Sunday, August 11, 2013

Sunday Focus

love the green grass

Today we took Henry to his first movie, which I'll talk about more tomorrow, but after the film as the three of us were driving home, Hank and I asked Henry which part he loved best- which parts made him happy. Without skipping a beat, Henry told us about the parts he didn't like- he mentioned the scariest scene of all, talked a bit about one part where two characters were fighting, and discussed how upset he was with one of the villains. We listened as he went on and on, and after he was finished we talked to him for a moment about yes, how great it is to recognize when we don't like something, but how important it also is to focus on the good parts of things and remember those.

Once we got home and put him down for a nap (after listing all of our most favorite parts of the movie!), I realized that I should be taking my own advice. Sometimes I get caught up focusing on tiny bits of negativity from this person or that person, worrying unnecessarily about situations I can't change, filling up my mental space with things that just aren't productive. And sure, recognizing what we don't like is absolutely worthwhile, but how about focusing on all of the good? How about setting our sights on all of the amazing things going on right now and taking stock of all of the happy bits that often go unnoticed?

It's still so funny how much this little boy teaches me. Before I became a Mom I always thought it would be my most important teaching role yet, but I've come to really understand that my role as a student is just as meaningful.

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  1. all of this is so sweet and so true. sometimes it takes something (or someone!) small to help us make sense of what's important :) love these posts!

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    1. Thank you so much! And I so agree- it definitely can be a thing or person...in my case an almost-three year old! <3

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  2. How very true. Did he tell you what he liked in the end?

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    1. Yes! I just edited it before your comment but I think it was after you posted! :) We listed them out before nap.

      <3

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  3. This is so very true. I always need a gentle reminder to focus on the good in my life. rain, snuggles with my son, ketchup Crispy Minis, my husband making silly faces, my knitting.

    Thank you.

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    1. I love your list! I'm also intrigued to know what ketchup crispy minis are! :)

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  4. Ah! So true! Motherhood has taught me so much!!! I love this simple yet true post. I think sometimes I take so many good things for granted, and it is those teaching moments that bring life back into perspective. Loved this. Also, your little boy's wardrobe is killing me!!! So cute!!! Xoxo

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    1. Thanks so much for this comment, Brittany! :) I loved what you said.

      Heading over to catch up on your blog now! <3

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  5. Hi Dani! have you read any of those books about education for kids or something? would you recommend me any??

    Thank you!

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    1. I actually haven't read any in full but I do have "Raising Your Spirited Child" on my Kindle that I need to continue! I will let you know how it goes!

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  6. I love this!! Kids teach us so much, it is incredible. But I feel like they also are better at picking up on the things they don't like... what a great lesson you created for Henry.

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  7. What a sweet lesson! I am a teacher as well, and planning to be a stay at home mom when the baby comes in February. I really liked how you put it, that being a mom will be the most important teaching role, but to remember the importance of being a student as well. Beautifully written! Thank you so much for sharing!

    Annie
    The Middle Piece

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    1. February is so soon! Congrats Annie! :) Such an exciting time. <3

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  8. Awesome lesson! Kids really can teach you a lot of things! Mine are teaching me something new everyday.

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    1. Isn't it crazy? Thank you for stopping by Heather. :)

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  9. This is so true. A lot of people have been telling me lately that I need to not judge people by one characteristic. It's definitely something I need to work on!!
    Can't wait to hear about the movie! :)

    -hellomeetvirginia.blogspot.com

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  10. So true :) Have you read The Parent's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents? My prenatal yoga teacher reads a "lesson" at the end of every class and I love it! -Lindsay

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    1. I have! Well, I've read a ton of excerpts and really enjoyed it. So cool that your yoga teacher incorporates that into class- I wish I could join you!

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  11. Can I just tell you how much I love your posts like this?! You posted another talking about your husband probably like a year ago and it was so sweet and authentic. I just got engaged on Friday and reading your words here warms my heart. Someday I hope to have a true happiness and be fulfilled as you are. I know it won't be all smiles and a walk in the park but you seem so happy. Its refreshing to hear about a person who chooses to cherish the good times versus looking for negativity.

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  12. Oh my, just realized I left this comment on the wrong post! Sighhh, that is what I get for using Feedly. This comment was intended to be on the A Little World post. My bad! Carry on.

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    1. Haha! So okay. I do that all the time. I appreciate that comment though- you're so sweet to give such kind feedback and it really made my night.

      Lots of love.
      <3

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  13. So true! What movie did y'all go see?

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    1. We went and saw Planes! :) I just posted about it if you want to check it out!

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  14. It's fascinating how children react to certain things.
    I've probably said this before but I seriously love your writing.
    Rosie x | Every Word Handwritten

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    1. Aww thank you so much Rosie! Big hugs! <3

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  15. absolutely love the role reversal take on this, Danielle. thank you for
    sharing!

    xx
    sara | www.late-afternoons.com |

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    1. You're very welcome, Sara! Thank you for taking the time to comment. :D

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  16. This is a great reminder for me. I tend to focus obsessively on the negative and all the bad and worry over and over. But, it is so much better to see the good in every situation or even if there is not good YET what good may come from it. Thank you for this! Something I am going to keep in my mind throughout today.

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