Friday, February 3, 2012

Weekend links


Happy Friday everyone! It's Super Bowl weekend and usually we'd be having a party or at least watching the game, but this year Hank is in the studio with his newest  band so we're skipping it. I honestly don't mind one bit, although I might flip it on now and again to catch the commercials (my favorite!).

Here are some links to start your weekend off! Whatever you do, have a good one. xo

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Lisa Khoury wrote a response to her "Why Put a Bumper Sticker on a Ferrari?" piece. What are your thoughts on it? Check out her managing editor's piece too- "Tattoo This, Haters."

Super fascinating interview with Hank's friends- a husband and wife design team. Great people and I loved what they both had to say.

My favorite Girl Scout cookie is the Samoa is it makes up 19% of sales. How does your favorite do?

Up for a photo challenge? Try Chelsey's self-portrait challenge this week.

Salt and vinegar roasted chickpeas. I'm going to try making these tonight.

Isn't this peter pan collar manicure adorable? 

Loving this simple round up of baby boy nursery art over on the Collected blog.

Have you ever heard of Ink Butter? They're one of my newest sponsors and I'm so excited about their product- if you get tattooed or have plans to get tattooed, check this stuff out.

What a great, simple reminder from Kaelah.

Don's giving us a behind-the-scenes look at his design process. Awesome!

Cameron Garland created one of my favorite things in our home, and it was neat to see it up on his website! Have a look.

Loving Max's "Dear Baby" series over on Katie's Pencil Box.

How neat are these igloos?!

Like Boston Terriers? I do! If so check out Jess' free Boston printable.

Need help feeding your Super Bowl watchers? Have no fear- Shutterbean has it covered.

A couple blogs I'm loving right now: one and two.

One of my sweet readers' husbands sent me his band to check out and I thought they were great!

A baby iPhone case. Need I say more?

Carbs are killing us, apparently! Interesting infographic.

Big news from Jess! This has me smiling from ear to ear.

And finally, congratulations to Eden, who was the winner of the Unicorn Parade custom banner giveaway! I'll be emailing you later today about claiming your prize. Thanks again to all who entered!

43 comments:

  1. I really wish people had not been so downright mean to Lisa Khoury. Reading comments saying she was fat, ugly, stupid, etc. were saddening since none of it is at all productive. It just makes those people look bad. I like how your response focussed on the female stereotype she portrayed in her article and how harmful that stereotype is.

    I'm pleased she wrote a response and that she has learned some things from this experience.

    xo

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  2. Great links, the blogs you're loving at the moment are fantastic. Thanks for sharing!

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  3. "As a writer, I have jump-started my career with a valuable lesson: think about what you write before you write it....."

    I guess that pretty much explains it all. How can you publish something as a writer without really thinking it through? Without thinking about the pros and cons of what you are trying to say. How can you call yourself a writer when you just blubber about what just came to mind?

    She says that everybody took her article out of context...what? where is the context? She didn't state it. I can imagine where she came from and what she wanted to say (after reading her response...still don't share her opinion though) yet, if she doesn't state that background information, how are her readers supposed to now where she is coming from and what she is "really" trying to say.

    She did not start or carry a discussion on with what she was saying (as she claimes) she only....

    oh...what the hell...


    All in all...I think she has to go a long way before she can really be a good writer.......

    I think it's terrible though how the people treated her :(
    That was just down right horrible. I really hope she can forget about it.

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    1. I totally agree! I feel terrible that people were mean to her as well, however it's like she wrote an article but she didn't necessarily apologize. I feel like she was more sorry that it was seen by so many people instead of being sorry for writing a crappy article. And that editor is an idiot.

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  4. The Lisa Khoury response annoyed me some what. She talks about not meaning to offend an 'entire subculture' or be 'judgmental' or as if she is sitting on her 'high horse' and yet she still is creating an Us vs Them mentality by classifying those with tattoos as a subculture. There is something about that word, it just sounds so deviant. As you so eloquently wrote in your response earlier in the week, Us tattooed girls are more than capable of effectively getting and education, running a household, having a family and still look classy, sophisticated and like a woman!

