Thursday, April 3, 2014

Journal Day #7

Do you use social media in your daily life? Do you think it adds to your relationships with others, or takes away from them? And furthermore, do you think social media adds more positive or negative to your life? Write about your relationship with social media, and talk a bit about how you got started, and what role it plays in your world.


Social media. I was discussing it with a friend the other day- talking about how there really isn't a manual for this new world- we're all the first ones to try our hand at this social media thing, and at times it can be hard. Graduating high school in 2000 there wasn't really anything like we have now, at least on my radar. There were sites like Makeout Club (anyone remember that?), good old Livejournal, and then halfway through my college experience Friendster came about. From there everything changed quickly; Myspace, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Vine...so on and so forth. And for me, I've always enjoyed sites like this, connecting with others online, writing to communicate, the whole deal. But even back in the day I would find myself staying up way too late chatting with friends on AIM when I should have been writing a paper, that little "ding" pulling me away from that blinking cursor in Word to talk to everyone else who should have been writing their papers too. I had to find a balance. And even now as a Mom I make a conscious effort to put my phone away whenever I'm with my kids, or even just shut down my computer at night. The thing about social media is that it's ALWAYS on, and there's always someone to connect with, something to read, a link to click. Balance is key.

As far as relationships I could argue both sides of social media's influence. I've met some wonderful people online but at the same time I think it does allow us to become lazy in our "real life friend" interactions. It can be easy to be fooled into thinking that seeing all of the pretty little squares of someone's life on Instagram equals being caught up or in touch. And far too quickly weeks or months can go by without really connecting. This is sad to me, so I try to think of IG as a secondary mode of communication and I try the best I can to make phone calls happen. As a whole though I do feel like social media is great, as long as there is that balance. It definitely adds so much positive to my life- I love connecting with all of my friends all over the world, forging new relationships, being able to reach out to others and meet blog readers and those who share common interests. It's awesome being able to get instant feedback or advice about something, and like I often joke, Twitter is so much better than Google for that very reason.

My biggest interest with social media though is seeing where it goes in the next ten years or so. Nothing is forever, and it's fascinating to me to think about where this is all headed. It's really the new normal for most people, and as time goes on it becomes more and more integrated into our lives- even to the point of me having no idea how it could get any more integrated. Part scary, part cool (but mostly cool). Poking and pinging and dm-ing, I really do wonder what's next.

So, that was my response- how about you? Leave a blurb and a link to your post below- can't wait to check it out!

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27 comments:

  1. Thank you for the prompt!
    "I have a love/hate relationship with social media." Seriously
    http://cosmictumblers.blogspot.com/2014/04/journal-day-7.html

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  2. Such a great, thoughtful post! I feel the same way about finding a balance; sometimes it really is necessary to turn it all off and tune into the present as it's happening. :)

    Here's an excerpt from mine:

    "Facebook (and AIM, to a lesser extent) made it much easier for me to part ways with T. on Sunday nights, at the end of our weekends together, knowing we would be able to easily communicate throughout the week. My sister lives in Missouri near the Ozarks and though we're busy living our lives eight hours away from each other, we catch up over Facebook messages and texts fairly regularly. (Technology has made it a little easier to be separated from all of my siblings, really, which I'm grateful for.) One of my best and oldest friends has a job at a university in eastern Washington State and even though we are separated by a few time zones, we are still able to keep up with each other over late night chats and reading one another's blogs. It's nice to be connected in such a way!"

    http://alifefortuitous.blogspot.com/2014/04/journal-day-life-and-social-media.html

    Thanks again for these fantastic prompts!
    -Jess

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  3. This topic is fascinating to me. I love your take on it. I go through extremes where I want to get away from it and when I have fun with it. I never want it to take away from real life relationships though and agree its important to asess that every so often.
    xx

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  4. HA! This is the first time seeing this prompt but I seriously just wrote my English Midterm on this last night. What a coincidence!

