose. I've gotten a lot of "why would you want to do that?" type questions, but overall people are pretty positive. I have only been blogging for 6 months so I can only hope that my fear of what those close to me will think will fade away as I become more comfortable in this little internet world myself. Thank you so much for sharing this!!

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  22. Most of my friends don't know that I've a blog. It's really weird that I let strange people read about my crafts and don't let my friends know. But I feel super uncomfortable and my blog is something that I like to share what I love and sometimes my friends tell me how weird I am and I'm super self conscious that way (loving vegetables, eating sometimes vegetarian, knitting) and I don't want them to read all my ramblings. It's not like I make a new dress and don't show it off all proud to my friends but telling them I'd have a blog it'd make me super unconformable I'd never write with so much freedom as I do now (even if my blog is mostly about crafts). Some of my friends from high school (even a teacher) know that I've a blog and occasionally comment but I remember the day I told them and it was nerve wracking seriously. Now most of them don't remember so I feel safe :)

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  23. First, I want to thank you for posting this. It’s true, not a lot of people “get” what blogging really is. Unfortunately my husband is one of those people. I started blogging on a regular basis when we moved from Pittsburgh to Phoenix. Suddenly it started to catch on a little and I was blogging almost every day. My husband was very supportive at first but as time wore on he seemed to get frustrated with me and would tease me about it on a regular basis. It’s very hard to put effort into something that you don’t feel like you are getting any support about from the person you are closest too. Luckily some of my friends were actually inspired by my blog and started blogging themselves. That gives me a little boost. My mother-in-law even bought me a shirt that says “Everybody reads my blog.” It cracked me up. It’s just nice to see that someone cares that I’m doing something I enjoy.

    I can’t wait to really get back into it and revamp the whole thing. Blogging is one of the best things I’ve ever done. When I was really blogging full time it was the most accomplished I’ve felt in a long time. You’re blog really inspires me to make mine even better!

    Thanks for being awesome! Sorry this turned into a small rant! My husband really is a wonderful man and supportive, he just doesn’t get it.

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  24. My husband is very similar to Hank when it comes to being "social". He does it out of being obligatory contracted (his editor tells him to) but other than that, he hates it. He's supportive of my crazy blog ideas but as much as I share, I'm also really private when it comes to ME. Do you remember when I had that crazy life saving surgery? If it was up to me, I'd just tell my readers I was sick, but Scott took over and did what I'm grateful for- he said just like I'd tell my friends in real life, it shouldn't be any different from online friends. The one person who hates social media as much as I love it, actually changed my perspective on it! My family reads my blog but they just don't understand. I don't want them to understand, as long as they are supportive, that's what is important to me. As for friends, they all blog, too, so thankfully they get my "I need to blog tonight" times!

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  25. Blogging for me started out as a way to connect with family and friends who live far away. It's still a place for them to see pics of my kids and family and to hear about what's going on. I've had positive responses, although, my mom starts asking me who certain people are when she sees the comments.

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  26. When I started blogging, it was just like a little diary for myself. I have been and still am a lot into computers, the internet and all so this was just a digital way of writing a diary. None of my friends and family knew about it and the readers were mostly strangers just getting on my blog by accident. After about a year I stopped, because I didn't like it that much anymore.
    Then I decided to become an au pair after my nurse training and blogging was my way to share my experience with my friends at home and people I met while I was away. When I came back I wanted to go on. I had started reading lots of blogs and wanted to keep on writing and sharing so I did. All of my friends know what I'm doing and read from time to time but I haven't a big audience like you do so maybe these thoughts didn't come up to me because of that. My family knows what I'm doing as well but they are only using the internet for email and skype so they don't really read and don't really have an opinion about all that.
    I heard people say that my blogging is just a way to get attention but really? I have been doing this for more than two years now and hardly anyone reads so this cannot be about attention, I just want to write and that's my way of doing it...

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  27. I have to tell you.....I could copy your words, actually. Minus the thousands of readers! ha. Mom and dad, great - they love it. Some friends get it...most don't. And I purposely do NOT share it amoungst FB "friends" because I feel like I will censor too much. And the point of my blog is to get it out there. Anbd out of my head. I adore this post. And you!!!!

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  28. My boyfriend has been supportive, encouraging and full of helpful ideas from the get-go! He thinks its a very positive outlet for me, I think its because he used to blog. I talked to my mom this morning and she saw my blog for the first time last night! She loves it and thinks its a nice way to keep up with me. Other family members who know, don't have much of an opinion, along with most of my friends. I did inspire one galpal to start hers though!

    On a side note, one of my co-workers asked if I was a nerd today, which was brought up because I mentioned my blog.

    I'm happy with my writing hobby and it is becoming an important part of my life!

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  29. I started my blog when my husband and I announced our pregnancy. Both of our families live several states away and it was an easy way for everyone to stay up-to-date. However, I was a slacker blogger and very quickly let it go by the wayside.

    Three months our beloved 19-month-old daughter died and I found that my blog let me hash things out in a way I couldn't simply in my head. It's proved to be cathartic and healing, not only for me, but for other people who loved Ryann and experienced this loss. It's also an easy way to let people know that we're okay, our lives keep moving, and they don't need to worry about us QUITE as much as they may think.

