Tuesday, January 16, 2018

A Letter to You, By Plane


Dear Friend,

This feels like a special year. Do you feel it? I don’t know what it is- maybe it’s because this past year has been so weird, but it’s so welcome to move into the new. It’s weird for me right now- ­there is a lot going on in my world both good and bad, but regardless I have a majorly hopeful feeling. I’m grateful for that. I’m on the plane right now, flying home from a quick turn around trip to LA for Ergobaby planning for 2018. It was a good trip- the day went by far too quickly but we got some good ideas going for all the new products launching this year and I’m looking forward to so much. Work has been ramping up and it’s exciting. To update you, I’m still working with Ergobaby, creating content for them. This year we’re focusing more on video so that’s where a lot of my time goes- YouTube, IG Stories, etc. I also handle all the social media and content for Veer, a startup (we launched this summer). If you haven’t checked them out make sure to pop over to their website. They’re one of the most well-made kid/baby products I’ve ever used. And then I also work with my friend Nicole at her agency Daley PR out of the Bay area, alongside our friend Lauren- we handle Veer’s PR, Ergobaby’s PR, , Plum Organics, Willow (social + PR- launching SO soon), and Owlet. So much fun right? I feel thankful everyday I’m able to do the work I do.

I get a lot of questions about my career progression- how did I end up here? It’s a windy road, but I started blogging in the very early days. My undergrad is in English Lit, and my Master’s is in Education so I've always been writing focused in some way. When I was a high school English teacher I continued to blog, and when I decided to stay home with Henry I focused more on writing in my blog and sharing on social media. I was able to make a great living from it (sadly, much better than my teacher’s salary). But I also recognized that I wouldn’t always want to focus everything on my own family, so when Ergobaby asked if I could help them with their social media a few hours a week I jumped at the chance. From there a few hours became many, and then over the past few years that’s turned into all sorts of other opportunities. It was such a natural transition, and now I can’t imagine doing anything else. I LOVE what I do, and I feel inspired every single day being around so many amazing women and mothers.

But enough about work! I wanted to also share an update about life in general. All is well in our world. My Dad is doing okay. If you’ve been following along you may know he's very sick- lung and an aggressive liver cancer. He had been in the ICU right before Christmas due to a chemo-induced stroke but was able to go home on Christmas day, which was amazing. It’s an odd thing to accept- that there aren’t any more treatments to do, nothing to "heal," and that we are just taking it day by day. More than anything we are hoping for more time. I think back a lot to our recent trip to New Jersey this past summer. He was feeling so great and we were able to spend so much quality time together. The boys and my Dad would walk the beach every morning filling plastic buckets up with shells, I would sit next to him on the warm sand in the sunny afternoons and talk about all sorts of things, we’d spend evenings eating our favorite foods and laughing as we walked along the boardwalk. It was an incredibly special time that I will always hold in my heart.

The boys and Olive are doing great. 7, 4, and 10 months. It’s so funny- Hank and I were just talking about even though we LOVE the baby age, Henry’s age is the absolute best. It’s so fun being able to have great conversations, do things with him as a big kid, it’s just the coolest. Charlie’s at the challenging age of 4 (it was equally challenging with Henry at this age!). He’s at the point where if things don't line up to his plan or go exactly how he wants there's a meltdown. Hank is coaching both of the boys’ basketball teams and he had Charlie’s practice tonight. Our babysitter watched Olive at home and he brought both the boys. Before my plane took off I got to chat with him for a second and ask how it went. He let me know Charlie ended up having a mini meltdown because he didn’t like the team name they chose. Instead of the Green Geckos he wanted to be the Green Bay Packers and was not having the Gecko thing. This is four. ;) But really, I can see exactly WHY he is acting this way. He just wants more love and attention, and as the new middle child he’s trying to assert himself wherever and whenever he can. And understandably so! He is such a love of a child and I know we will grow out of this phase (grateful to have already gone through it with H), but man it’s rough some days. I’m just trying to focus on not adding to the chaos when he’s having a hard time- remaining calm, offering solutions for him calming down, etc. Easier said than done right? Outside of that our sweet Charlie is getting so big- he still loves monster trucks and all things vehicles, but is also super into sports and being outside in the dirt! I’d say the thing he loves the most though, is art. He’s an amazing artist (I should share some of his creations here) and everyday he spends time drawing. It's very cool to watch him progress more and more as he practices.

