Saturday, June 29, 2013

August 16, 2013.

Happy birthday sweet boy!
Right after Henry was born. It's mind-blowing to me to think that in less than 7 weeks we'll be doing this all over again. 

So. We have a date. And I can't even explain to you how weird it feels to know the birthday of our son, to not have those same feelings I had with Henry, the trying to guess if he would be early or late, worrying that my doctor would want to eventually induce me when he was days past his due date. It's strange to wrap my head around the fact that I will wake up on August 16th, get ready, drive to the hospital, and two hours later, have Charlie in my arms. Maybe it's considered the "unnatural" way, but to me, it feels right. Just the way it should be, for us.

I wrote and deleted a long paragraph here about the why and how I chose a repeat, scheduled c-section. I wrote about how I didn't feel I needed to apologize for my choice, and how a baby is a baby and a mother is a mother, no matter how the child arrives. But I realized in doing so I am apologizing in a way, and making something that I wholeheartedly feel is a non-issue, into an issue. So instead I will simply say this: when I was asked by my doctor what my choice was, I chose to have another c-section. And so that's why Hank and I have a big circle on our calendar, around that special day in August, the day I'll go into the birthing center in at 6:45 in the morning, and have our baby at 8:45. Our little clock is now set and now we know for sure how many more days there will be just three, before the newest member joins our family.

August 16th. So excited to meet you, Charlie.

p.s. Have you had a repeat c-section? What was your experience like? I'd love to hear about it.

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  1. I did the same with Poesy and I wouldn't change any of it. I'm so excited for you guys!! <3

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  2. Sounds like a perfect day to me! So happy for you guys! Less than 2 months to go!!!

    xx
    Emily
    everythingemilygblog.blogspot.com

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  3. Congrats Danielle, Hank, and Henry! I am thrilled for you and I think your choice is beautiful. Thank you for sharing!

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  4. SO SOON!! I have never had a baby but if I ever do, I want a planned c-section. And I agree, it's your choice. It's between you and your doctor. You aren't trying to have the baby before he is ready to come out or hurt him in any way. So excited for you three!

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    1. why would you choose a c-section over a vaginal delivery? this isn't in regards to dani, because i understand not wanting to do a vbac. but to go into a first delivery planning on having major surgery, and not even trying to give birth vaginally, is a strange choice. i hope you do more research before you have children.

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    2. There are several reasons why one might choose a c-section over vaginal delivery:

      1. Medical reasons. People who have reason to believe that they are at risk of complications to either the mother or the baby during a vaginal delivery.

      2. Psychological reasons. These include tokophobia and other fears relating to vaginal trauma for a whole host of reasons, including being a survivor of rape or sexual abuse, issues surrounding control and pain etc.

      3. People who HAVE done their research, discovered that a planned c-section is actually slightly safer for the baby,(although slightly riskier for the mother) and would PREFER the longer recovery time after a c-section than the tearing, damage to pelvic floor etc. that often happens with a vaginal delivery. Some people simply prefer one type of pain or risk to another. Some people would rather have the pain of a c-section than the pain of vaginal tearing. That's just their preference.

      Of course, recovery from major surgery is longer than recovery from a SMOOTH vaginal birth, but the latter does not happen for a significant percentage of women. Add that to someone who believes that either for medical reasons, they are likely to end up with an assisted delivery (forceps etc.), major tearing or an emergency c-section, or for psychological reasons, vaginal delivery will cause them psychological trauma, for them, the benefits of a c-section clearly outweigh the risks.

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  5. That's our plan as well. I had an emergency csection with Avrie and we will pick our date next month for our repeat csection. It feels good to not worry like I did before. Makes me feel at peace rather than anxious and scared. I'm so happy for you and Hank its especially cool having a date with having a little kid already. Their schedule won't be so disrupted as it would with the unexpected arrivals. Congrats!

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  6. My birthday is the day after Charlie's! So excited for y'all, Dani <3

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  7. I did it, and don't regret it at all. I was nervous, but not scared. It was calm, unlike the first time. I got to cuddle Lucas right after he was out. It's nice knowing what you're in for.

