Thursday, February 7, 2013

The Trap.

oh, monday

It's a crazy world we live in, with all of this technology and connection, and the ability to see and read anything our heart desires, right at the tips of our fingers. And in the blog world it's all right there- beautiful design, writing, photos. People doing things, making things, all of the time, never-ending. It's easy to get lost in all of it, isn't it? And sometimes I do. Sometimes I'll read so many sites and blogs, one after another, and feel so overwhelmed. Inspired, of course, but overwhelmed. And I'm not sure if this is a normal response, a common response, but that's just how it is sometimes in this head of mine.

And when this happens, it's almost like I'm stunted. I stop. I find it hard to think of things I want to share, I feel like I don't have much new to offer. All of these other people are doing, making, creating, photographing- how can I add to it? It's already all out there. But then I remind myself that there is one me, and one Henry, and one little family like mine. And really, only one story like mine.

It's hard to take a step back from that, from the overwhelming amount of information we're all given. It's easy to feel like your voice is just one tiny whisper in a huge room of people shouting, wanting their voice to be heard, but it's good to remember that your story is your story, your voice is your voice. And that no matter what, it's a beautiful thing all on its own. I'm reminding myself of this today.

xoxo



37 comments:

  1. I can really really relate to this. As someone who is just starting to blog, I'm having a hard time trying to really bring my own voice to the 'cool kids' table - the group of bloggers (yourself included) that I have been following for so long and that I look up to.

    You've accomplished a lot in your time blogging, and many look to you with wide eyes and feel inspired, and many new bloggers can only hope to do things with the poise you do.

    As for bringing something new to the table, I try to remember that every post that I do is straight from me, an individual with a completely different perspective and story of my own to tell. I just need to grow the courage to tell it bodly.

    “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

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  2. Sometimes before I write a post, I also think the same. Did someone already touch on this subject? Do they share my point of view?

    But then I realize that even though the topics has been spoken of even with my point of view, no one has my voice. No one expresses themselves like I do.

    I really liked this post. Thanks for posting it & being honest.

    xo,
    Charlene Zale

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  3. You are unique!! As you say, your story is your story, your life is your life, your days are your days, your dreams are your dreams, your feelings are all yours!! I always think we all own our uni-verse and then shine and become part of the rest of it! I admire you for being you, just you! We are the ones that have the privilege to learn from you and feel inspired every day! xoxo

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  4. best thing I have read all week! I am having one of those weeks... well months as well! I get caught in the trap of feeling overwhelmed by not having the time to create content I want. I look at others and think they have kids and some even more kids than me. How do they have time? I literally feel like with 2 there isn't a free second in the day to do anything. blah.

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  5. Dani, this is so beautiful. Every single thing that I have been thinking this week and you put it into words for me. Thank you! I have been wanting to tell about my days and weeks lately, since I've gotten to do some fun little things & there are new things popping up that are important to me. But that is just it, they are such little things and I feel like it is pointless to tell when everyone else is off taking endless photos that look like they belong in a magazines, or wearing fabulous outfits or making amazing things or having wonderful adventures and all I have are my words and that is is. And are they even important? So, THANK YOU so much for writing this. You have no idea how refreshing it is to hear someone talk about this.

    I hope you have a beautiful weekend.

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  6. This is lovely! Thank you for voicing this. One of the most poignant points on self expression I've read in a while.

    Cheers

    Maggie

    www.asimpleinterlude.blogspot.com

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  7. I totally relate and appreciate you putting how I feel into words. Super encouraging.

    Rachael

    www.myolsonfamily.blogspot.com

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  8. Well, I just want you to know that I am new to your blog, but I am so appreciative of what you write here. Authenticity is rare. There may be hundreds writing, but few write authentically, and that is what I appreciate about your place here. I feel discouraged sometimes, too, when I consider my own little place of writing, but I know that if I write about things that are important to me-- my family, my faith, creating, etc. -- I know my own voice will come through and bless who it needs to bless. In the words of Oscar Wilde, "Be yourself; everyone else is already taken".

    Keep writing. I'll keep reading.
    Thankful in Portland,
    Sarah Kate

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  9. Ha! If you are a tiny whisper, my blog is a mute. But yes, I relate to this very much.

