Wednesday, December 5, 2012

We are the makers of memories.

Somewhere in the future Henry will be grown up and think back to being little. So many of these days seem so ordinary- sitting on the floor playing, grocery shopping, park dates and long walks. But somehow they all weave into this tapestry that stretches on for years and lasts forever; something he will look back on, something that will color so many parts of his future- his childhood.

So I try to make these everydays count. To parent and live deliberately. To be present, and to make ordinary things extraordinary, the regular somehow special. And when it comes to the holidays, I try and make new traditions for our family and create warm memories that Hank and Henry can carry with them as time goes on. Sometimes it's the little things- like the other night when we were all crying from laughing so hard, and every time one of us would crack a smile it would throw all of us into a terrible fit of giggles once again. Or tonight, when it was just Henry and me cuddled up on the couch watching old Christmas movies and eating sweets. He looked up at me and said two words so simply- "I'm happy." These are those days that become so much more.

And it's the big moments too- picking out Halloween costumes, our annual birthday morning surprises, putting up our Christmas tree every year. And it's those special times like our evening at the Polar Express last weekend- Henry's very first train ride. Nothing will ever compare to the moment when he looked at both Hank and I and said, "I RIDE THOMAS!" with the biggest grin spreading across his face.

In a way Hank and I are getting to relive our childhood all over again; we're able to revisit our own memories, dip into the nostalgia we both feel for times gone, and make them fresh again with our son. Isn't that one of the best parts of parenting? To be able to make a choice that you'll do things differently this time around, or in lucky cases, do things in exactly the same ways you experienced as a child.

It's amazing to think of our children's memories as blank canvases. We are the creators. We make these days count. We have a lot of roles as parents, but the maker of memories is one to be taken so seriously, and I hope one day Henry can look back and feel warm, and happy, and know he was so very loved.

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22 comments:

  1. i love how your write, danni - and i love this post so much because it is so obvious that henry is very blessed to have you as his mom! my childhood memories and the traditions my parents shared with us kids are some of my fave memories ever!

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  2. And what great memories he will have! I was literally JUST finishing up a post about my childhood memories of the holidays. Great photos. :)

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  3. such a beautiful post. I have never thought of being a parent as a "maker of memories" but you are so right. When I look back at my childhood the memories are there because of my parents. Henry is one lucky little guy :).

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  4. You are so good with words! I know I say that whenever you post like this, but these are the posts I love. Your words flow so perfectly and I can only hope to write this well! You seem like such a good mother. Like you said living and parenting deliberately. We all need to be reminded of that once in a while. Thank you for this lovely little peek into your loving, cozy family life.

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  5. so amazing Dani! This post was so inspiring to me!

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  6. "I ride Thomas!" cracked me up- that's exactly how I felt about trains at that age! My Dad wasn't really around when I was little so some of the inside jokes my Mum and I had have lasted 20 years. When I was a toddler, she would throw pine cones towards me and shout, "Doggy poo!" which I thought was the funniest thing EVER. And not dulled by repition! I'm glad you're enjoying all the wonderful little things with Henry x

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  7. Excuse me but Henry's pyjamas are too cute for blogland. I just about died! Henry is such a lucky little man to have a mama so dedicated to making his childhood a happy one.

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  8. What a cutie!!
    I LOVE the PJs! so much adorableness!!!
    great christmas snaps!!
    http://liberatedbylkc.blogspot.co.nz/

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  9. I love the photos by the tree. My current obsession is taking photos with lights, luckily my 8 month old is equally fascinated and is happy to play along!

    Bettina @ www.littleoldsouls.com

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  10. My heart melted and is laying on the floor somewhere about know. Those pyjamas!!
    This is so cute. You're right. I do think you should make every moment count. I still can remember very much of when I was little and I am so grateful for that. I love my parents and they did such a good job! :D

    Also, beautiful beautiful pictures! Really.

    Love, Saar!

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  11. These pictures are beautiful and I love love this post.

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  12. I don't have kids and I'm in the middle of a divorce, but this post gave me so much hope that one day I might have this. And the biggest surprise-- that it's something I actually want, and that it's worth it.

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  13. Love this post, and I love those photos of him in his jammies decorating the tree. Every year when I put mine up I think about how much fun it will be to do that with my own kids someday. It was one of my favorite things to do as a kid, and still is.

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  14. I think about what my kids will look back and say "remember when we..." a lot too. I love reliving old traditions from when I was a kid and sharing those with my kids. We've even started some new ones. Enjoy your moments and have a wonderful Christmas. Your photos are adorable!

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  15. This made me cry... I'm so amazed at how Henry has grown. It's a beautiful thing watching a little one grow and change and experience life. I love how everything leaves them in awe, and we as grown ups see those things with new eyes... their eyes.

    I love that I've gotten to witness Henry's life from birth to now. (even though it's just through the blog!) He is a little gem - so sweet and precious. Love to you, mama. xo.

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  16. Such a true, and very sweet sentiment. It's so funny you talk about the little things, because that's exactly what we wrote about on Thriving Wives today! We aren't parents yet, so this only extends to our husbands so far, but it's very true for children as well. I know that I hold on to very small, seemingly insignificant ,memories from my childhood that my mother very carefully curated.

    Strive to Thrive,
    Nic
    www.Thriving-Wives.com

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  17. Henry seems SO intuitive for his age. The whole "I'm happy" comment made me tear up a little. I mean, how precious is that?! It's so great how many traditions and memories you're making with him at this age, and it'll only become more memorable for him as he gets older and is able to remember more of it. So sweet!

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  18. Such a lovely post! Your lil guy is so cute! That's so cool that you guys took him to the Polar Express! That lil green onsie totally reminds me of the movie Labyrinth..ever see it? Enjoy this holiday time & new memories! =)

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  19. Danielle, you made me cry with this. It is so true that parents are the makers of memories. I have lots of little things from my childhood that I look back on with a great fondness because they were some of the best things ever. Henry is blessed to have you and Hank create all these wonderful moments for his life. So special!

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  20. So true...such a special art of parenting to make these memories and choices.

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