Wednesday, September 7, 2011

On being a Mom with tattoos



Check out this week's column, all about being a heavily tattooed mama! I'd love to hear your thoughts!

33 comments:

  1. Beautifully written! My husband and I have tattoos now, but none of mine are visible. I plan on getting a back piece this fall and I am so excited! We don't get many looks because my husband is a marine... and well, I'm sure you can imagine. Most people we know here are "heavily tattooed". We adore skin art and we hope our children will be accepting. I think it's a great point that raising children in an open and accepting household will do them more good than hiding them from everything. You seem like a fantastic momma and your art is beautiful!

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  2. Love it!

    I'm a step-mom so my experience is different than having a babe of my own but someday I will and I totally agree about raising kids that see the world without any stereotypes.

    My boyfriend and I are both heavily tattooed and his son doesn't see us any different. He doesn't look at people weird and it's just commonplace for him.

    I work in a law firm where I am always covered up and it would be interesting to hear my co-workers thoughts when they find out I have tattoos. I hope to break that mold too.

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  3. I think your tattoos are beautiful!
    I love the thumb suck/finger curl on the nose! Adorable!

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  4. Really, really well written. You rock those tattoos, lady.

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  5. Loved reading this! I'm moderately tattooed (though the eventual goal is probably to be heavily tattooed) and it's so funny what a 180 it was when I got my first visible tattoo, a half-sleeve on my left arm.

    Rob and I talk about what our kids will think of our tattoos. We joke that our kids won't want to get them at least in their teens because it's not an effective rebellion :) I do hope that our kids learn something about acceptance, as you hope for Henry. And I like busting tattoo stereotypes too...I look like a pretty sheltered conservative lady and people are always shocked to find what lies beneath.

    Thanks for another great article, Danielle.

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  6. While I can't consider myself "heavily" tattooed, I have enough ink to make me ponder what my future children will think of it, and/or what I will tell them about it when they ask. I really like your stance of using tattoos as a way to teach your kids to accept the differences among people...

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  7. I have always loved tattoos. i think they are beautiful. My best friend is heavily tattooed, has a chest piece and everything. She is STUNNING! very girly and her tattoos just top it all off. i come from a VERY conservative family though and have to hide my tattoos :( i wish i was brave

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  8. I love it! Growing up my family kinda "looked down" on tattooed and pierced people so it was quit the shocker when I got the few small ones I have now. If my husband loved them more (he doesn't hate them but he doesn't love them either) I'd get loads more! But for now I wish he'd just get one himself. My daughter has never known me without them and she occasionally talks about "when she gets a tattoo" and I'll be the first person to take her to get one!

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  9. What a great article!
    My boyfriend and I are a heavily tattooed couple as well.
    We joke around a lot about our future kids basically having only two options: loving or hating tattoos. :D
    But honestly, I think you're absolutely right with what you're saying about teaching kids to be tolerant and not judging.

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  10. I really liked that post, especially the bit about meeting your old coworkers. As a person who could be perceived as heavily tattooed (it's funny how a chest piece does that) and as a nanny, I know I've been turned down for jobs because of my tattoos. I dislike it, because there are parents out there who are teaching their children that a person with tattoos should not be welcomed into their home to give amazing care to their children...but you know, that's life. People have to make those decisions and stand by what they teach their children. I think it's nice to have such a "sweet" mom who is also a tattooed person. I think we are breaking down stereotypes.

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  11. I am by NO means heavily tattooed but agree with what you hope to teach your sweet boy!
    My daughter loves my tattoos and regularly checks to make sure they are still there.
    She sees them as a common place part of me; like my nose or glasses- though she was older when I got both.
    The classroom is the place I have been most surprised by reactions (a former high school english teacher, myself) I tried at first to be discreet but then realized most people totally ignored them or wanted to know all about them!

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  13. When I got my first tattoo at age 23, my mom was SO mad at me! Ten years later, when I got my second tattoo, guess who right beside me, getting HER OWN tattoo?! :) My mother! <3

    The link to the post is here:

    http://amandamaddox.blogspot.com/2011/03/3-little-birds.html

    P.S. She's bald because she had just participated in a St. Baldrick's fund-raiser/head shaving event with my husband that morning.

    My mom rocks! :)

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  14. Great article, congrats!!! it's very inspired, for those that has tattoo, I want my first, this year, it's for my dad, he past away one month a go, I want the first mean something special!! :) continue with your life, sometimes people don't understand others...happens in everywhere, in my country EL Salvador, most of salvadorean don't accept tattoos, piercings, undeground style :S but I don't care.

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  15. I am in education myself, and I guess luckily most of my tattoos aren't easy to spot. I think when coworkers have spotted them they are surprised, and I hope that I broke a stereotype too. Great post.
    Marie @ Lemondrop ViNtAge

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  16. Acceptance is such an important value we should teach our children. Despite personal opinions we should accept everyone for who they are and teach our kids the same. This was great and shows sensitivity to motherhood.