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  30. My sister started blogging and I began about a week later. It just seemed easier than writing a bunch of emails to every family member (we have a close family which includes extended relatives that we talk to frequently). At first my blog was just me complaining about annoying roommates and the people who would come into my old job (hotel front desk) demanding craziness. Now it's morphed into something of a crochet/canning theme. Everyone on my fb knows I blog and they're all very supportive but I tend to not tell new friends or people in our new town because they just give me quizzical looks. I enjoy it, I work on my blog while my boyfriend is playing WoW and I kind of think of it as a documentation of our lives together.

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  31. honestly, I often have a really hard time with the fact that I blog. People I respect most think blogging is dumb. And sometimes, when the blog world can start to feel catty and bitchy, i don't like it at all either and want to just run away from the business and space i have built on the web.
    I think if my businesses were not based online, I probably would have stopped blogging by now. It takes a lot of time and I don't like the way that people act towards me when they find out i have a blog. I lose respect in peoples eyes when they find out I am a blogger. Lame.

    But all of the crap from being a blogger has made me think about, ok why do i do this. I do it because it makes my businesses feel more community based. I get to have a personal relationship with my clients and customers. I get to create an online journal of the things I love, things i do, etc.

    Most of the time I really try to avoid mentioning that I am a blogger to most people. but the same time, it is the center of all my my businesses! it is a huge part of my life! Unfortunately, most people i meet just don't understand why I blog, they don't see how hard i work or how my blog connects to my businesses. But I know that it is a mostly good community of people, and I appreciate everyone in that community supporting me in my career dreams.

    Blogging. easily misunderstood. most people see it as disgustingly shallow. But I know many of us are not shallow, we are thoughtful. And the people who DO matter most understand what me do and why we do it.
    xo MOorea

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  32. I've always felt more comfortable sharing blog related things with strangers, I don't know why? It began with live journal and I've always enjoyed having some place to write my thoughts. Now that I have a baby I think it's so neat to be able to store all of our little moments and pictures, even if I do go back and forth on how much I really want to share. However, friends that read it tend to tell me "I feel bad that we barely talk because I learn about your life though your blog!"

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  33. I've never gotten anything but support for my blogging, probably because my generation is just a bunch of teenagers who grew up with this kind of thing so it's no surprise to them!! Some of my friends follow my blog and will send me texts about things they read on it!

    My family is quite supportive too, and sometimes ask me how it's going!! I guess I'm quite lucky in that sense :)
    xo
    http://kittysnooks.blogspot.com/

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  34. I actually was blogging for over a year before I even advertised to my friends and family that I had one. I was worried about their reactions or that they wouldn't "get it," like you said.

    Once I started telling them about it, most of them were supportive, but some of them seemed disinterested in the notion and didn't really give it a second thought. I think that was their way of saying "I don't get it."

    My husband has been so supportive and is always telling me how proud he is, which means the most to me. Especially since I'm always using him for photos or thinking of everything in terms of potential blog posts-which is kind of silly, I know. But he is totally cool with it. (Love him.)

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  35. The truth is I haven't told any of my friends and family about my blog. I just don't think they'd get it. Maybe someday I'll tell them?

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  36. I love that most, if not all bloggers can relate to this post. It's funny, I'm a very private person. I hardley tell anyone secrets and I keep very quiet around my family. But somehow when it comes to blogging, I can say anything I feel, and anything I want. My mom just started following my blog and I feel really weird about it. Many of my friends and family know I blog but I don't want them to read it really. Like you said, you either get it or you don't. Doesn't seem like my family and friends get it! I get made fun of a lot too whenever they do read my posts. It's hard to know how to respond to them when they do because I'm just being myself, but in internet form. Hmm.

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  37. I am extremely lucky that my spouse is extremely supportive of me and my blog. He majored in English and is a huge writer himself. I think he secretly wishes he could have time for a blog but his work schedule barely allows us to see each other let alone add another blog to the relationship. haha He loves learning how to work my manual camera. Luckily once I got it back in my hands I remembered everything fairly fast and can teach him what I know.

    His family and mine seem to be fairly supportive of this. His mom especially. lol. It gives her a chance to feel like she's here with us. He's a mama's boy for sure. :) We also have some mutual friends that know about it and are very supportive of it.

    I think the only person who really feels anxious about sharing it is... well me. I already have enough awkward moments getting funny looks from people who realize "i'm not from around here" so I don't want that kind of reaction from people I know about a blog. I know people who have them but not on the scale of you or even myself. It's more like a personal diary for them.

    I loved your post and I totally wrote a book. I'm sorry!

    xoxohannah
    a cup of subtle tea

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  38. Great question. My husband is super supportive of my blogging and even helps me come up with topics. He constantly reads my blog when a new post comes up, haha.

    My sister is an avid reader of my blog, and my other family members except my mother know about it. I hide it from them generally for a lot of reasons though I think if they found it it wouldn't be the end of the world.

    Rob's family reads but that just be more out of curiosity/nosiness :)

    I found out recently that a LOT of my friends on FB sort of clandestinely read my blog because they write to me telling me so. I agree that "you either get it or you don't" and I'm happy to say I get it, and love it. :)

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  39. It's funny. Two of my extended family just posted comments this week on my blog saying how much they love the fact that I'm posting my thoughts on motherhood & little milestones that AJ is hitting. It makes them feel like so much more of a part of our lives since they live out of state.

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  40. I don't tell many people that I blog, or I'll say it but won't give them my blog link. It is uncomfortable having people I know and talk to on a daily basis read my blog. My husband is very supportive of my blog, I've been doing for years so he knows when I want him to take a picture of me, he knows it will most likely end up on the blog.

