Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Thank you to all of the bad times.

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Man oh man. Could a piece of paper be more on point? I love it, and really enjoy this simple reminder to be in the present- to be in the now. It's far too easy to think your ship is off course; to begin to believe that missteps or bad choices you've made have ruined things, slowed you down, or stopped progress all together. But really, it's all part of a huge, open-ended journey. There have been so many things in my past that I've felt regretful about. And sure, "no regrets" is a great mantra, but in reality it's hard to look at things you view negatively in such a flippant light. If you get down to the nitty-gritty of it though, here you are now. Right here. And you wouldn't be right here without that, that, or even that. As for me, I like where I am. In fact, I love it. So in a strange way, I thank all of those bad times, the sad ones too, for being a part of this trip. Thank you, boy who broke my heart, way back when.  You somehow made me realize that good guys really are the best guys. That jerks aren't worth my time, and if I don't value myself, no one will. Thank you, ex-friend who ruined so many good memories, thank you for indirectly pointing out that you really are the company you keep. Thank you bad choices, who peppered high school with then-excitement, now-cringe-worthy moments. I appreciate all of those naive choices, wild adventures and crazy times. I'm so grateful for the boys I've dated, the people I've met, tears, anger, sadness, stress, all of it. It's all a huge part of this tapestry I've been weaving. Piece by piece. Step by step. It's a ladder, a map, a road, a path. I don't even know where it's going, but I've come to realize that cursing the past only tarnishes the future. It discounts all the work you've done to get where you are. Accepting that all of it has brought you here, to this place...that is priceless. So today when I found myself reading that quote up there I was filled with a deep happiness. I felt joyful. For a long time now I've loved where I am, and I've loved the path I'm on, and today I was reminded of just how important that is. And perhaps you'll enjoy the reminder, too. Love you all!

38 comments:

  1. What a lovely post! It's refreshing to see someone so happy! Thank you for sharing your thoughts c: xx

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  2. Thank you!It is crazy how much I really needed to hear this today!!!

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  3. was just thinking about this today. How I am not longer anxious or stressed over bad relationships/ bad friendships just things that have been done to me that have been hurtful.

    Because I've been greatly blessed in other areas of my life, and instead of holding onto the bad memories, negative energy, I just let it go and enjoy my life now. Its short, its sweet its worth living to its fullest with nothing holding you back

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  4. This is so lovely, Danielle! Beautiful. I needed to hear this today so thanks a million.

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  5. Thanks for this post. After being dumped by my boyfriend last week, this sums up the attitude I have been trying to regain since. It's hard but it actually does help to know that people, like you, who now have good people in their lives have been through just as much crap in the past to get to that point. So thanks for the positive reminder! :) xx

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  6. This post could not have come at a better time in my life. Thank you so much! :)

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  7. What a great post! Thank you sharing and for the reminder that we all need to/should be in the 'now'. :)

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  8. I'm stealing this and hanging it in my classroom. Thanks!

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  9. simply inspirational! This the perfect way to realize how blessed we all are! :)

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  10. I try my hardest to avoid the the ex boy and friends, I'm sick of hiding out and not being able to get passed it. Thank you for the push, I need to get out there!

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  11. Thanks for this quote, Danielle. I just needed this today. It brought me to tears but it reminded me of keeping my head up and look ahead - there will be a better "now". Thanks so much. xo.

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  12. Great post. I've been going through a lot lately and found this to be spot-on. xo, rv

    http://aneclecticheap.blogspot.com/

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  13. This could not be more accurate. Great post.

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  14. I love this. It's easy to beat yourself up over the not great stuff but it's definitely much better to accept the things you've gone through and recognize you learned from them. But ai yi yi, I still need some Eternal Sunshine business for a few things. :)))

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  15. So much truth in this fabulous post. Way to embrace the past and it's transformation of who you are today.

    http://www.shineorset.com

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  16. That is so true! I wouldn't change anything about my past, even the super bad. It all helped mold the me I am today.

    Awesome post.

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  17. so simple. so true. very refreshing! yeah, life gets hard sometimes, and we often don't understand things BUT just like you said, it all brings us to the present. and if you aren't happy with the present, you can work to change the future. <3

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  18. Lovely and sweet reminder! I often struggle with almost losing my life during birth... BUT, I know it has molded me into who I am now... and why I started a blog... It sucked at the time, but I've turned it into a positive thing.

    <3 to you too!

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  19. I can not remember what book it was, but I read this quote once: Every good or bad thing around your Life is a lesson and God will give you this lesson over and over again until you learned what its supposed to tell you. Learn from every experience you make and enjoy each step along the way.

    This quote has helped me cope with some serious problems that I've had along the way. It made me watch my life more closely and it made me realized how much I've grown on problems that I had.

    You are so right with what youve said Danielle.

    xoxoxo
    Melanie

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  20. ahhhhhhhhhhh yes. i so needed this reminder! thank you, thank you!!!

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  21. this is totally what I go by in my life. Everything you've ever done has brought you to this place, right now, so what's the use of having regrets? Love that quote.

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  22. This is so beautiful and SO true! Life is a journey and we should appreciate how much we grow from the negatives in our past. :)

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  23. I love this Danielle. I always say something similar about regretting tattoos...it's all a part of your journey, and who wants to live a squeaky clean life free of regrets? Makes for a boring journey :) Thanks for this, lady.

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  24. I really needed that today, its been a tough day but that made me ralize that it will all be ok.

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  25. Danielle, I read this and bursted into tears. Today, more than ever, I needed to read this. Thank you, my love, thank you. <3

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  26. Yes, yes and yes! Thanks for the reminder to take a deep breath and stop being mortified by details of the past.

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  27. So true and eloquently written.
    Jamie
    Www.handlingwithgrace.blogspot.com

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  28. i heart this post. thanks so much. one of those sentences particularly rings true for me - the one about ex friends.

    x

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  29. Our scars are really what makes us and the moment we forget that, we forget who we truly are.

    Beautiful post, Danielle

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  30. I do appreciate the reminder. I am in such a wonderful place now, but the journey here was pretty rocky. I look back on it with pride though, knowing it go me to where I am.

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  31. "No regrets" isn't a flippant mantra. It's an active choice. It's deciding to make choices that are right for you and to recognize that if some choices were poor choices, they have still molded you. I live by that mantra and find it insulting that you would call it "flippant". I choose to have no regrets, because I choose to accept the bad and to move on, and I choose to look back on my life and accept it instead of spending time regretting it. There is no room in my life for regrets, and that's not at all flippant.

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  32. Wanted to let you know that I linked back to this post on my what I am loving Wednesday on my blog post :D

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  33. Amazing post! It feels so good to move forward. Thank you for your oh so true words and brilliant reminder!

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  34. For years I carried around this "woe is me" about my emotional battle scars. It was a heavy burden and chained to the past I didn't want but couldn't let go. When I finally did on my own terms, it feels amazing. Like you said, it brings a sense of joy.

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