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  5. I LOVED this prompt. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on it... balance is definitely key :)

    "We CAN put down our phones and our computers (I’m telling myself this!), we can do this. I am excited to see what comes of this. There WILL be fruit from it, even though it seems difficult. And, ladies and gents, we can be better mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, humans, because of it. The fruit will overflow and we will be better. We will be better. Let’s go."

    http://amamacollective.com/social-media-effects-mothering-1352/

    ~Jenna // A Mama Collective

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  6. This is a great prompt, the first one that I have actually replied to online. The rest are all hidden away in my journal. Its such a relevant topic in today's world, I was actually talking about it with a friend right before I saw this.
    I am going to try and remove myself from social media as much in the next couple of months, I need to get back to reality and focus my attention on more important things.
    http://cantertimes.wordpress.com/2014/04/04/social-media/
    Ash (Canter Times)

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  7. Such a great prompt! It really made me think about the way I use social media.

    "I think that while social media has brought a lot more awareness to the world – we now find out about different events and news WAY faster than we ever have – it has taken away from our relationship with others."

    http://karaschatter.com/2014/04/03/journal-day/

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  8. Great prompt - really made me think!
    "For me, it's important to be mindful. Meaning I like to be in tune with myself and the ground I'm standing on. Often this means switching off..." -- alessiadicapua.blogspot.co.uk/2014/04/thoughts-on-social-media.html

    Alessia | alessiadicapua.blogspot.co.uk

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  9. Great prompt, definitely made me take a moment to pause and think about social media in my own life.

    http://mundanecstasy.com/journal-day-social-media/

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  10. This is all so true! I started using AIM when it was just phasing out and MySpace was getting started, but I remember being up until like 4 a.m. talking with crushes and thinking of clever profiles and away messages. And myspace- ugh I wish I could remember my password. There's probably dozens of embarassing pictures I would get a huge laugh at!
    Thanks for sharing your take on this!

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  11. I love to think about what's next and what it will be like in ten or twenty years. It will be so different and we will all be talking about the "good old instagram days." :).

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  12. This was such an interesting topic, it's been on my mind a lot lately, and I totally agree with you, it is all about having balance. Because social media is great but I sometimes have to remind myself not to let it detract from my real life, I mostly wrote about that in my entry, and the amazing things social media can allow us to do!

    Anna xx ¦ The Girl In The Moon

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  13. I'm in the midst of a social media/existential crisis. I just put my blog on hold, deleted Facebook and am thinking about doing the same with instagram. I've come to the conclusion that the internet is making me boring! If that makes sense at all :)

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  14. I loved writing about this topic, and it's always so interesting to see whether other people consider socail media in their life to be a positive or negative aspect. Here's mine: http://everydayingrace.blogspot.ca/2014/04/journal-7-social-media-in-my-life.html

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  15. The idea of where social media is heading is so fascinating to me too.
    "I want to see that joy and struggle that is this human experience. But I want to always remember that this human experience isn’t found behind a computer screen."
    http://allstyleroutes.com/journal-day-7-apologist/

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  16. This topic is such an coincidence, as only posted a similiar post on my sewing blog.

    This is my link though to this weeks Journal day post:

    "The article was called "The pointlessness of unplugging" and can be found here and made reference to an American non for profit organisation Reboot and how they called for us to unplug and to embrace the ancient ritual of a day of rest. The author of the article went on to say what is the point of this and I agree. I urge you to read this article as it is very interesting and will put this post into context."

    http://in-my-backyard.net/2014/journal-day-prompt-7/

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  17. I definitely feel like social media has a lot of pros and cons.

    http://andwontonmakesthree.wordpress.com/2014/04/03/weekly-prompt-social-media/

    "Overall I’d say that social media in my life has been primarily positive, but I do see some negative effects as well. While it’s great to connect with other people, I find that it’s often hard to then disconnect."

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  18. I completely agree with social media making us lazy at keeping on top of our real life interactions.

    Gabi and I wrote on the topic this week!
    "For the most part, I would say that it's been quite beneficial in opening my eyes to new things, new people, and new places, but there are definitely improvements that could be made. I think that as social media has grown, we've lost sight of what it was supposed to do, which is to communicate and make connections. The lack of communication that is manifesting on social media is doing nothing more that secluding us from both real life interactions and online interactions."

    http://www.withwanderlust.com/2014/04/journal-day-07.html

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  19. I'm really enjoying sitting down & thinking about these prompts every week. Even when I've been a few days behind the last few posts, it's been great. I've also really enjoyed reading yours & others responses! Keep it up! Here's mine this week:

    "Oh, social media. I feel like this topic comes up often in conversation. I use many different forms of it often: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter. I was one of the first of my friends to get a Facebook account, after the American friends I met in France insisted I join so we could easily keep in touch. I think I jumped on the Twitter bandwagon in 2008 & I joined Instagram a few year later when I finally got an iPhone."

    http://whoalansi.blogspot.ca/2014/04/journal-day-seven.html

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  20. I'm a terrible procrastinator, and social media is such an enabler for me. This prompt provoked real change in me - thanks for that!