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  41. My blog is still in its infancy, but I had a livejournal, and I have been putting things online here and there for at least the last ten years. That said, I haven't really talked about my blog with too many people. I told my brother about it, and a couple close friends who also blog, but beyond that I am very much in the blogging closet. I guess I feel a lot of people wouldn't get it, or they would think it was silly. (Sometimes I think that too.) I'm sure I'll eventually tell more people, but for now I'd rather not make it terribly public.

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  42. Up until recently, I told exactly two people I had a blog. It was my space, my diary. I'm starting to branch out now but it almost makes me feel extremely vulnerable. I'm a pretty open book though, so I'm jumpin' in!

    (My BF has no interest in social media. No FB, no Twitter, no blogs. I don't get how he breathes every day ;)

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  43. everyone in my family says the loves my blog..I mean Im sure they have their opinions but they don't express them to me..Im actually a really quiet person and writing has always been my way to express myself so even though I have only blogged for a year..in that year im figuring out who I am and whats most important to me instead of hiding away...does that make sense? my hubs wasn't too supportive at first BUT he is now! he loves the changes in me {he was the one who told me that im changing and becoming more comfortable with who I am} and i see it too in the smallest things but if thats what blogging does for me then thats AWESOME!! and I really could care less what other people think even family...because blogging is helping me find me :)

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  44. I am kinda torn on this as well. I don't get much feedback. I don't blast my blog everywhere FOR my family and "real life" friends to see. I do post blog updates on my FB every once in awhile, so friends CAN see it IF they choose too. I have two close friends that blog, but not regularly like myself.

    I have had the same fears, about putting personal info out there, stalking, etc, but, then I remind myself, tons of other people do it as well, and I reallyreally enjoy doing it.

    I've met so many people via blogging that I consider friends, and it's such a blessing to find others with the same interests as me. I wish we all lived closer!

    PS - thanks for this topic, I enjoyed reading the comments!

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  45. I don't tell too many people around me about my blog. It's not like I'm trying to hide it, but well, I don't think they'll get it. Even for some people who "do" get it, still makes fun of me every once in a while, like my brother, if he saw me taking out my camera to capture something when we're going out, he'd say something like "It's for aunt's blog!" (referring to his son, who, of course, wouldn't understand) -- And that's from someone who actually DO understand about blogging, can't imagine what the ones who doesn't will say :) But despite of all, I love blogging AND taking pictures for my blog. Sometimes it's funny to think that we find SO many new bloggers everyday, but yet, there are still many who doesn't even know that the world "BLOG" is exist :)

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  46. For the most part, people around me are very supportive. My mom has her own blog, which most family and friends read. My sister blogs sometimes. It's not a foreign concept to a lot of people I know.

    The part that is hard to explain is the connections I've made with people through blogging, tweeting, etc. Tomorrow I'm going wine tasting with some fellow bloggers and it's always a little weird to explain how you know a blogger to someone who isn't plugged into that world.

    On a personal level, knowing that people beyond just close family and friends are reading my blog, I think a lot more about what I'm sharing, how much, how often, how personal, etc. Part of it has to do with personal safety and part has to do with respecting the privacy of people in my life.

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  47. I honestly wonder about some bloggers and how their spouses support them with blogging. In all honesty, no one knows I have a blog in my family. Only my boyfriend and best friend know. It's just something I know they wouldn't understand and they're all about privacy. It's sometimes hard because you do get poked fun at and although I know it's in good fun, it does hit you in a negative way. My best friend supports me so much with it and my boyfriend sort of does, although I wish he would more. All in all, it's not for everyone and some won't understand it and that's fine. In the end, I have fun doing it. :)

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  48. I am a closet blogger. The only one in my family who knows I have a blog is my husband. He is supportive and would definitely let me know if he felt I was sharing too much.

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  49. Originally, I started my blog for myself, but with my family over 600 miles away, it only made sense for me to "share" it with them!

    My mom absolutely loves it - it's the best way for her to see the day-to-day of her only grandchildren.

    My husband is NOT a regular reader, but he is supportive of the fact that I feel the need to document every thing!

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  50. I have been blogging since 2002, so my husband is pretty used to it! Up until 2008 my blog(s) were private. Then I went public. I started pretty sheltered, got a little more personal, and now I'm OUT THERE.

    My family loves it because I live so far away from everyone it's the only way to keep up with me. Same with a lot of my close friends (we're scattered to all corners of the U.S.).

    Do I write about the same things I used to write about when my blogs were private? No way, Jose. But being public has allowed me to make so many new friends, so I wouldn't trade it for the world.

    Plus, a writer's gotta write, y'know?

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  51. I love the perspective my blog gives me on my own life and the feedback I get from family and friends who read it is so far very nice. My husband loves to make fun of me all the time for blogging but still supports and accepts my need to document everything in our life! He only has patience to take one or two photos for me, but at least he does it at all! I mix the blog up with both business and personal posts and I am careful never to get too personal, just for privacy sakes and safety. I am just not brave enough to post anything too revealing! Truly very few people read my blog that don't know me in real life, although I'd love to change that as I put so much effort into it. Regarding yours, it is your personal posts that drew me too your blog to begin with, but your mixture of content keeps me coming back, even if you choose never to get too personal again I am a loyal follower! :) I too contemplate the amount of time in my life it takes up! But I am addicted, I can't stop!