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  8. Aww congrats. Your first was born the same day as my first and your second will be born two days after my second (a year later). Best wishes!

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  9. I was so terrified of having a c-section. I didn't end up getting one, but now that I am out of the moment, I realize it doesn't matter. There is so much pressure on women to delivery naturally and to breastfeed.. it can be really damaging.
    I am so happy that you are doing what is right for you. That's all that matters :)

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  10. How exciting! My mums birthday is August 18th.

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  11. My sister opted for a repeat c-section for her second son last February. Things went so well for her. She got a good nights rest the night before and was well prepared to care for her baby afterward. I am also choosing to have a repeat c-section with my second child this winter. I just feel its best for me and my family. There is a high chance that something will go wrong during labor again so I'd rather not put the added stress on my body or my babies.

    Congrats!

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  12. I was a repeat C-section but my mother went in to labour a week before the scheduled surgery so I sort of ruined the plan!

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  13. My first c-section was an emergency & a nightmare. My second was so peaceful, easy & I healed faster. Best of luck to you!

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  14. My cousin had C-sections with every child she's had. That's 4 pregnancies (the most recent were twins).

    I believe in choice so good for you for doing what makes you happy/comfortable.

    Good luck & congratulations to all of you!

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  15. August 16 was the day my now husband first asked me to be his girlfriend the day before our senior year of high school in 2005.... It's a good day. So congrats!!!

    (And my mom had 5 c-sections because that's what was safe for her... Happy for you & no apologies or explanations ever needed)

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  16. I was scheduled to have a repeat c-section for my second child; my first measured big on the ultrasound and I was encouraged to have an elective c-section for fear he might damage his shoulders on the way out. He turned out to be 10 lbs. 10 oz. so I'm glad I went that way. Anyhow, with my second I was glad to have the date all set so I could prepare for it. Then a week and a day before the date, I fell down the stairs, my tush hitting two or three steps really hard before I came to a stop. Nothing happened the rest of that day, but at 5:00 the next morning my water broke and I had the c-section a week early. Sometimes even planned things just don't go as planned. :o) I'm hoping all goes well for you these next seven weeks!

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  17. So excited that I'll be sharing a birthday with such a wonderful little boy! ;)

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  18. I have had two emergency c-sections and that is not a fun thing to go through. We aren't pregnant yet but for our third its a scheduled c-section all the way!
    So excited for you:) Summer babies are so fun!

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  19. Yay!!! My bday is March 16th...us 16ers are good people. :) Never apologize for what you know in your heart is right for you. This is how your story is written and I'm very happy for your family. xo

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  20. I am so excited and proud of you, Dani. Due to my girl being breech, there is a large possibility that I will need a c-section also, & your voice is appreciated and important.

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  21. Mid-August sounds perfect to me! Maybe my baby will come then, too. It'll be here before you know it!

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  22. I had a repeat c-section, my first baby (Also born on 16th August!) was scheduled as well due to a medical condition I developed, for a long time I felt guilty about the 2nd birth because the medical reason for the 1st one was not nearly as bad the 2nd time around, and I spent a lot of time explaining to people my reason, it took me a while to be honest with myself, it was the best choice for us and we were really happy with our decision, I'm happy for you and I can't wait to hear about Charlie!

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  23. I have had one of each. But was told if I ever got pregnant again I would have to have another C-section. My thoughts are who cares how they come out, as long as the mother and child are healthy and happy.

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  24. I've had three C-sections. I can relate to your feelings...wanting to explain why you elected to have repeat C-section, but yet you shouldn't have to explain. That's a personal decision and should remain that way. And I will say that each of my deliveries/recoveries were completely different. Never would've thought that was possible, but it was! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and future delivery!

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  25. Not long now! Gosh he will be here in no time! Hope it all goes perfectly for you and Charlie, good luck!
    What a beautiful first photo with Henry.

    -Jade
    gracious-silhouettes.blogspot.co.uk

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  26. so exciting to have a date to meet charlie. only 7 short weeks. yeah!
    you are right, you don't have to apologize for your decision to have a repeat c-section. that's your personal choice, so no need to explain why you made that decision to others.