    Here's a bit from my post: "I'm not giving up on social media of course, but I'm definitely changing my homepage."

    Read the rest here: http://paganwalk.blogspot.com/2014/04/journal-day-social-media.html

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  21. I feel the same way! At times I think back to the way that it used to be, with no smartphones and constant updates. And I even miss just being able to talk on the phone with all of my friends and family.

    In addition to that, social media allows us to have a lot of outsiders in our life as well because there is no way that you can be good friends with all of your 500 facebook friends! Yet they get to see your photos, status updates and what have you.

    A little while ago I cut back on the amount of social media that I used. Now I just use Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest, I guess those are my go to places. But having all those social media apps in almost inevitable if you have an iPhone, iPad and so on.

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  22. I try to make social media a positive thing in my life, and ignore the negative.

    http://lifein2words.blogspot.com/2014/04/throwback-thursday-journal-7.html

    - sarah

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  23. Believe this or not I am a 34 year old and neither my husband nor I use social media. We have no facebook, twitter, instagram or blogs (though I love to read them) no myspace back in the day and I used friendster for about a month 12+ years ago. Here's the kicker, I don't even have a smartphone! I still call my friends and family if I want to know what's up. I don't really know at what point I became anti social media, but I don't care what my friends are doing at every second of the day and I don't think myself so important that people need to know my every thought or action. I text or call my friends and family in order to catch up and occasionally send a picture of my kids to them but that's as far as I go. I often wonder where so much sharing is going to lead.

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  24. I'm late to the party because I was on vacation but here are my thoughts! Great prompt! And I loved your response. I can so relate about the balance aspect.

    http://glassesandgrenades.blogspot.com/2014/04/journal-day-7-social-media.html

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  25. Eep! What day is it? I blame my cold ... sorry for being so late.

    "It all started in the days when MSN was "the" place to communicate with others. I was in Junior High when I was introduced to all the wonders of MSN Messenger, and soon it became the way to talk to my friends. I even had a few "pen pals" from my homeschooling program that I was able to keep in contact with way easier than actually writing a letter. At that age, it was the only source of social media that was known to me, but it was enough. I love communicating over the internet. So much better than using a telephone. It was easy. I could take the time to put down in words exactly what was on my mind instead of rambling in real life. I found that those who I chatted with became alive over instant messaging. I knew a couple of really shy, socially awkward (hey, I was one of them) people, and a soon as we had this computer to hide behind, but the opportunity to say something in a safe place, we became alive. Able to share our passions, thoughts & our hearts in words that we only dreamed to speak. I may sound silly, but as a major introvert, MSN was a blessing to me."

    theknottedhome.blogspot.ca

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  26. This is possibly a slight tangent, but something that I've talked about with friends and that makes me kind of sad is, kids don't pass notes anymore! Now they can just text/snapchat/etc. My friends and I had the chain notes, where you'd cross of your name once you read it and pass it on to the next person ... I have a box full of notes from my friends from middle school and high school. It's nice to me to keep those tangible memories, and makes me a little bit sad that kids today won't have that.

    Also, thank god I didn't have as much social media access when I was in high school. :) We had AIM and LiveJournal. I'm pretty sure I'd be mortified (now) if I had Instagram at that age!

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  27. This is possibly a slight tangent, but something that I've talked about with friends and that makes me kind of sad is, kids don't pass notes anymore! Now they can just text/snapchat/etc. My friends and I had the chain notes, where you'd cross of your name once you read it and pass it on to the next person ... I have a box full of notes from my friends from middle school and high school. It's nice to me to keep those tangible memories, and makes me a little bit sad that kids today won't have that.

    Also, thank god I didn't have as much social media access when I was in high school. :) We had AIM and LiveJournal. I'm pretty sure I'd be mortified (now) if I had Instagram at that age!

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