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  52. My boyfriend is actually really supportive. He usually reminds me to take pictures (or does it for me!) and gives me post ideas. On the other hand, he also gets concerned about me getting too personal. The only other person that knows about my blog is my best friend and she has one as well, so she understands. I don't tell my friends about my blog because I don't want their opinions to make me second guess what I'm doing. None of my family members know about it either. I wouldn't be at all upset if my friends and family found my blog but I'm not going out of my way to give them the link. :) Someday I may share with them but at this point in my life I enjoy posting for myself and anyone else who stumbles across my blog.

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  53. My parents both read my blog & my dad gets excited when he's included in it! My partner teases me a bit bur also encourages me to take photo@s for it & my friends don't really get it at all! I love it though :)

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  54. I love blogging and I have for years now, even though I blogged somewhere else at the time. I'm usually very apprehensive about telling my friends because I don't want them to think it's "weird." My boyfriend just sort of found out one day and he is supportive but doesn't really read my blog. My sister reads it from time to time. My dad knows I have a blog but I don't even think he ever really thinks about it lol.

    I do think that a lot of "real life" people don't "get" blogging...to me it's just a creative outlet, you know?

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  55. It's weird, the people I want to read my blog don't. Or they don't admit it. And the people who do are kind of random people from my work-life or I knew in high school which makes me uncomfortable sometimes.

    I know a lot of people think it's really self-serving and narcissistic to write a blog, they don't get that there's an entire community and it's not just me saying what I ate for lunch and stuff like that.

    A lot of the time I deny writing a blog or changing the subject as fast as I can, it still feels embarrassing to me, like it should be a secret.

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  56. I usually don't read many comments on peoples blog posts but learning about everyones experiences is so interesting! I would have never known how some of my favorite bloggers deal with it in the "real world". My husband, like yours Danielle, is very supportive. My friends vary. Some are and think it's cool while others have seen it and never bring it up (super wierd). I've dealt with a lot of "whys" too. I think blogging is great for me because I am a very quiet, private person, and while it may seem weird that I have a blog, I feel it's easier to express myself by writing. Plus, it has been great making friends with girls all over the country with similar interests. Thanks for bringing up this great topic!

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  57. My family seem to be supportive, but for the most part, I don't think they "get it". I get made fun of often from friends. I think most people find it nerdy. My fiancé is much more worried about my safety. I keep it to myself and to those who understand and my readers who seem to enjoy my blog. =)

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  58. My family and friends are supportive, but they don't really "get it". One of my best friends blogs so that's awesome, but my boyfriend doesn't like sharing things about his life even though he was a singer of a band. My mom thinks its a fun thing so its more positive than negative.

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  59. I've had both ends of the spectrum when it came to support for my blogging. The most interesting/different aspect has been what I have been able to share in the past and what I can now (being in the middle of a divorce and custody dispute) in order to respect everyone's privacy. It certainly has taken an aspect of blogging away from me but also opened other avenues of blogging and the blog world, for which I am thankful.

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  60. My friends and family seem to like it but they get super shocked when I tell them about the followers (160+ - the majority of which I don't know personally) or my page hits. Fortunately I have not had any negative backlash to date or snarky commenters.

    Honestly blogging feels safer than Facebook! It's more creative and it's an amazing creative way to connect with others. I love it!!!

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  61. My husband is the same, super supportive but super private. I can post about anything I want, but I leave out the fights and negativity, that's not what I want to reflect on. Also, he has one request {which is a big one} no photos of our daughter's face. Her privacy is a big deal and he wants her to be safe, when I see all the mommy blogs out there... sometimes I think the same thing. If there's too much info about my daughter or where we live, it's a risk so I happily keep her private :) but I'm glad you share little Henry, cause he's just the cutest!

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  62. When I started blogging there weren't many of us around. I don't think "blogging" was even a word that we were using back then. It was a strange time to be publishing online because so few people in my real life understood why you would want to do it. I didn't take it too seriously, but it was a lot of fun and I met some great people over the years.

    Ultimately my blog cost me the friendship of my closest friend. I never wrote about her, I was never controversial - she simply didn't "get it" and the traffic and interaction with strangers made her extremely anxious. She decided that it was weird, and that I was weird for participating in it.

    I never chose my blog over our friendship - she never gave me the chance.

    Blogging isn't taboo anymore - it's become a mainstream way of sharing your thoughts, experience, and keeping in touch with faraway loved ones. I don't tell everybody about my blog, but I'm a lot more comfortable telling people than I used to be!

    I think that if my friend and I had been facing this issue in these times it would have ended a lot differently.

    Apparently she has a blog now too...

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  63. I am a newer blogger so I haven't been doing it for very long.But no one in my family nor anyone else I know offline knows about my blog. It is very hard for me to share anything normally anyhow and to have people I know offline actually reading it and possibly disliking or being weirded out by what I write would be too much stress & uncomfortable to me. I like that having a blog gives me a place to write things important to me without the worry of people I know criticizing it. I'm sure everyone would not "get" it and that's why I choose to keep it to myself.

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  64. I used to have a bigger blog at the start of last year, and had lots of stuff going on off-line so I stopped blogging. While I did have it, my friends were very supportive, I used to take pictures of EVERYTHING I did and have little photo stories of my day. I used to have lots of dinner parties and drink nights at my house. And one night I had a girls night, my friend said to me 'I thought about my outfit tonight because I wanted to look good on your blog'! Ha!