    She talks about journalism starting a discussion, which is the only point of her article that I agree with. However her original article didnt get people talking about tattoos and the misconceptions/issues that for some reason unbeknownst to me still exist. It simply got people talking about the closemindness of certain folk and the ability of a woman to actually set woman back as a whole.

    I definitely understand the backlash and while I don't condone the hate mail, I suppose, in some way, it is understandable. She said she never meant to hurt anyone, but clearly her words weren't as well thought out as she had anticipated.

    Oh and that snide little comment at the end of her response, "You never know what tattoo blog might pick it up one day" Really? A half ass apology and then a comment like that. Ok lady, my guess is your email is probably going to be full once again.

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  5. Re: Lisa Khoury's response. Were here actions comprable to Hitler, like the one woman said? Absolutely NOT. Were they misinterpreted and taken out of context? No. She made her point plain as day, and although her response is more eloquent than the original article, she's just trying to make excuses. I hope that it truly did teach her to think before she writes.

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  6. Thanks for sharing these great links. I am really looking forward to Chelsey's self-photo challenge.
    Will you be participating in it as well?

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  7. I'm still kind of in awe over the whole tattoos article by that girl. She learned a HUGE lesson. But her reply kinda made my view of her worse because she was defending herself and not just simply owning up to her mistakes. I'm sorry, but she herself said an entire subculture of people were wildly offended. When literally thousands of people uprise over your words, it's not them that's the problem. Thousands of people don't misinterpret something. The problem is her and what she said and her reply just sunk it in even more. Bleh.

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  8. I read the Lisa Khoury reply.. and of course it was mean what some people called her, but all in all, I don't feel sorry, I don't think she thought her answer through. I stick with TheSoulAnchor, it made it worse.

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  9. I read the response from Lisa Khoury - I agree with her that the personal attacks were *not* necessary. It really turned me off when people said she was ugly, fat, or mocked her assumed religious beliefs. If someone says you aren't classy you don't respond with lowbrow ad-hoc attacks. Her article was easy enough to respond to point-by-point, as you did, without resorting to that nonsense.

    All that said I think her response was just as naive as the first one. Here's a hint honey: when you write a post vilifying (yes, you vilified) an entire group of people on the INTERNET you have to expect that you're going to get some nastiness back. She tried to backpedal on her arguments by saying that she wasn't telling anyone else how to live, just talking about her life, but she was doing EXACTLY that. She never said "I do my hair and nails when I want a change, some want tattoos," it was "women, YOU SHOULD do your hair and nails when you want a change, NOT GET TATTOOS." If you're going to write a post with such strong implications for a lot of people, at least have the guts to stand behind what you wrote. Her response was more or less what I would expect from a 19-year-old college student who hasn't realized that actions have consequences. The gist of her response to me was "It's not my fauuuult, everyone was really meaaaan!"

    Anyway I've said it a bazilion times but I loved your article (as did a lot of the internet!).

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  10. The words that she says people sent to her upset me. She didn't deserve that. She came across as sexist and close minded, but she is young (and probably sheltered). I can understand when she says that she didn't mean her article to come across the way that it did. She is allowed to have another opinion, i just wish that she had thought a bit more about the way she used her words to put her opinion on the internet.

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  11. I actually feel bad for her now. I see what she was doing now and yeah, she should have rephrased things or explained things better, but she never saw this coming. People shouldn't have reacted and responded as they did. If anything it makes them look bad. If I was a tattooed person I would write a well though out response(like you) and not just send her hate mail and threats. It embarrasses the community she was attacking. At least the whole thing is settled now and maybe she'll change her major :p

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  12. We have that baby case for our 14 month old- it is genius. She loves playing Fisher Price games on my phone, and knows where the home screen is to make calls, yikes! So the case is great at protecting my phone from her teeth, throwing, dropping, and making calls. We really like it. It's the best to take on a plane or when she's fussy in the car, I just hand my phone/case to her to keep her busy.