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  10. Oh I feel like this all the time too, but girl you are awesome and people read because they like YOU. I love they way you share and tell stories. It makes you and your blog totally unique. xo

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  11. Sometimes all you need is a whisper to change the world.

    http://iliska-dreams.blogspot.com.au/

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  12. Thank you so much for this post. I can totally relate to being overwhelmed by it all and trying to come up with original content. I look at some of the mom bloggers and have no clue how they do it. They seem to do it all. Craft, take gorgeous photos, cook, take the kids out and about...all while looking amazingly put together and living in a perfectly styled home. I feel like I'm failing at time management.

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  13. I know exactly how you feel. I think it's a normal feeling. The thought that comforts me is that it's not a competition. You and your family are unique and your story will never be compared to anyone else's. Your readers appreciate you and your blog because you are authentic and your heart is genuine. :)

    xo, samantha
    sammyblackwood.com

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  14. Haha, sometimes I feel the same - but then my blog started to let my parents know what I'm doing in my year abroad. And as long as they're still interested, I really SHOULDNT mind if anyone else reads or likes it.

    I love your blog though and in my opinion, you are one of the few that are good to read even when there's lots of text and not so much photography sometimes. I love your writing!

    Lots of love
    Maria

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  15. Thank you for this, Danielle! That's exactly how I've been feeling for months now. I love reading blogs but it can get so overwhelming. It’s easy to get so busy consuming that you neglect creating. And I can get so overwhelmed by the idea that everything has to be seemingly perfect, from your content, photos, to your blog design. And I just can't live up to all that perfection, ya know? I start to wonder what I really have to share and if it matters. But I've been trying to remind myself lately that I started blogging for self expression not to impress others, and that definitely helps!

    Thanks for the reminder! :)

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  16. I can definitely relate to this, Danielle. I've deleted and remade my blog so many times because I felt like I wasn't sharing enough. I felt like I had so much to say, but it wouldn't amount to much. It's so hard when you compare yourself to others and you don't feel creative enough, or you feel like you'll never post something as amazing as others. I'm learning to just offer what I have, whether it's a lot or a little, it's still something. You post such amazing and inspirational things, keep it up!

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  17. I can relate to this 110%! I get an idea and look into it and see so many people before me have already thought it, blogged it and made it. But then I have been trying to not think of that, but know that the way I will do it will not be the same as everyone else, why? because it was made by me and not them. I have only came to this realization in the past few weeks after almost 5 years of blogging and I feel sort of at peace, is that weird? xx

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  18. Well said - here is my voice if you can hear it www.celialindsell.com

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  19. Great post! I can definitely relate to this and often remind myself that I started blogging to have an outlet to write for myself. The audience came later. And while it can feel like overwhelming at times to see so much talent in the blogging world, I can't let it bring my own blog down. I can only appreciate what others are putting out there and hope it'll inspire me to grow as a blogger. Have a great weekend!

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  20. I totally get what you're saying, thanks for putting it into words! : )

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  21. You have to work out what you're trying to say and who you're trying to say it to. If you're trying to say it to your son, that's one thing and definitely your blog is one he will enjoy. If you're trying to add something to the world, lifestyle-blogs just can't add much. I've become totally indifferent to lifestyle blogs. They're all the same, with the same words & content, ads, sponsored posts, 'sweet' things, artistic instagram shots that all. look. the. same.

    I got into a little trip whereby I thought I wasn't good enough as a human being because my life didnt have a cute white background, unique fonts and a perfect red teapot in the corner of the picture of my totally sweet kitchen. Then I realised that it actually does not matter one tiny bit. I am what I am. I ditched the iPhone, deleted twitter, stopped questioning everything I did and hey, I'm a lot more content!

    Sorry the white background wasn't a diss on your blog or anything, but most seem to be white. :)

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  22. I totally relate. It can be SO overwhelming....especially when you see so many people giving the perception that everything is amazing. It makes me question "why am I NOT AMAZING!" even though I know deep down, I am doing just fine, it still gets a little bit difficult sometimes.

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  23. Yep, I think everyone feels this way! When I get overwhelmed I just shut it down and go outside... thank god we grew up without this technology/info overload. I hope my daughter can grow up in a SOMEWHAT similar fashion.