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  17. people always ask me what i'm going to do when i have kids. i have one half sleeve 99% done, i've started my next one, and have designs on leg pieces as well as having my feet already completed. i get a lot of stares from old ladies and people touching me all the time, which i'm not much a fan of but have become used to, but the thing that bothers me most is the question of what i will tell my children. what will i tell my children? the same thing anyone would tell their children about anything, right?

    Lauren @ See Parrot

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  18. Love your tattoos and enjoyed your article. I have 3 tattoos and right now keep them hidden. I am working up to getting more visible tattoos but for now they are hidden and private and I kind of enjoy that. After reading you on hellogiggles I'm going to start following your blog.

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  19. You convince me to do "that" :) everytime I read your blog I think of art I wanna have on my body. I`ve got no any tattoo, but I`m sure it`s not for long...

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  20. You convince me to do "that" :) everytime I read your blog I think of art I wanna have on my body. I`ve got no any tattoo, but I`m sure it`s not for long...

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  21. I'm so glad you posted this! I've been thinking about getting my first tattoo soon and I have been thinking a lot about what will happen when I have kids someday. XO, Rae

    http://aneclecticheap.blogspot.com/

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  22. this is beautiful.
    i love tattooed parents.
    there's nothing wrong about that.
    Farbwahn

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  23. loved your article. and!i have been humming and hawing about getting tattooed for at least 5 years. thanks to your tattoo tuesdays i actually went and finally had something done. :) i love it. i'm 32 with my first tattoos's and a big part of it is thanks to you and tattoo tuesdays. i have loved your perspective on them and have learned so much from all the stories of your contributors. i researched my artist, took it seriously and now! i have the best ink on my skin. :) thanks again. love your blog.

    rachelle
    steinbach mb canada
    (hyper conservative small town. my 6 word script on my inside forearm causes a stir. :D

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  24. The first time I saw a picture of you I thought "wow she's REALLY beautiful" my second thought was "where does she find all these amazing dresses & outfits to compliment her beautiful tattoos!" The lessons you are teaching Henry are so valuable!

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  25. i love this! i've got a handful of tattoos, but only a couple are visible. my youngest son is henry's age, and doesn't pay much attention to them. but my oldest son (who is four) loves them, and will often have me draw tattoos on him with marker or eye liner.

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  26. I couldn't comment on Hello Giggles, but I wanted to tell you your post was so good. So, so good. I liked what one reader said about not understanding how someone could just flip through a book and pick something out on the spot. I don't have any tattoos, but only because I never thought of something that seemed special enough to me. Until the last year. I have something in mind that I know would be really important to me, and where I'd get the tattoo...I've thought it all out. It's actually two tattoos. You can probably guess why, given my two girls;) Paul has tattoos and is getting another one soon, so maybe I'll do it then if I can work up the nerve. Anyway, I loved this.

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  27. that's so funny your ex coworkers said that to you. The same thing happened to me after working at a daycare for 3 years. A mom told me she always thought I was an apple pie girl next door.
    Now being pregnant and tattooed walking around I get the most dirty looks I have ever got!

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  28. Hey Danielle!

    I'm a new reader to your blog and I love it. Keep up the good work!

    On tattoos, I would consider getting one, but I've just never been decisive enough to choose something to have on my body forever.

    Plus I'm living in Japan now for the moment, where tattoos are strongly associated with the yakuza and so less accepted than they are in the west.

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  29. I loved reading this! My boyfriend and I both have tattoos and I know that look too well...like being sweet and having tattoos is not something you can both be...

    Love,
    Lotta

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  30. Great post on Giggles. My husband and I got back and forth on if I should extend my sleeve past my elbow. He keeps mentioning " but, when we have kids... the other moms will judge you" Um, pretty sure I am already getting judged, so why not get the ink I want!? Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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  31. My husband and I just had our first baby last Tuesday so I am new to the whole mom thing but I am heavily tattooed. I have a chest piece, one of my legs pretty covered from the knee down, a half sleeve, and some script on my upper back. My husband is also pretty covered. I've always gotten weird/dirty looks and like you people will ask me about them and touch my arm and all sorts of weird things pretty much everywhere I go! When I was pregnant I felt like I got even more dirty looks and now being a mom (I haven't been out and about much yet...) I am sure I will get many more nasty looks from people. Oh well! Like you, my husband and I want to raise our children to accept everyone however they are! We've also had the conversation about how Ava (our new baby) might think we're totally awesome or totally crazy! lol. I think being raised by tattooed parents our children will see it as normal though.. :)

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  32. I'm not into tattoos - I almost got one when I was 18 or 19 (now I'm 28) and I'm kindda glad I didn't cause I'm the kind of person that would regret it. I actually think they are quite beautiful but I'm pretty sure I would hate

    Yet another stereotype busted!!

    Have a great weekend!




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