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  27. Just because someone else would make a different decision doesn't make either of you wrong :-) ps That's my daughters birthday too, she'll be two that day

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  28. Very exciting! My due date is 4th of August -not scheduled so you never know when the little guy shows up :-)
    I think every woman is the only one who can decide what is right for her body, and I respect the choice of c-section. I have a friend who recently had a scheduled c-section because her first birth left her traumatized, depressed and unable to be the mother she wished to be. This time she just felt great and she is so happy with her family of four. It is amazing that medicine allows us to have these choices, otherwise she would probably not have had any more children.
    I am nervous for the birth, but hoping the best :-)

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  29. I had an unplanned csection with my first and a planned with my second. The second was so much easier knowing what to expect and being prepared. I also healed a lot faster and had a belly bandit ready for when I left the hospital. I found that the belly bandit helped my stomach greatly while healing.

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  30. Congrats - my planned c-section was lovely! All the best.

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  31. After planning for a natural, drug-free birth, 23 hours later I ended up needing a C-section with my first son. My (new) Ob described it as having gone through both kinds of delivery: natural and a c-section! This time around, I also elected to have a scheduled c-section and I feel not one iota of "guilt" around it. I'm a good mom, and that's what counts!

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  32. My first baby was an unplanned C- after 12 hours of agonizing induced labor that never progressed past a 9, OUCH, so it was a painful, awful experience. My 2nd baby, she was planned C because of the first experience, the fact that they were predicting she'd be close to 9 lbs, and also she was breech. However, she decided to come 5 weeks early, ("hello, little girl") by rupturing my sac, so I was in the hospital w/another C. Going into it, I was a nervous wreck, but it went SO much better- I remember laughing and telling my hubby I could totally do many more of them (the Csections) since it didn't hurt the 2nd time!! Good luck and happy days! :)

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  33. Every mother has the choice to schedule a C- section. I understand that it may be right for you but I also very much believe that women need to be informed about the ways to have an empowering birth. Women need to trust in their bodies and research midwifery and the benefits of having natural birth. The birthing process begins the bond betweek mother and child. If both are on drugs and unable to have that immediate bond, it starts a life and a relationship out with stress and disconnect. With thousands of readers, I find that you have an amazing platform to discuss empowering birth options and educate women and pregnant mothers everywhere. I find that the rate of C-sections IS an issue, an important one to talk about. While you may not want to appear apologetic, I still feel that talking about it would continue a conversation that needs to be brought up again and again. I am a long time reader of your blog and I really do respect all mother's decisions. I just feel strongly about the casual nature of this post and the casual nature of all the women commenting about planned C- sections.

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    1. Hi,

      Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. I have to say though, that I did find a few of your remarks offensive, particularly saying that my own birth choice wasn't empowering and that because I will have been under the influence of drugs from my surgery (and subsequently the baby too), I wouldn't be able to bond with him, causing stress and disconnect. You say that you respect all mothers' decisions but this is not respectful, at least in my eyes. I understand you're just stating the "facts," but I disagree that my birth choice is not empowering. You have no idea what the circumstances are surrounding my choice, and to assume that I am not empowered in making this decision seems ill-informed. However, I do totally understand WHY you feel this way, but it is absolutely not my job nor my responsibility to use my platform to discuss anything I don't see fit. I am happy and proud with my choice. It's what is safest and best for my baby, and my body, and although I do understand and respect that I have a large audience here, I still do not feel it is my place to educate anyone on anything medically related. This post is not casual in nature- I simply chose to withhold information about my own personal situation in making my choice because although I do blog and share a lot, I am entitled to privacy.

      I hope my reply doesn't come across as rude. Like I said above, I totally get where you're coming from. Going into Henry's birth my plan was to labor naturally, and I did. I arrived at the birthing center close to 8cm after laboring at home and had a fully "natural" birth all the way until the very end, when he was delivered via emergency c-section. I tell you this so you understand that I am educated in my choices, and although I don't feel I have to explain anything to anyone, I wanted to give you a bit more background.