    I've started blogging again this year with a similar feel or taking photos of what I do, but to a much lesser extreme, and I include my illustrations this year which has added a different element. My husband is very supportive, he is always up for a good photo pose! I haven't really told as many people about my new blog, I wanted to develop it a bit more before I shared. My mum read it in bed the other evening & she liked it. So i must be doing something right!

    Lauren xx
    http://tasteslikelove.blogspot.com

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  65. My husband is super supportive...until it takes too long for my pictures to load. Ha, I can't really fault him for wanting to spend time with me though can I?

    With friends, some love it and some make fun of it. And who really knows what they think and hold back? I've had an interaction like this "Oooh, I like this pizza!" "Oooh, that's totally something you should blog about." Internally "Ugh, I feel stupid."

    As far as my family.. Without any notice or link to my new site I just left a blog I had written for over 3 years and built up followers on because of family. It wasn't because they were specifically unsupportive of blogging. They were just unsupportive in general and I felt like my blog was no longer a space where I could be open, honest, and feel comfortable. SO, now I'm in a new place and happily being me. :)

    So, now I blog but I haven't told anyone in my everyday life about it. I find that I actually like my blogging a lot more because of it!

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  66. I've only been at this about 2 months and I think it's crazy how my situation is so similar to yours. I get the same questions, I have family that doesn't know about it, and I am loving it, yet it does take a lot of time. I am trying to find that balance. It is great to know I am not alone in this. Ironically, if someone had told me about their blog a year ago I would ask the same questions. I had no idea this world was out there. I'm glad I am apart of it now.

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  67. I feel odd about my bog because it doesn't really have a purpose or a raison d'être. I've been using it these past few weeks to share my holiday pics so I have been sharing it with my family and friends but otherwise I tend to keep it to myself. I prefer the idea of the anonymous Internet reading it rather than people I know. Fortunately my fiancee understands why I blog and supports it and it isn't big enough for anyone else to question.
    I haven't posted pictures of my friends online and I think that asking them if I can feature them on my blog has put me off. Instead I work around it. Perhaps this is holdingn me back? Food for thought!

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  68. hey sista! well as you know I am grateful for blogging because I have found a wonderful real life friendship with you :) But overall I will say that many around me find it rather weird. How can you be 'friends' with someone you've never met, etc. same things we've talked about alot. But just the other night I looked back on old posts of when Logan was a baby and realized I LOVE my virtual diary and I only wish I had started it when Noah was a baby too. But that is mainly why I have scaled back from anything other than family photo posts and took off comments and followers and deleted twitter. It's not a business for me, I wouldn't be good at it that way. But I will say my sweet friend; you have found your nitch perfectly!

    love to you xoxoxo

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  69. My family is really supportive of my blog although they do make fun of me for it. I think they are just trying to be nice though.

    Some of my co-workers at work found my blog before I had really told anyone about it. It was kind of awkward because blogging is so personal. I don't really care anymore. It's public and on the internet so of course they'd find out sometime.

    As for my friends. Only a few know and they read all the time and always offer to take pictures and stuff for me. xo fv

    http://aneclecticheap.blogspot.com/

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  70. My family is pretty supportive of it. My mom is super worried about stalkers and the like which is incredibly stressful to be reminded about. I don't think my dad has ever looked at it. The rest of my family is really excited about it and loves it. My husband, like yours, is amazingly supportive. I really do it for myself. I love the creative outlet.

    Kacie
    http://www.acollectionofpassions.com/

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  71. My family is so supportive! My parents read my blog all the time and tell their friends about it as well. Plus, my Dad has even used it as a conversation piece to writers and social media people he talks to at his business. My blog technically only has two followers, my amazing boyfriend and one of my best friends. They both read it all the time and always give me good advice or praise for it. Even if no one read it at all, I just love having it as an outlit and a creative space!

    http://sarahmarielmacom.blogspot.com

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  72. My family knows that I have a blog but they don't really 'get it'. My husband,on the other hand,is supportive of my blog. However,whenever I share photos of us (which is a rarity but still...) I ask him first,because he's a private person and so am I. Overall,blogging should be for you and you only,a form of expression. I can't really say too much though,I haven't been blogging very long. Take care! :)

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  73. I was SUPER hesitant to share my blog with my friends and family at first. But once I did it, I felt such a weight lifted off of my shoulders. As cliche as that sounds, it's true! I think being honest and open about it with the people that you love and that love you is the best way to do it. I see my blog as an extension of me as a person. I wouldn't want to hide it from anyone in any way. It would feel like lying in some weird way.

    I'm lucky enough to have super supportive friends and family who love reading my blog. I really haven't been met with any negativity thus far. Fingers crossed it stays that way :)

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  74. I started a blog when myhusband was on tour with his band so he had something to read about his family. He was the blogs one and only reader. He is back now and I still write the blog and he reads it and keeps telling me to let the public read it but I am not sure I want to do that. First I don't know if it is any good, second blogging in Germany isn't very big and I think people mostly consider it weird (my inlaws certainly would anyway). I love reading blogs like yours and it actually inspired my blog in the first place but I am so not sure what to do with mine...