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  24. Danielle, I also want to say that even if it has been said and its been out there before maybe we just like to hear it the way you want to say it! :) I have been a blog reader for years. I've always wanted to blog but I felt the same way. What do I have to offer? It's already out there and done so well... well guess what I sucked it up and started a blog because maybe someone will want to hear it the way I say it and peek into my life the way I have peeked into others for so long. Thank you for his post so SO speaks to me here, today, right now.

    Megan
    http://wherethefruitis.blogspot.com

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  25. I feel the same way...there are days I feel overwhelmed so many blogs to read. There are days I don't care and take it easy and MIA for few days to chill out. I do enjoyed reading your blog so don't stop writing. I am sure you have alot of topics to choose from...you were a teacher once so you always pick a great subject. So what if it someone pick that topic...we want to hear your point of view and your perspective.

    Annie (NJ)

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  26. I think you summed it up best with the your story is your story your voice is your voice. write for you and share the love of your experience.
    xx
    Bonnie Rose
    The Compass Rose

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  27. I wasn't going to post as I thought 'whats the point?' but to write a post like the one above and then try to tease and play with readers/instagram viewers over your upcoming announcement (that is obvious btw) are so at odds with each other. Either play the blogger game or don't, but don't be so innocent and coy and 'oops-I-am-just-a-gal' about it. It makes you seem a lot less relatable, and you will lose credibility and readers over it.

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    1. I really do not see the connection between writing a reminder to myself about staying true to my voice, and getting really excited about something I'll be sharing on Monday. I thought about this for a bit after reading your comment because I really wanted to try and understand where you're coming from, and although I do get what you're saying, I disagree. Last night while scheduling posts I was bursting at the seams about Monday's post. Obvious or not, it's exciting to me, and I don't think it's unrelatable at all for me to tweet that. I haven't teased or played with any IG photos, and although it may be obvious to you (who cares if it is, btw), I wasn't trying to make it seem that way to trick anyone or "play the blogger game." It's my life, and I'm excited about sharing it. I sometimes forget that there are people out there reading and analyzing things in this way, and thinking I'm one way when I know I'm not. It's disappointing, but I do understand after all this time, you can't please everyone. I don't think a tweet like "I'm so excited about Monday's post" contradicts this post at ALL, and if someone thinks I'm trying to be shitty or play some game, than perhaps that's not the kind of reader I want anyway. It's unfortunate your perception of this situation is what it is, but your opinion is yours, and I respect that.

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  28. Oh Danielle, it's so good to hear somebody else feels the same way! The ironic thing about blogging is that most of us started after stumbling across other blogs that we loved.. and they inspired us to write. Fast forward and the many awesome blogs out there are, as you said, overwhelming! For me it hit hard and I really lost my voice but now I've started afresh with clearer intentions of what I want to be, which hopefully, will keep me feeling inspired to write :)

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  29. Thank you for this reminder-I feel the same often!

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  30. I fully agree! have the same... sometimes it's just sooo frustrating... but ironically it's all because of ourselves :) if I don't read that many blogs, I won't be as frustrated ;)
    aaah... women :)

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  32. Not only do I feel overwhelmed, but I also feel inadequate. I enjoy the honesty in your writing. You celebrate life's enjoyable moments AND your anxieties and fears. Sometimes staring at blogs too long makes me think my life is listless and boring even though I know it isn't!

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  33. I've been feeling this way today. So many new blogs that I want to read and authors I want to get to know and collaborate with. It's so hard when I get lost in all the posts, and then take a step back and see all the emails, drafted posts and reminders piling up. It's easy to feel like I'm not good enough. Glad to know I'm not alone in this!

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  34. Absolutely know where you're coming from - there are so many great bloggers with so many great ideas out there. When I read I like to think of it as hoping to get inspired for a new way to share some of my own story - I have a "5 senses" post of my own queued up for tomorrow, inspired by you - so thank you. (with a link back of course) So thank you for continuing to share your story - it gives some of us a little more insight into our own :)

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  35. I just discovered your blog (and love it!) and was really drawn to this post. I've been thinking the same things about my blog even though I'm fairly new to the scene. It's so easy to get overwhelmed by what everyone else is doing - it can seem like nothing I write will be interesting enough. But it's so important to remember the reasons why we started in the first place - to share our stories. And that's something only we can do. Thanks for this post - I'm glad to know there are people like me out there :)

    thatsmeinthemiddle.wordpress.com

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