      Thank you again though, for leaving a thoughtful comment. Even though we disagree on this, I appreciate you taking the time to even write this all out! Thank you for reading.
      <3

      Lots of love,
      Danielle

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    2. I'm really glad you responded. I apologize for any offensive content of my comment. I respect everything you have written. Thank you for helping me understand that your decision is thoughtful and empowering for you and your family! Happy pregnancy mama!

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    3. Danielle - you are so much more gracious than I would be.

      Anonymous - Danielle or anyone else does not need to justify their choice to have a cesarean to you - you are not their doctor, you are not their spouse and you are not their child. Please start with the assumption that women who choose cesarean are doing so from a position of choosing the birth that is best for themselves in their own particular circumstance. After all, most mothers who choose cesarean are capable of assuming that your choice to pursue a natural birth is an informed choice that you have made after having determined that it is best for you and your family in your particular situation.

      I understand you are concerned about the rate of cesareans - however, I would argue that such concern is woefully misplaced and the focus on a specific procedure or process (normal birth), results in a complete blindness to what really matters. What really matters is getting through birth healthy and happy - what really matters is avoiding trauma and life long disability or death. Having a normal birth is not and should not be the goal - it forgets all the days that follow. If it can be achieved (and the mother wants it) safely, then great - but if the mother doesn't want it or it puts her life or the life of her child at risk, then is it worth being able to say that you pushed a baby through your vagina? Isn't being a woman about more than what you can do with your body, isn't it time that biological essentialism be laid to rest? Further, it's a rather cheap shot to declare that cesarean mothers don't or can't bond with their children as well as mothers who gave birth naturally - as a mother who ADORES her 3 year old, I can say that bonding with her was far more difficult than bonding with my 9 month old - I love them both but the PTSD her unwanted normal birth resulted presented specific challenges.

      We don't measure the rates of women denied informed consent during birth. We don't measure the rates of women unable to access adequately trained and qualified care providers for prenatal care and birth. We don't measure the rates of births that result in post-natal PTSD. All of these things matter far more than whether or not the birth was a result of a cesarean.

      I challenge you to become more informed on the issue of Cesarean by Choice. A good place to start might be Pauline Hull and Magnus Murphy's book "Choosing Cesarean: A Natural Birth Plan". Also look at the blogs Cesarean Debate and Awaiting Juno. And though you may hate me for it - browse through Dr. Tuteur's blog (the Skeptical OB) for a look at the seedier and far less respectable side of natural birth.

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  34. I have had 2 c-sections, first not planned, second planned. Much better 2nd time around when it was planned. I couldn't have been happier and if I had it to do again I wouldn't change it for the world! Recovery was not nearly as bad second time around and I feel the worry was less because I knew what to expect. I hope you have a great experience and a happy healthy baby, good luck!

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  35. Congrats - wishing you guys the best :)

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  36. I strongly second the words of Anonymous. Women need to take back that empowerment and strength in birthing their babies! We are fully capable, and very, very, very rarely do we need medical intervention. These "designer births" that are so popular are dangerous and destroying a woman's confidence in herself. Doctors and the media are scaring women into planned C-sections, and it's very disappointing to see/hear other mom's buy into it. We were built to bring our little ones into this world, and we should own it! A wonderful, inspiring movie called "The Business of Being Born" is a must see for any woman who has had or will have children.

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    1. Hi Brittney!

      I responded up above if you'd like to read that reply! Please do not jump to conclusions about my situation without knowing anything about it- like I said above although I blog and share things, you don't know the full picture whatsoever. I fully agree that as women we should be empowered, and if you read my blog regularly you know this. However, the birth I am having is not a "designer birth," and I think it's totally offensive to call it that. I've also seen that movie you've mentioned and done my research.

      Thanks for chiming in!

      <3
      D.

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    2. Coud you be more ignorant Brittney? I also responded above. The BOBB is nothing more than NCB propaganda that should come with a health warning label.

      Cesarean by choice moms do own how they bring their LO's into the world, every bit as much as NCB moms do and they do not destroy a woman's "confidence in herself" - what DOES destroy a woman's "confidence in herself" is buying into the notion that her value as a woman or a mother is somehow determined by how she brings life into the world.