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  75. well, I just started blogging a couple of months ago so I don't know it I count ^^

    I thought about making a blog for months on months before I started. Except for my boyfriend I have not told anybody about it. Mostly, because of reasons of negativity that they seem to have. I only have a couple of people that I would call real friends and the rest just does not share the same interests or, like you said, would just not get it. I rant and rave about this farely often on my blog. It's sad that people would bring you down about something that you like so much...sadly that is just what they would do.
    I love sharing things, I basically made it my profession and am becoming a photographer. Early memories are from me sitting by my grandparents looking at photo albums.

    anyway.... I love blogging, sharing...and especially, finding wonderful people that have the same interests. I think I would tell anybody who would get it....but I just don't know anybody who would ^^

    xoxoxo
    Melanie

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  76. I first started writing many moons ago before it was ever popular. I used to have an awesome group of internet friends, but I couldn't share that with anyone, because it wasn't socially acceptable at the time. I cultivated this grouped and even gained some fame. I probably could've gone pro with writing then, but that wasn't done.

    As for now, I don't love it. I like it. I need it. It's a hobby and also a commitment. I need to do something creative, but I'm certainly not writing in the manner I used to. I have very few readers, but I like my subject matter, so I'm going to stick with it.

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  77. My blog is intended to be an outlet for me. It helps me to be able to write things down and then go back later and read them. I don't like writing a lot by hand (it makes my hand hurt and I enjoy spell check). I tried keeping a journal in a word doc a couple of times, but would eventually stop writing. The idea of a blog online that someone else could read is enough to keep me writing, even though I'm not writing for anyone but myself.

    My husband reads by blog regularly. He likes to be able to read the inner workings of my head. Even though we talk all the time, what I write is sometimes different from what I might say out loud. He thinks a lot of what I write is funny, and the sad stuff helps him understand how hard some things are for me (I have multiple food allergies and anxiety).

    No one else (friends or family) knows about my blog. It's too personal and there's a lot of things the I've written about (and will write about) that I wouldn't share with them. Somethings that they've done that hurt me, etc. My dad would totally stalk my blog. I got rid of my facebook because I didn't like how some "friends" who were not being very good friends would not talk to me in the regular world or respond to my attempts at conversation on fb (this is over months, I'm not talking about a week where we didn't get along). And my parents wouldn't have anything to talk about on the phone and would say "oh yeah I already saw that on your fb".

    I enjoy the online community where I can interact with people with similar interests. This may sound odd, but it's an emotionally safe environment for me. I don't have to worry why you (this is a general "you") didn't return my phone call because you don't have my phone number. I don't have to worry about why you never come to our dinner parties because we don't live near each other and wouldn't know it if we did because my blog is anonymous.

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  78. I haven't told a lot of my friends and family about it. I have mentioned it once or twice but I don't really advertise that I have it. If they are ever included in it I don't put anything up that would make them feel like I was just disregarding their privacy.
    I don't really know how they would percieve it. Maybe that's why I haven't told them.
    I started my blog because I needed somewhere to write my thoughts and life happenings and somewhere to post my pictures as I learn more about photography.
    I don't think I really have a following now (which is just fine- like I said it's more for me) but I write as if I do- as to be careful with what I post. But I do that with any social networking. I don't post things that could alienate any of my family or friends.
    I think when I move away I will tell my family/friends more about it so they can keep up with me better but as of right now unless they ask about it I don't really say too much

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  79. I've always loved to write/create so having a blog is a natural outlet for me. Before blogging was a thing, I wrote for my school newspaper, made my own zines and drew comics - no one would have said the nature of those mediums were shallow or narcissistic. Where does the stigma come from? Blog content varies enormously, just like any media, and it's not fair to stigmatize blogging based on stereotypes like perceived narcism, etc. In that case, wouldn't other forms of personal expression be narcissistic and shallow too?

    I don't think it's lame. It's awesome! Like Moorea said, I think it's a great way to connect with a community or customer base. I think it is refreshing and genuine when a business takes time to share these things. In my case, it is just a creative outlet and I think my family and friends like to see what we're up to. I always try to portray the same person on-line as I am in real life. I think that's important. I've never really had any negative feedback, but my blog has a relatively small audience.

    None of my IRL friends have blogs either, and I was a little curious what their perception was or if they even read it. Once I posted a reader's poll and I was so surprised to find that lots of friends checked it out and were into it, though they didn't comment. In fact, despite my content being centered around cutesy things, crafts, recipes, daily life, I discovered that most of my husband's dude friends read it regularly! Heehe. :)

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  80. Being a military family I find blogging to be tricky. I have to edit a lot of what I say for OPSEC reasons but also because some people are just way too nosy. I had my first blog for a little over a year and had to take it down because a fellow military wife was trying to use my blog against me. I found it horribly intrusive and scary.
    So the blog I have now is very vague and will almost never have pictures of my husband or really mention my "real" life.
    As for my family, they live in a area where there is still dial up internet so my dad is just happy to be able to read his e-mail occasionally. Being a retired cop though he is not real happy about me putting my life out there on the internet so we don't talk about my blogging.
    I look forward to the day I can be a lot more open about my blogging and and make more connections thru it :)

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  81. Hi Danielle!

    I write two blogs, a crafting blog and a baby blog. I decided to keep both seperate as a way to keep something that's just me, just mine :) I don't have much family, but my mother and immediate inlaws, as well as my husband and friends follow my blogs. They all especially like my baby blog since it's a nice way to get daily snapshots of my daughter.

    My baby blog isn't actually anything super special compared to others: I take nice photos, a lot of instagrams. I sometimes make long posts about our weekend or special events. Since the blog isn't public and isn't necessarily followed by a blogger audience, they all think it's rather fantastic :)

    I know that mostly everyone around me would be either angry or would not understand why I would make my blog public because of security reasons. I'm sometimes a little sad I can't reach a larger audience because I'm quite proud of some of my photos and I like the design I made for the blog.