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  13. The hurtful comments that were sent to her where appalling. I understand people are getting worked up over her original article, but c'mon! There was no reason for anyone to call her names like that, even if she did sound completely ignorant to the topic at hand. I do feel bad about that, because like she said, words do hurt. Especially at the level she got them. I do hope she has tough skin and doesn't let what some of those mean spirited people called her.

    However, I still don't feel like her response was a sincere one. I interpreted it as her half-assed apologizing, with a sarcastic comment at the end. I still feel like she grouped people who do have tattoo's into a "subculture" and the ones who are not tattooed into "us." Us VS them is how I felt her response was. I hope she did learn a lesson though. And instead of attacking and being judgmental towards a group of people I do hope she learns how to state your opinion in a "classy" and more mature way.

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  14. Wow, a lot of people have an opinion about Lisa Khoury! I didn't respond to her original column, but I did respond to her follow-up piece. I thought you might like to read it. Especially as an English teacher, I'm sure you shared some of my frustrations with her argument:

    "It is very sad that people were so hateful towards you. However, I did see your column as the work of a young, inexperienced person. Your writing was not clear. Obviously, you had personal meaning to backup your editorial points. The problem is, your reader cannot infer that meaning, so it is essentially meaningless to anyone but you. Readers will interpret your words, not from YOUR standpoint, but from their own.

    I've worked in universities as a writing tutor, and I can honestly say that your column read like the work of a freshman - that is, someone with something to say but no idea how to say it. It is unfortunate that you got the response you did, but you can not blame your readers for taking a stance on such incendiary points as gender roles and body art. You have to remember that you are an adult - regardless of age or student status, people will have a opinion about what you say, so you better make sure that you form a cogent argument. You would have gotten a much more intelligent discussion thread if your argument itself had been worded intelligently.

    As you continue to work on your craft, try to respect your readers. They only know of you what you give them, and you cannot be taken seriously if you turn around and blame misinterpretation every time you get a bad response - if you are so generally misunderstood, it is due to YOUR writing, not THEIR reading.

    The journalism world is tough, but you can definitely make it with enough tenacity and focused work. Good luck."

    Anyway, I'm glad you brought the article to your readers' attentions. It's a great lesson on the power of words and the absolute need for better education in written communication. Also, how the internet isn't always as anonymous and shielding as we may think it is.

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    1. Just thought I'd comment here-this is an awesome response.

      " if you are so generally misunderstood, it is due to YOUR writing, not THEIR reading."

      This is SO true. And important for anyone to remember, even those of us in the blogging world.

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  15. i dont buy her shit. (lisa khoury) im sure shes bummed that she made such a dumb move but shes also 19.

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  16. i just wanted you to know that i truly love reading your blog. you have such a genuine heart. you are encouraging to so many other bloggers. hope you have a great weekend with your adorable fam :)
    erica

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  17. I've made those salt & vinegar chick peas a bunch of times and the are SO GOOD, I always end up eating all of them. I've also tried out a few other flavours- honey garlic (boiled them in water & honey then roasted them with minced garlic) and chili lime (boiled them in lime juice and roasted them with a chili spice mix) and both turned out great as well.

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  18. Wow I just burst out crying after seeing that video on boho baby. I think it's because I too am having baby #2 in August and my hormones must be all outta whack! Amazing.

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  19. Enjoy the salt & vinegar chickpeas! I've had that recipe on my To Make list for a long time- her energy bits are also amazing & definitely worth a try... though, most everything on her site is :)

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  20. Lisa's editor didn't sound as though he had really read through her article, only the negative responses to it. It's gallant that he's standing up for her but her article wasn't simply stating her opinion, as he implies in his, but was clearly judgmental and arrogant. There were no points of discussion, and no clear, culturally relevant arguments made supporting her viewpoint. If it had been an obvious opinion piece, that would have been one thing, this is not the case, obviously to anyone who read the article, thus the malicious backlash. Unfortunately now Lisa, her editor, and anyone who shares this viewpoint will take the horrible responses as some sort of vindication that they are right in what they think and how they are putting it out there. You would think that, as her editor, he would have been able to see how her article was going to come across, but apparently that is either not the case, or he didn't read her article very closely

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  21. Lovely links, per usual.