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    4. Not once was I trying to be offensive. So first allow me to apologize for that. And I am most certainly not ignorant, I have spent a lot of time researching these issues long before I ever even got pregnant. I suppose in my social circle I hear many women say they are "scared" and "can't do it" so they let their OB's schedule C-sections when they and their babies are perfectly healthy. Where I live I am the minority in that I had a natural birth, so much so that people think I was "crazy" in doing so, and for breastfeeding. I just want to encourage women not to be afraid, that is all. I believe in my fellow females and that is what I was attempting to convey. I respect your choice, and I know my initial response didn't come off that way. I am a long time reader and I admire you as a mother. I know you are a strong and capable woman, best of luck and I look forward to meeting your little guy, as do all of your loyal followers :)

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  37. I have had 2 vaginal births and the second one was an unmedicated homebirth with a midwife. I was feeling very empowered till my baby got stuck and had a bad shoulder dystocia. Nope, the famous Gaskin Maneuver did not work. It was the McRoberts that got her out. We nearly lost her and I was just lucky we didn't . My next birth was a c-section. I am due with #4 in a couple weeks and it will be a planned c-section. All my babies are macrosomic and 2 out of 3 were malpositioned. C-section is what is safest for my baby and I. Congratulations on your birth in August! Very excited for you!

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  38. I have had 2 vaginal births and the second one was an unmedicated homebirth with a midwife. I was feeling very empowered till my baby got stuck and had a bad shoulder dystocia. Nope, the famous Gaskin Maneuver did not work. It was the McRoberts that got her out. We nearly lost her and I was just lucky we didn't . My next birth was a c-section. I am due with #4 in a couple weeks and it will be a planned c-section. All my babies are macrosomic and 2 out of 3 were malpositioned. C-section is what is safest for my baby and I. Congratulations on your birth in August! Very excited for you!

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  39. Aw, yay! My first son is an August baby and it is such a fabulous time of year to have a baby. Hoping these last weeks are blissful before you become a family of FOUR! (:

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  40. I honestly had NO idea that this was such a "controversial" thing until now - maybe it's because I don't have kids, yet, so it's not something I discuss a lot. My mom had c-sections with all three of her kids - it's what she chose to do, and it was also safer for her body and her babies and her situation. She always raised me with the idea that every birth method is important and a powerful experience, and whatever the mother chooses - that's wonderful and beautiful and we should be thankful for the freedom we have in that choice. So I honestly never knew that c-sections were "looked down upon" and that there was so much shame and guilt being poured on women, and that really kills me. I see comments saying we need to trust/listen to our bodies - but I think in making the choice to do a c-section, you are doing exactly that - you're listening to what your body is telling you, what Charlie is telling you, and trusting that this is the path for you - and that's AWESOME. No mother is less of a woman or a mama or a strong, capable human because she has a c-section. Every birthing experience is emotional and empowering and breathtaking and hard and requires strength. We need to stop the shaming and start encouraging and lifting mamas up.

    SO excited for Charlie to arrive! I love that I've gotten to watch Henry grow and I can't wait to see them grow up together. Love to you, D. <3

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  41. I remember reading Henry's birth story. How you tried to have what others call an "empowering" birth. You labored at home for hours, did so without any drugs, and planned to have a very natural/old school birthing experience. Then there was the turning point where Henry started having complications. So you very selflessly put away your own ideas of what your birth story should be and gave birth to Henry in a way that ensured he would be healthy.

    I don't blame you about not wanting a VBAC with Charlie. Some of the things I've read about them are scary. There's also the emotional part of it because of everything you had to experience when you did try natural birth. And I couldn't imagine going to give birth and having the what ifs wondering if you would be able to birth vaginally or if there would be another complication.

    I really hope for me that I'm able to have a natural water birth when I have kids. It sounds idealistic to me. But you better believe if there are complications I'll do anything necessary to ensure the health of myself and my child.