    Sometimes I feel a little guilty taking a half hour posting in the evening but my husband usually obliges and thinks it's awesome that I'm making this online baby album :)

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  82. I just started blogging after my husband died last month and have too already gotten mixed reactions from family members. My blog is mainly my son(22 months) and I's journey in this new life we were handed. I have to sensor some things for certain family members. Making it difficult at times because I can't always write what I really think and feel in that moment. Maybe one day!

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  83. Blogging world took me awhile to get comfortable. Before the blogging world I used too go to the chatting room. I used to have 1-3 stalkers and it freaks me out. Ever since those incidents I am very careful of the information I share. My husband & siblings are very reserve so I have to be careful. None of my family members know my new blog link. Some knows the old ones. I only give to selected friends or online people. Otherwise this blog is my outlet actually & learning as I go. If my family and relative must find me. They can either find me on Facebook, emails, call or meet me. If they really want to know if I have a blog I am willing to share but they also know I change my blog link often.

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  84. Also, WOW! So many thoughtful, genuine comments! Every person here has shared a personal experience and I think it is so great and inspiring that you have such an awesome community here. This is also why we blog. You've got something special here, Danielle. :)

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  85. I've only had positive responses, but I don't have a lot of followers. It's mainly friends on facebook & my family that read my blog. My family (esp. my Dad) like to keep up with what I'm doing and how I'm feeling. I tend to be a quiet & reserved person, so I think the blog reveals things about myself that might normally not surface. My husband wonders why I am so interested in other people (strangers) + why I read people's blogs. It's a hard thing to explain to people.

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  86. My husband and about 2 close friends know I have a blog and read it. No one else that i know, knows I have one (or at least I don't think they know)

    My husband wants me to come out about my blog to everyone, but I don't know. It's not that I am ashamed about it, it's just that I don't feel like I can be "me" if everyone knows about it. (Know what I mean?)

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  87. One time I went to visit my parents and when my Mom opened her laptop so we could look something up, my blog was open on the screen. It really made me smile to see that she had been keeping tabs on me, and she sort of blushed and said she had been showing my uncle.

    It feels good that, so far, everyone I've showed my blog to in my family has thought it was neat and has sort of been proud of me. My Mr. is incredible, probably the same way that yours is. He takes photos, and always tells me when I've made a grammatical error, or if my links don't work.

    I do fear, though, that someone in my family won't get it and will give me a hard time. I guess that only time will tell!

    xx.

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  88. My partner encouraged me to start my blogging experience and he supports it fully. My friends and family seem to think its a good thing but then there are others who think its odd... I just do what I love.
    I love reading your blog :)

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  89. My friends and family are supportive of my blog. I don't walk around shouting it from the roof tops that I have a blog but I do tell people if I think they'd like it, or something related to it (like say this blog).

    I did get an email from a friend after I posted about sewing and using budgeting envelopes. He was concerned we were advertising that there's cash in our house and what we keep it in. I'm not worried :)

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  90. I think for a good long while, my friends and family just didn't quite "get it", ya know? But now, they all seem to understand that I'm SO happy with my blog, and the strangers who email, come up to me at the farmer's market and msg me on Twitter/FB make my heart swoon! Such darlings! I'm honoured for each and every soul who graces the pages of my blog.

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  91. What a great post! I am fairly new to the Blog World. I kept it a secret in the beginning. I wasn't really sure where I was going with it and lacked confidence in my vision. I didn't feel like having to defend myself. I've opened up a bit since then and shared my blog with a few close friends and family.

    I don't do Facebook or Twitter (well, I set one up just to get on Pinterest ;). I'm still finding my way around the blogosphere and without other social networks it is a bit harder to gain followers. But that's not really what it's all about is it? Even if what I write only makes one persons day better or makes them smile, it's worth it.

    I love blogging. Not everyone understands it and I am okay with that. It's my little space for people that do understand.

    http://every-daydreamer.blogspot.com

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  92. Wow! reading all of these thoughts on the subject is awesome! I just started blogging a few months a ago. I'm still trying to figure out my voice and what it is I'm attempting to do in this blogging community. I thought it would be a great way to exercise my writing skills and connect with other people. And I have to admit it can be a little overwhelming. I just hope in time it falls into place for me.

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  93. This is such a good post! My parents LOVEEEE it...my mom is always showing it to people. So far, I've only received positive feedback on my blog but I suspect there are distant friends/family that might not get it but choose to just remain silent on the topic. :) In the end, I do my blog for me and don't get too crazy with sharing...so even if no one reads, it makes me happy. :)

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  94. Ah - same exact thing for me. Not everyone will get it. at all. And that is okay with me.
    I adore blogging and keeping a little space to put some of my most special memories in - things I don't want to forget, feelings I want to re-feel someday. My closest friends and family do understand it and are so very supportive of it, which I love. Adam loves my blog and texts me sometimes after he reads he post he really likes.