    I'm still so irritated about the Lisa Khoury incident that I posted a response to the responses today. Ha. Enjoying reading all of the commentary here.

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  22. My sister has the fisher price iphone case for her son and he LOVES it! Totally worth the money because it protects your iphone from baby drool and sticky fingers!

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  23. Goodness, what an ADORABLE picture of you and Henry! I loved almost everything you posted today!
    Regarding Lisa's post... this is a tough one. I don't have tattoos, but my husband and all of my best friends do. Maybe that puts me in a different position, but I had a hard time with that yesterday. I didn't agree with Lisa's words, but it wasn't the first time I've heard/seen an anti-tattoo article. As the day went on though, I found myself feeling incredibly sorry for her and incredibly disgusted with a lot of bloggers I had previously liked. One of the things I told Caitlin I liked about her response (and yours is no different) is that she didn't prove that she is classy and deserves respect by calling Lisa names, but rather, by calmly and politely explaining what she found so offensive.
    Based on Lisa's response, exactly what I expected to happen did happen. She did not learn from her mistakes because half of the Internet proved her right yesterday. Her view was that tattooed people are rude and have no class. Those who cussed at her, called her names and insulted her family further proved her point, if only in her own eyes. She doesn't feel remorse for having judged everyone, she feels remorse for having done it publicly. It's a shame that so many angry people had to ruin this potential lesson when people like you posted something so thoughtful, intelligent and potentially opinion-altering.

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  24. I feel as if Lisa is trying to make excuses for her words. She was VERY clear with where she stood, and as soon as she realized the uproar of the article, she made excuses. I understand she is young, but she needs realize when she posts such a one way article, it's going to get responses.

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  25. What? She's been wearing the same jeans since she was two!? ;)

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  26. She clearly is just doing damage control because what she said and how she said it was stupid.
    I don't feel sorry for her being attacked by folks in at all. She needs to put her big girl pants on. If she is going to talk crap expect folks to respond.

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  27. DANI!

    THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH FOR FEATURING MY LOVE IN ONE OF YOUR WEEKEND LINKS!
    THIS MEANS SO MUCH TO US, YOU'RE SUCH A SWEET DEAR.

    HAVE AN AMAZING WEEKEND!
    ps. feel free to also check out my blog anytime!

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  28. I'm a former magazine editor/journalist and I know how it feels to have a negative response to something I've published. It's hard for a young writer to get personally attacked. She's learning the hard way to write objectively for her college paper, especially now that she's drawn so much attention. However, she "continued a conversation" on a point that a huge chunk of the readers didn't agree with, and just as a conversation face to face would have gone, it turned into an argument. We may not agree with her but she has the right to her opinion, and now has had to learn to be careful how she expresses her opinion.

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  29. Thanks so much for the link! Have a great weekend!

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  30. I was a college journalist, too and believe me it is scary when people attack you for something you've written. I wrote a negative review of one of my school's fashion shows and I had many nasty comments questioning everything from my writing to my whether my ethnicity qualified me to write such a response (it was a Latin fashion show ... I am 1/4 Puerto Rican which my last name does not reveal); it even led to one of the male models coming to look for me in the newspaper office. As a review, I was entitled to my opinion and everything I said was professional so I did NOT retract it. Koury's piece was read on a MUCH larger scale and I did not receive anywhere near the hateful comments she did. I definitely feel for her and the fact that she felt to attacked that she had to write a follow-up piece. I definitely did not agree with what she wrote and I feel like it was unworthy of being published in the first place (as even opinion pieces need hard facts to back them up) but I wish that people had taken it more easily on her and realized that she is still learning how to become a writer of worth. Your response was very dignified, of course. But it's still sad that people felt the need to call her such hideous names over this under researched and silly piece of writing.