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  42. I was induced at 41 weeks with my first and after 16 hours of labour, his heart rate was dropping so I had to have an emergency caesar. It was frightening, I was strapped to the bed, I was scared, I was sick and stressed. He came out healthy but I was traumatised. The second time round I chose to have another caesar because I didn't want to go through that trauma again. So, we did and it was therapeutic. It wasn't an emergency. It was calm. I wasn't strapped down to a bed. My husband wasn't trying to put a "calm" face on. It was just beautiful. Someone told me they were sorry that I didn't get the birth that I wanted, but actually I did, because in the end the birth is not about me, but about getting this baby out safely and healthy.

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  43. So excited for you, Dani! Aaron's Mom had 4 boys. The first 3 being natural and her 4th a c-section. She said she wish she would've had a c-section for each boy!! As long as baby and mama are healthy I think that's all that matters. So, so happy for you. <3

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  44. Yay! Congrats! I've only had c-sections so knowing my kids' birthdates is all I've experienced. I mean, I knew I could go into labor early or something but I didn't so I showed up at the hospital at my appointment time both times and everything went great. Had repeat c-section when my first born was 2 years old. No problems at all. In fact, knowing what to expect made things a little easier. Good luck and for now, just enjoy being pregnant. Relish the time with your boy and you won't miss these days. Sounds weird but when #2 gets here it will seem like all is right with the universe and things are just the way they were meant to be. :)

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  45. Hello Danielle,

    I read your blog everyday and also follow you on instagram, and I wanted to tell you that you are the kinda person I look up to.
    I'm 25 years old and on August 23rd in 2011 my son Liam was born, I had a natural birth plan but one day when I was 34 weeks pregnant my doctor found out I had pre-eclampsia, in less than an hour they told me I was going to give birth through an emergency c-section. I still remember that and I can still feel I what I felt, it was the most scary moment of my life! Liam was born at 2:04 pm that day and went straight to NICU, I didn't see him neither hold him for almost 30 hours. Today he's a very strong little boy, so creative and active, the most sweet human being I've ever met and even though I didn't plan having a c-section and was totally out/drugged I believe that I was empowered and the bond I have with my son is beyond comprehension. Love never fails and just like you said a baby is a baby and a mother is a mother, no matter how the child arrives. My husband and I will always cherish that the day, even though was scary and stressful, that day we became a family and we already know that our next baby will have to be born via scheduled c-setion and I will never apologize for that. Congratulations to you and your family <3 I'm so happy for you!!!

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  46. So exciting! I ended up having an emergency c-section (breeched - water had already broke) the first time around also. I've thought about having a VBAC if we ever get pregnant again.. and I think I'd choose the same thing. The goal is to have a healthy baby and a healthy Mama. :)

    I have to put my two cents in though! You shouldn't have to defend anything-ever. I've ready so many birthing blogs almost shaming women who choose to have a cesarean - and it makes me so angry. I had the BEST c-section experience and I know not everyone has experienced this, but most do, in my experience. Layla was born, Keith (my husband) got to cut the umbilical cord, take pictures of her on the table, got skin to skin with her while they were stitching me up, and they had her on my chest and trying to feed as soon as I got into the recovery room. Great recovery, too! I hope you have the same experience again!! :) I hope when you're healed and have time to write your birth story - if you do so again - that you will tell us all about what its like to have 2 c sections. I'm glad you know you don't have to explain or apologize for your decisions!

    Bridgette :)

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  47. Congrats on your date! Aug 16th will be a wonderful and memorable day. I haven't had a c/s myself but I've been present for many hundreds of them as an anesthesiologist and there are things I like to do to make it more "birthy" and less "surgical" that you might want to incorporate into your special day:

    - I put the IV, blood pressure cuff and pulse oximeter all on the same arm. Sometimes I put the pulse oximeter on a toe. This frees up one arm completely so that its easier for you to hold and cuddle your baby

    - If the hospital doesn't have a clear top drape and the woman wants to see her baby being born, I provide a mirror.

    - If the woman wants to do skin to skin in the OR during closure I facilitate that. Breastfeeding in the OR is an option as well. If she doesn't want to but her partner wants to do skin to skin in the OR then we dress them in scrub bottoms and a hospital gown to facilitate that.

    - If the OR is big enough and configured well enough, I welcome up to two support people.