    I love feeling like I know other people too. I mean, I'm pretty sure you and I are soul sisters afterall. Thank you blogging for that. :]

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  95. i've thought about this a lot recently as often times i find that i kind of hide my blogging from people...other than close friends and family and of course my boyfriend mikey...and i really don't know why. i'm not ashamed of my blog, i'm actually usually really proud of it but for whatever reason if it's ever brought up around 'strangers' i usually don't discuss my little corner of the internet. i wish that i could be 100% out there with my blog and am hoping one day i won't be embarassed or worried about what other people might say about me based on my blog.

    as you said, some ppl 'get' it, others don't...and i guess i'm worried about what the ones who don't get it, would say.

    that being said, i think one of the reasons why i love the blogging community is because i feel such a sense of community with everyone in it, because we all 'get' it and i really love that about it!! i've made so many great friendships through blogging and i feel sad for people who judge it as they're missing out on so much!!

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  96. I don't really think that my family and friends understand it either. I've been blogging since 2000 and while I probably don't have an audience at all (nevermind a large one) I enjoy the experience. I've always been quite specific about the things I post -- sometimes I don't know how to articulate bad things that have happened in a useful way, or one that I know I won't regret if I read it back later, but I've tried lately to share more things for my own self, to remember experiences and how or why I did things.

    As far as I'm aware, my friends and family are 'lurkers' at best on my blog, if they read it at all. They just aren't into online things quite as much as I am, I guess

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  97. my partner is good about it, he even has my blog in his reader :) he always makes a point of telling me he liked something in my blog. So sweet.

    some of my family lurk my blog, they'll sometimes mention something and I wonder "how did they know that?!?". Then I realise it's because they've been on my blog. I don't think my momma or dad read my blog, though which is good. I don't want them to see when I go on a rant, or use naughty words!

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  98. it's actually odd that i have a blog because i am a very private person and can't stand nosey people. however i love being able to journal my life and know that i can revisit things that have happend as i document them. i do cut back quite a bit in posts if the topic isn't about me directly, and i take pictures that don't fully show all of the surroundings but only small bits, i don't really even include myself in pics that much. i don't want to hurt anyones feels or make anyone upset with my blog, but then again, i also feel that if you don't like it then don't read it. first and foremost my blog is for me and if others want to check it out they are welcome to. my hubs fully supports my decision to blog, he knows that it's something that i have wanted to do for a long time, but he's not much of a computer person and doesn't really pay much attention to it. go bloggers go!

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  99. My sisters look at my blog sometimes, especially if we haven't seen each other in a while. The man I live with rolls his eyes, but secretly reads it sometimes. I started out not telling anyone about it, but now do let some of my friends and stuff know because it has become something I am actually quite proud of.
    Jess
    xx

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  100. I actually didn't even tell my boyfriend/baby daddy about my blog b/c I know how much he dislikes/doesn't get social media. I never use names in my blog, and like you, don't disclose anything too personal. I typically promote it via Twitter since many of my "real"friends don't use it. I have friends who follow my blog, but otherwise many of the people I interact with in person either don't care for blogging or just don't get why I do it. It's my own guilty pleasure, and I love it.

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  101. This was really interesting to read. I just recently started a blog a little over a month ago, and I have already become so devoted that it's easily a big part of my life right now.

    Mainly, I started it to spread the good word on some of the major choices we make as parents - causes that are near and dear to me - but also because I am a writer and having something to write for every day makes me a happier, clearer, more productive human.

    It is my belief that sharing oneself, or even one's family, is a beautiful thing. It is transacting with your community. I talk about how important I see this in my very first post.

    Bloggers such as yourself are connecting and sharing a unique, special lifestyle with your readers. Maybe other people make a lot of the same choices as you, but no one does it exactly the same. No one else is a beautifully tattooed, former English teacher, new mama to Henry, wife to Hank, living in Prescott, Arizona. And people are interested.

    I think that says a lot about the world we live in, and it gives me hope.

    What you've built is an accomplishment and a good thing. Be proud. I can only hope to be graced with half your readership one day.

    xo.

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  102. I just started blogging again, for public consumption (abandoned my friend-only livejournal after college) a few months ago in a joint effort with my friend. I have a desire to remain anonymous to my friends and family, the "me-time" outlet it provides is cathartic in the sense that I'm not held accountable to anyone except myself. I don't post it on my facebook, I haven't told my friends (save for a few of them) and I don't talk about it with anyone. I just ~go with it~. Eventually, I think, I'd like to engage friends, an especially engage my boyfriend, but, like Hank, he's very private. I make it a point to think about the things I post before I post them to make sure they wouldn't upset my friends or family, or post them in a way that isn't too revealing without holding too much back. It's still new, so I'm working out the kinks, but I love it and I don't ever want to stop. I love your blog, it's an inspiration. Thank you :)

    http://candiedhearts.com/ (it's a pun on candid hearts...but most people don't get it. oh well!)

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  103. i really enjoyed reading this post! i relate to a lot of what you say - and certainly find my blogging space to be a creative outlet, even if the whole world doesn't know that it exists. :)

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  104. I've been blogging over a year now and I love it. I do get weirded out that there are people I don't know (and never comment) who read about my life, but it's easy to forget about that since I don't know them and for all I know they could be following and not reading, you know? Pretty much everyone I know well knows I blog. My mom and sister read every post, which I appreciate. I tried to explain to Grandpa, but he never understood. I do wonder about putting so much out there, but for now I'm loving it.

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  105. Good topic :)

    Considering I've been sharing online since 95-96 (half my life) most close to me are used to it. However with Facebook etc and me getting older ive found I hold back more. Im more professional & aren't as open about my views.

    I wish more of my family & extended family did read and share my work. It hurts sometimes & they dont realise or acknowledge the time & effort involved.

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