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  31. I understand she had no idea what was coming after this article was written. I'm glad she learned some lessons about writing. Writing for print and for the web are two completely different animals. And writing based on your own personal experiences as if we all know what has happened in her life doesn't really work if you don't explain those things to the readers or you will come off like a big stink bug.

    I still don't really agree with her reply or the managing editor's reply. They're still assuming everyone reading is a bunch of tattooed, pierced up freaks or...as they say "subculture" coming back at them. I'd have thought her article was kind of bitchy weather I had tattoos or not. The people who insulted her and her character were unfortunate, BUT writing an opinion piece as snarky as the one she wrote will get those things. I guess she learned her lesson.

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  32. I partially agree with the anti-tattoo woman's rebuttal. Partially. I read some other comments and articles written against her's and they were just downright mean. Calling someone fat and ugly simply because you disagree with her viewpoint is simply childish. That said though, her article was presumptuous and degrading, it did deserve to be commented in a respectful manner. I think your post was perfect and I wish she could have seen that side of the controversy, rather than the immaturity that dominated facebook.

    People don't seem to realize that going into nasty attack mode only causes the other side to retreat further into their beliefs. I mean really, who would think "oh, maybe tattooed women really are beautiful" when being bombarded with hate mail?! Damn our society of hatred hidden behind the anonymity of a computer screen....sigh.

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    1. That's just what I said! I completely agree with you. No, she shouldn't have said the things she did... but she might have learned to judge a little less and instead learned to keep judging, maybe even more, but just not online. What a sad day. =[

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  33. I'm pretty disgusted by the anti tattoo article but other people have responded MUCH more eloquently than I could.
    So I'll just say... thank you SO MUCH for the link to the chickpea recipe ;) A friend and I were just talking last week about how amazing salt and vinegar chickpeas would be. YUM.

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  34. Hi Danielle,
    I thought your point that hating tattooed women as opposed to tattoos was really well articulated. I agree that liking something or not is really not a real matter for debate. I often feel judged differently as a tattooed women, at a different level than a man who is judged as a tattooed person.

    I was really surprised to read your piece in reaction to Ms. Khoury's. I'm guessing she made you react as strongly as I did!

    I do have to say that when I read your piece it was the first reaction I read and totally agrred with it. I still agree with it but I hate reading people called her all these stupid names that have nothing to do with polite debate. I can't help but feel sorry for her because so many people say stupid things and receive no reaction... she writes this and has hundreds of people calling her mean and demeaning names. Anyways, kuddos for taking a stand! Christine xx

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  35. THANK YOU DANI!!!! You are SO sweet putting the link to our video! <3 <3 <3

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  36. Samoa is only 19%? WOW!! It's my fav too!

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  37. I thought your post in response to Lisa's article was extremely well put, but people definitely didn't need to freak out the way it sounds like they did. That doesn't make them any better than her first article was. She should have chosen better word choice, but I don't believe she deserved that type of back lash.

    In other news, Harpers Happenings is SUCH a cute blog! And the name Harper for a sweet, little girl?! Oh my, I'm dying.

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  38. It's sad that people took time out of their day to barrage a teenage girl with hateful words. It amazes me that in the wake of much publicity over bullied teens committing suicide, that adults still continue to perpetuate that cycle (and thus teach it to the younger generations).

    However, I also think it's sad that somehow, in either Lisa Khoury's mind (and her editor's), or in the mind of the people expressing their opinions to her, not liking tattoos became the real issue with that article. What? I don't care if you don't like tattoos, just like I don't care if you don't like to wear dresses or don't eat meat. The issue with the article was that it was pidgeon-holed women into some sort of sexist ideal in which we all go to the mall when we're sad and dress to impress men. She does somewhat mention her reasoning behind these things, and I appreciate that she took the time to reflect, but I feel like she missed the point a bit.

    And in response to her editor--I AM pissed about the other things you've mentioned. That doesn't mean I can't be pissed about this, too. :)

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  39. Just wanted to say thanks for including my nursery art roundup!

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