    Anything else? I'm always interested to hear how c/s have been modified to make them feel less clinical.

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  48. Good luck on your birth! Never had a C-Section but I can't imagine going through it, I'd be scared shitless :( But I'm sure you'll be fine, just enjoy new baby!

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  49. I didn't have a c-section with any of my 3, but with my last two I did have dates scheduled to be induced prior to their due dates, and they both arrived on their own before they were "scheduled" to. Not quite the same thing, but it was along the same lines of having that date circled on the calendar, thinking you know exactly when the moment will arrive, and then baby decided to come early. TWICE! And those two kiddos, the ones that both came before their scheduled date, were born in the same hospital by the same doctor AT THE SAME TIME. Just different days of different years! :)

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  50. Danielle,
    Thank you so very much for deciding to share this incredibly personal aspect of your life with your readers. Your bravery to do so, and to graciously respond to those who may disagree with some or all of your choices, is truly inspirational. I am not a mom, nor will I be one in the near future, but I have a very positive takeaway message from this post-we are in control of our own selves, our choices are ours alone to make, and we must others should (must) respect that.
    -Caitlin

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  51. You are due on the 16th? I am due on the 18th with a little girl, congrats. (:

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  52. Good for you choosing what is best for you and your family! I plan on having a repeat c-section with my next baby simply due to the fact that both the Cottonwood hospital and Prescott hospitals won't allow VBACs due to a lack of appropriate staff. I would rather have a repeat c-section close to home than try to do a VBAC and have to travel all the way to Flagstaff or Phoenix - while in labor! I don't feel that my first c-section in April interfered at ALL with my bonding with my son nor with his ability to breastfeed. It wasn't my plan, but I'll take a healthy baby over a natural, ideal birth any day.
    Good luck and Congratulations!
    Sarah

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  53. The whole c-section vs. natural birth argument enrages me. The idea that you are less "empowered" or "not informed" because you choose a c-section is just idiotic.

    I had a c-section. I had planned on doing a natural birth, read up on it, went through 24 hours of trying my hardest at it and ended up getting a c-section. Oh, and guess what? My bond with my son is great. It is immense.

    IT IS THE MOTHERS CHOICE. So (to anonymous commenters and the whole debate in general) stop trying to say a women is more empowered when she chooses a birth that YOU find acceptable. That is some stupid, fucked up shit. Women are empowered when they do what they feel is best for them and their child. Not when they buckle under the pressure of some other persons opinion. I'm for any method of birth that results in a healthy and happy mother and child.

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    1. Excuse the typos. I got all rage-y and neglected to check my grammar and such. Maybe I'm still all doped up from my c-section *sarcasm*.

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  54. Eeep so exciting that you know the day! Yay Baby Charlie! Both me and my sister were born by C-section - my sister was an emergency one and mine was scheduled.

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  55. Little Zooey Cerise was born via C section this past Monday! Exactly five days ago! This is my second C section and I am on the recovering stage now. Keep your mind strong and will intact for recovery - at least that's what's helping me, Dani! It's less emotional unlike my first emergency C section; as this one is planned, although strangely, I had contractions on the same morning she was supposed to be delivered and turned out I was already five cm dilated but still went for my original C section.

    Indeed, a baby is a baby when born. Forget the 'natural' know it alls mothers - and the same with going for breastfeeding or formula feeding. We women have already gone through so much in regards to pregnancy, the emotional, physical, spiritual journey is overwhelming that GUILT of how we deliver or we feed our babies is just adding to the drama. We should support each other instead of instilling guilt. That's all!

    Yay! For your upcoming new family of four - My first born Audrey Simone is also three years old just like little Henry. =)

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  56. it is your choice, your body. I had medical reasons why we choose the c-section. In Germany you cannot choose a c-section if there is no medical reason. I thought about it all the time and I felt I had to apologize for my choice, too. But if it feels right for you, it is the right thing, because you are the mother and you would never choose anything bad for your baby.

    Btw. I love Henrys style, he is so cute! And you will have two cute guys very soon! I'm happy for you all.

    Greetings from Germany
    Michaela

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