Olive girl is in that incredibly sweet spot where she’s beginning to really show her personality. She’s just beginning to crawl on her hands and knees (up until recently she was doing a modified army crawl) and is starting to get really fast. She’s talking non-stop, and her favorite thing to do is wave hello. I love this age. I would say at this point she is a little slower than the boys physically- I think both may have been close to walking at this age, but one of the truly wonderful things about parenthood a third time around is the laid-backness I feel. What a welcome change! My friend Cas recently shared a story of her baby daughter with the caption “too chill for milestones.” That’s so Olive! Haha. As far as sleeping she’s sleeping through the night in her crib. I feel like it took her a little longer than the boys to achieve this also, but it is SO great that she’s there. I feel human again! The transition from Dockatot to crib was seamless, which shocked me. I was super worried it would be the opposite so that was a pleasant surprise. She’s taking two naps a day, and seems to follow in the footsteps of Henry, who always was a great sleeper and loved to sleep as much as possible. We recently weaned, which was bittersweet for me, but we’re both doing great. One NOT so sweet thing is my terrible hormonal acne! It’s starting to clear up now but just like with the boys, my skin went crazy post-nursing. I have a long way to go to get back to my glowing, clear skin but I’m just trying to be patient as my hormones regulate- and also remind myself it’s never as bad as I think it is. Although it is actually really bad. ;)

And of course, Henry! Our big 7 year old has turned into one tall boy! Henry is loving sports, and each season looks forward to what’s next. We just finished soccer and are in basketball now. Then it’s baseball and onto flag football for the first time. One of the things I love most about being a Mom is going to their practices and games so I’m glad he loves it too. ;) Outside of sports Henry’s major interest is reading. He LOVES books. It’s been one of the biggest joys of my life watching him discover reading on such a deep level and every single night he’s in his bed reading chapter after chapter. Right now he's into Harry Potter which is AWESOME! His whole world has come alive with reading and it’s the coolest thing ever. Like I mentioned above, this age is so much fun.

Does this update feel like you’re reading a letter from a friend? It does to me. It makes me so happy to share here. I hope wherever you are, or whatever you’re doing, you’re having a great day. I am so looking forward to this year and sharing more. Thanks for being here, and for making it to the end of this long post!

xoxo,
Dani

10 comments:

  1. Thank you ! What a wonderful letter. After following you for so long it did feel like a letter from a friend, getting caught up. It's such a pleasure to follow your blog because it is so open and honest. Here's to 2018, a special year!

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    1. Aww yay! :) Thank you for reading- and happy 2018!

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  2. Thank you for sharing this with us. It's so nice to read about the great, and not so great sides of other peoples lives. We are all living in the real world, and its nice to be gently reminded by that with these sorts of posts. I agree with you, 2018 is going to be an awesome year!

    - Lucy

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  3. Hello friend,
    It does indeed feel like a letter from an old friend, as I've been reading your blog for 8 years or so. Before kids. I'm a librarian with tattoos and stumbled across your blog with school and tattoos as key words! Ha! I am glad you wrote this. I have a 5 month old and my dad is also fighting cancer. It is such a strange place, to be happy and sad and hopeful and excited all at the same time.

    Sending warm thoughts your way,
    Jen

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    1. Hey Jen,

      First of all, thank you for reading for so long! That is amazing. :)
      But more importantly, I am so sorry about your Dad. That breaks my heart to know you can relate. Sending you all of my love.

      xoxo
      Dani

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  4. What age did Henry start cooling down? haha! We are in that tough Charlie age with our oldest, and man. It really is challenging. Glad there should be a light at the end of the tunnel!

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    1. Hey Kari!

      Oh man, I feel you. I think it honestly wasn't until like 6 years old! But maybe yours will cool sooner. Parenting is so so hard.

      Thanks for reading, lady!
      xoxo
      D.

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  5. This was a lovely update, Danielle! Thank you for sharing. :)

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    1. Thank you so much for coming by, reading, AND taking the time to leave a comment! :) I really appreciate it.

      xoxo

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